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I’m really upset right now and need to vent a little bit.  My friend who I’ve known 20 years had her daughter baptized and I wasn’t invited.  I know this because she posted the baptism pics all over FB.  I invited her to my kids’ baptisms and am really insulted that she didn’t invite me to her daughter’s baptism.  Furthermore, the last couple times I called her, she didn’t return my phone calls.  Actually she NEVER calls me anyway.  I’m thinking about just terminating this friendship because it seems to me she just doesn’t make much of an effort anyways and I’m the one who’s always initiating contact.  :(




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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 3, 2012
    • Clearly you aren’t that important to her.  I would just let it slide and stop contacting her.

      Tulip




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      Marya1961 wrote Mar 3, 2012
    • Dump her!!  God knows I have had similar situations and to avoid stress on me, I say bye-bye.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Mar 3, 2012
    • One sided friendships are hurtful and often times just exhausting. If there’s an opportunity to speak with her about it in the future it may make you feel better about the situation but it’s probably best to discard the friendship.




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      Nathalie Marchal wrote Mar 3, 2012
    • I agree with the ladies’ above’s comments: life is too short for one sided friendships.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 4, 2012
    • I would just cool things off a bit. It coulld be a few things... Knows she can count on you so she makes no effort, she doesn’t know how to prioritize her time, or whatever. I wouldn’t write her off but I also wouldn’t make the effort either. As with all things in life if it’s meant to be then it will happen.

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      Anonymous wrote Mar 4, 2012
    • Thanks ladies for your advice.  My hubby says sometimes friends just drift away.  I have no plans to contact her.  As I mentioned before, I have already called her a few times and she hasn’t returned my calls.  So I’m not going to through that again.  I’m sure she will call eventually, like months later, (it’s already been a few months since we’ve talked) and who knows, I might not return her call.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 4, 2012
    • I agree with all the comments above.




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      Rosepath wrote Mar 4, 2012
    • I agree with all of the above.I too was in that kind of one sided friendship. It just stressed me out. I removed her from my Facebook and now I have no clue what she is up to. I am much better off.




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      Marcialyn wrote Mar 18, 2012
    • Thanks for your post.  I too have had a very similar experience.  My very dear friend of 20 years has hurt me deeply and I’m not sure what to do about it.  Back in August, I had some painful health problems and called her and left messages to please call me.  I just couldn’t believe she never returned my calls.  It really hurt.
      Last Friday,  I had the good fortune of getting two free tickets to the Tony award winning musical “Memphis.”  I emailed her about going because we both love the theatre.  I never heard back from her.  I thought that was so rude.

      When we do finally get together we have a wonderful time.  But I get so tired of the inconsiderate way in which she fails to respect the friendship.  I get so tired of the one-sided nature of it.  I have to initiate everything and it really makes you feel like the person doesn’t really care about you.  Life is full of hurtful people and situations and I don’t think a friendship should hurt you.  just the opposite.




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      Beverly321 wrote Jul 16, 2012
    • I also have had problems with people who were friends one day and then something mysteriously happen and the relationship was over.  It hurts. It hurts a lot! But we have to go on and that’s why sites like this exist so we can connect with other woman and share.  Meeting new people and making new friends is something I’m striving to do.  So here I am.  Anyone else interested?




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      Nathalie Marchal wrote Jul 16, 2012
    • i’m always interested in making new positive friendships! heart




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      Jenniwren wrote Jul 21, 2012
    • I have both dealt with this before and dealt it out...Who knows why she did what she did, perhaps you had unintentionally offended her, and she has put some distance between you because she is upset?  You could always ask her when next you talk...  I would never say to write anyone off, because until you walk a mile in their shoes, you never know what they are thinking, going through, etc.  The good book says not to put faith in people, because they will always, or eventually let you down.  Friends may come and go.  All we have is now and be blessed with the time we were given!!!   I know it hurts, but don’t hinge your happiness on the timing of others!!!  :)




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