talk to her and your close friends. find out which of them have a similar situation like your mum. talk to them about what you are going through. maybe suggest they all come over for tea and cake and in this casual, friendly atmosphere bring up your mums situation but do it in such a way that its like casual conversation without your mum in it. your mum is so so deeply fortunate to have a man as your dad who loves, understands and accepts her. he is not less of a man if he seeks help.
this is a tough one, Tulip. My mother is very high strung, worries constantly, is very tense and could definitely use a tranquilizer or some type of mood calming med. But, alas, she’s always been this way and is not likely to change any time soon. We’ve all just accepted her behavior and do our best to not rock the boat. My dad was very patient and loving and kind. The man was a prince of a guy. He died of cancer 20 years ago but had always loved my mom and accepted her as she was. She was a very lucky woman.
Sometimes I just wonder if some people are simply a type A personality and there’s nothing anyone can do to remedy that. Don’t know if this applies to your mom. I’m only speaking from my own situation.
Cynthia, your mom sounds a lot like mine. I’ve always accepted her as she is, but after this weekend, I realize her worrying and negativity are affecting her health and our family. She had herself so worked up she couldn’t even enjoy a trip to visit her only sister.
I can also relate as my mom is a nervous person, but I think as women get older, many of them show these signs. I don’t think it is uncommon. I am a lot like my mom, which is one of the reasons for meds. If you and your family can learn to be calming and gentle to her, if she refuses meds, then at least you all will know what to say and not to say to trigger upsets in her...trust me, I know!