I’ve been put in the position of Mother to my 9 month old Grand son. I love this child whole heartedly, but this is just killing me. I sort of feel as if my life is ending. Is this normal?
I’m sure it is a normal way to feel in the beginning. But hopefully in time you will feel blessed to be able to raise him. I love my grandson with everything in me. I would never ever want anything to happen to his parents to cause me to have to raise him but if something did, I would feel blessed to have him in my life everyday. Just make the best of it.
Your life as you knew it is ending, so it seems pretty natural for you to feel that way. Taking on a baby is HUGE and life changing.
Remember being a new mom? And you felt like your life would never be your own anymore? I would guess you‘re going thru some version of that now.
My stepdaughter gave up raising her daughter over a year ago. She’s going to be 7 this summer and her grandother is raising her. It’s a huge job! We’ve been helping as much as we can. Actually between she and us, we’ve all raised our granddaughter since she was a toddler because her mom was so incapable. It’s been hard and we‘re not as young as we used to be so the amount of energy it takes is mind boggling but love, togetherness and prayer has gotten us through. We just keep reminding ourselves she didn’t ask for all of this, she depends on us. But I completely understand how you‘re feeling.
Life changes certainly cause a bevy of emotions. I pray your adjustment is swift. You will reap many rewards for the IMPORTANT ROLE you are playing in your grandchild’s life.
May God bless you abundantly.
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I’m sure you are feeling like your life is ending. As others before said...it’s life changing. Just like starting over. i know this is something you never thought you would be doing. I understand that completely. I’m going through some stuff that I never in a million years thought I would be going through but guess what. Life happens....things change....and we just have to deal with it.
My suggestion is to TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME....PRAY....and remember...your grandchild didn’t ask for any of this! Your grandson is not a player in the game. Just remember....it could be worse. Turn your situation around and find the “joy” in what you‘re having to do. Look for the positive. The negative of the whole situation will bring you down...and you really can’t afford that!
Best of luck...and know that I admire you for taking it on....
Your grandson is so lucky to have YOU!