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I just need to vent so bear with me.  I have a 4.5 year old boy who refuses to poop in the potty.  He keeps pooping in his underwear and it’s disgusting to clean up.  He only got #1 down about a month ago and he still has accidents from time to time.  I’m wondering if I just should put him back in pullups so I don’t have to deal with the underwear accidents but am afraid he will regress.  I thought Kyle was bad who was not potty trained until after his 4th birthday but once he was potty trained that was it!  He didn’t have any more accidents.  I feel like a failure as a mother. :(




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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 29, 2012
    • heart Don’t feel like a failure.  Some kids are just harder than others.  They have their own time schedule for these things.  I had a daughter who was that way.   I wish I had some wise words for you, but I don’t think I do.

      Seems to me we resorted to bribery.  I bought her some very nice stickers that she liked and she got to stick one on the door of the frig every time she did #2 in the toilet.  So many days in a row and she got a special treat or something.  I don’t remember for sure how well this worked (it was 20 some years ago after all).




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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 29, 2012
    • Have you discussed this with your pediatrician? Could their be something medically wrong?  But still I would speak to a doctor just to make sure.  

      I wish I could give you some miracle advice but I really don’t know what to tell you.
      I’m like Tulip...“bribery“????LOL
      Would that work?  I would think at 4 he might get embarrassed if he smelled in front of friends etc.  Maybe you should just let him sit in it...I know it might be disgusting...but I would think eventually he would get tired of it himself.  frown




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      Nita P wrote Nov 29, 2012
    • with my children i made them go to the toilet from about 2.5 regularly.  it was to get them to feel comfortable with being in the toilet.  i would be there with them talking and laughing making it a relaxing kind of game.  even if nothing happened i still made them sit.  they got there eventually and for them it was something they were proud to tell relatives, and to show others they no longer needed nappies.  you are not a failure...




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      Mz. Queen wrote Nov 29, 2012
    • You are an awesome mother! All children have different levels of maturity and different learning styles. It’s okay to start over. If cleaning up after accidents frustrates you it’s a win, win situation if you put your son back in pull ups. Something will happen that will encourage him to make it to the potty. Does he have a favorite cartoon character, if so buy big boy underpants that will encourage him. Cheer his smallest accomplishments. Be encouraged.




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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 30, 2012
    • I agree with Mz. Queen, things take time and potty training is one of them.  Have you tried a small potty chair on each level of your home in the bathroom?  Sometimes the little potty chair is less scary than the big toilet...some kids think they may fall in.  The pull-ups are a great idea too, it does give some kids that encouragement.happy




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