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Ladies, I need some opinions/advice. I’ve got a 19 yr old daughter, living with a 35 yr old boyfriend. She quit her good job here to go move in with him. Now she can’t find another job. Unemployed, spent all her savings, can’t make her car payment, etc etc
Boyfriend a control freak loser.... old story, just new to me cuz it’s my kid.
If this was your daughter would you wait it out and hope she comes to her senses or go basically kidnap her and bring her home????
I am praying for you, Tulip, because I don’t have any suggestions.
Tulip .....
The more you point out his faults and shortcoming the more this 19yr old will dig in deep honey - the known follies of youth - so best plan of action is smile and stay silent and smile some more but also don’t make her feel uncomfortable say she can come back when she wants - maybe she knows she is with a loser but doesn’t want to lose face as she has basically given everything up for him - so just hang tight - remember the darkest moment is before the dawn
I will hold you in my thoughts and prayers but hang in there 
I would want to kidnap her and bring her home. Will be praying for you both.
Lots of prayers to both of you.
A very tough situation, but as long as there is nothing troubling going on for her in a bad way, she will find another job, will pay her bills, etc..just tell her your door is always open and you will welcome her with open arms.
I agree with the above ladies. Sending positive thoughts your way.
19 hummmmmmmmm still not ready for the world and all of its ups and downs I would be on the 1st boat headed that way and go scoop her up and have a heart to heart with her this guy needs to see as well as know that her family is there for her to support her and her only! She is apparently seeking something from this guy she feels she wasn’t getting from home or from her dad, yesssssssss go get your baby and help her back to reality! My prayers are with you my friend.
"As you open the door to new relationships and remove the chain from your own fears, God will overwhelm you with new splendor."
Thank you ladies for the moral support and prayers!!! I can’t begin to say how much I appreciate it.
I am able to look at things more calmly today. Ace and I will be going down there (halfway across the state) on Sunday for a little visit/girls day out. We have love, hope and bribery up our sleeves, and if that doesn’t work, we‘re prepared to bring in her dad and do the hauling her back kicking and screaming thing.
Unfortunately, she hasn’t got much chance of a job in the small town she’s living in. She’s not “from there” and therefore doors are closed to her. Even if she can get a job, she’s so far behind on bills, there’s no catching up and it sounds as though her boyfriend has blown all the money she had, which was quite a bit.
I’m the co-signer on her car loan. If she doesn’t make the payments, they‘re coming after me too and my good credit is going to take a big hit.
She’s been friends with her BFF since they were one year old. Literally all their lives. The boyfriend has forbidden the BFF from setting foot on his property. Say what????? That makes TWO of my babies he’s disrespecting!!!!
Tulip
Oh my, sounds like the begining of a domestic violence ... I will be praying for you all. There is some good advice on this thread. 
Tulip, SAVE YOUR DAUGHTER! She’s so young and needs your guidance. This situation sounds like a storm is brewing and ready to explode!
You are in my prayers for a peaceful reunion with YOUR DAUGHTER.
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Although I’d want to “save her“, I don’t see how she can ever learn from her foolish choices if she never experiences their consequences.
That said, however, you did co-sign the car loan & it looks like you‘re going to be on the hook for it. Perhaps you can use that as leverage to get her out? That way, you are still holding her accountable for her actions, but also providing a means of escape.
I have an 18 yr.
old about to graduate high school, i think at 19 there at the age where they can pretty much do what they want even if we as parents don’t approve. I would wait it out, good luck!
I’m cautiously optomistic. Ace texted me and said Gracie will be home tomight. Claims she had a text from her at noon saying she’d be leaving in 15 min. So she should be here soon.
I’m NOT getting my hopes up, but maybe our prayers have been answered.
Tulip
TL one of the things I love MOST about Fab40 is the love, support and prayers you get when you bring up concerns.
TL I did see your update and I am being hopeful that things will be ok.
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I read your update and was not aware of everything else going on..in that case, it sounds like she would be much better off without this guy and back on her home turf.
Still saying prayers!
go get her bring her home, perhaps think about a restraining order near future...dont do anything alone, have company and like minded caring people.
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