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I’ve been raised to think you are what you do. No career means being nobody. Yet lately I’ve been confronted a lot about this issue. I wanted to start a business selling honey, gingerbread and jam that I make. Doing a timetable, I figured out I would be working around 60 to 70 hours a week -up to 90 during summer, just to make barely make minimum wage. This discouraged me. I want to bake and sell, but not at that rate. I still want to grow a garden, play with my cats, enjoy the company of horses, go hiking or just lay in the sun with a book once in a while. But no matter how I look upon it, in order to be profitable, a business emplies that I must spend most of my time at it.
I could also choose to live a simpler life, with no luxuries but time. This way I could sell at a rate that suits me and go work as an employee a few months when money is scarse. Simple, yet my education screams:” What about your career? You are no one and not worthy if you do not persue a fulfilling job.”
I have also pondered that thought, but feel very complete with my present situation. If you think about it, women have brought a lot upon themselves. Way back when we wanted equality with men, therefore it has become the norm for women to expect a lot from themselves and the simpler way of life is just not acceptable. Men, now, have also come to expect a lot from us women which means not only being a homemaker but a breadwinner too.
That does not mean that all women feel that way and I do not mean to imply anything against anyone, but realistically from what I observe, it is not very easy for most women today, so if you can take things slowly, by all means, go for it!![]()
I’ve worked since I was 13. I’m now 51 and getting tired of working outside the home.
Well, it’s true you are what you do, but that doesn’t mean you have to “do” a career.
My closest friends will tell you I am phenomenally creative, bright, talented and hard working. I help little old ladies so they can stay in their own homes just a little longer. I serve my community, I’m a handyman, I keep my bills paid. I “do” a LOT, but I have no career.
The only career I think any woman should aspire to is being the best and happiest she can be. If making jam makes you happy, then do it!
Tulip
After reading your explanation, I see that what you want is a balanced life. Same here! Honestly, I think I’d shrivel up & die if I didn’t work, but work isn’t the be-all & end-all for me. There are so many other things I like to do!
For me personally, a career is important. I put a lot of effort, time, and money into my education because I wanted a good career. But for me, family is first and the job second.
Teaching children for 32 years was an extremely important and rewarding career for me. My career came at no small cost. It was God-inspired and commissioned. I felt totally complete and very useful.
After being retired for nearly 3 years, I feel very useful and complete as a homemaker, wife, mother and daughter. I am also a caregiver for family members. I enjoy numerous activities and the freedom that retirement offers. For I know, that this is my calling at this season in my life.
I feel so blessed to have experienced the joy of having a career and now a fulfilling retirement.
An act of kindness is a gift given
Butterflyrose
#enjoylife
I really want a balanced life too, I want to do what I enjoy. I am really enjoying my career in construction and development
whatever your choice may be remind yourself this
its ok and so are you
the situation is emotionally rewarding
and finally you can always change your mind, no embarassment in that. all a learning curve , you make the rules and do not be too hard on yourself.