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I need help. If you have a really good friend and she thinks she has a good relationship but you know her husband doesn’t feel the same...do you tell her? and not even to tell her about him but about what you see from the outside looking in? I pride myself on being totally honest yet if she thinks she has a good relationship who am I to say anything... even if I know he thinks different...What would you do?




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      Trishski wrote Feb 23, 2012
    • I’m sure you feel torn, because you love your friend, and don’t want to see her get hurt.  I can’t see anything good coming out of you being the one to tell her how her husband feels.  He needs to be the one to do that, and if he’s not ready, I don’t think you should push him to do it.  Chances are good that your friend will resent you a little for saying something, even if deep down, she’s knows you‘re right.  If he’s really unhappy (and this is not just a bump in the road), he will eventually want out, and let her know.  My advice is to just continue to be there for her as she and her husband figure things out.  Girlfriends are the best listeners, and the most trusted support groups.




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      Diane17 wrote Feb 23, 2012
    • I agree with Trishski.  I personally wouldn’t say anything to her.




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      Marion Licchiello wrote Feb 24, 2012
    • Okay ladies.. that’s how I felt too but I wanted to be sure I was right as a woman...LOL and friend...  xxoo to all of you!!!! I know I’d want to be told at this point in my life but most are different than me so thank you so very much!




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      Mary Clark wrote Feb 24, 2012
    • I’ll add my two cents.  

      Stay out of it!  You are not a player in that game...therefore...don’t get involved. Everyone is responsible for their own stuff.  You take care of yours and let other people take care of theirs.  

      Now if she ASKS you for advice or your opinion then you can let her know that “you really do not know and that she has to make that determination about her own relationship“. You can give advice but don’t get too involved.




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      Tuliplady wrote Feb 25, 2012
    • Stay out of it! If she thinks she has a good relationship, she’s not likely to listen to you anyway.




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      Leeann wrote Feb 28, 2012
    • I wondering how do you know her husband doesn’t feel the same?




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      Sarah Hall wrote Mar 4, 2012
    • I used to be honest with someone I considered my best friend then I told her how I felt about something last year she and I have not seen or spoken and only rarely text or email since.  She did decide I should be told she’s got engaged although they do not know when they will marry.  I have not heard from her since.  I would like to tell her not to marry him as he is a proved liar but we would never be in contact again so I will keep quiet.  So personnally I have decided silence is best for everyone.




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