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Two part question:  in school, were you the bully or the bullied?  If you could go back in time to that stage of your life but be your present age, would you apologize or exact revenge?

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      Inakika wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • In grade school I was really bullied. I was the nerdy, smart, tall, flat chested girl. It got so bad that I started ditching school just to avoid the craziness. A few years later we moved from Chicago to California and I finally found peace.

      In a small way I did get a little revenge. When I was 18, I went back to Chicago to visit my best friend. Of course, none of my former tormentors recognized me. One of them tried so hard to pick me up, but I played coy. One day I asked him about Imma-grits (the name they called me in grade school) He laughed and said “Yeah, what about her“? I then told him that it was me. The look on his face was priceless. He was tripping and falling all over himself, but I just laughed and walked away. It felt really good.




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      Inakika wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Thank you Teeky! It took me a long time to get myself together after the Chicago incident. My self esteem was so low, I always doubted myself.
      When my kids were young, if anyone so much as looked at them crazy, I would get fired up! I never felt that my mom protected me and I did not want my boys to feel that way.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Hopefully, Teek, you had that bookbag full o’ Kotex when you carried her!

      I was bullied, I mean to the point of physical assault-by boys. No school would put up with it these days.




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      Psalmist wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • cindy??? what???  wow!  you‘re right, no school would put up with that, in fact those boys might be dead after trying something like that today.

      now after that reaction, happy i was also the bullied with physical assault as well, to the point that i still have ringing in my right ear from my tormentor, a boy in 2nd grade, punching me in it.  but i got my revenge back then, or at least my mother did.  to this day, i don’t know what she did, but that boy never bothered me again.

      i’m trying to think that if i went back i would be the “mature adult” and let it go, but just remembering that little boy now and i just want to go back and seriously “jack him up.”




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      Inakika wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Lou, it was mostly boys that bullied me too! The girls did for a minute, but the boys kept it up through out the school year. Talk about miserable.




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      Psalmist wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • ingrid the proverbial "they" say that the best revenge is  to be a success, and that story sure proves it.  score another for the sister! yeah!




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • In school I wouldn’t necessarily say I was a bully I just didn’t take no stuff off people and wasn’t afraid to fight anyone not even a boy. I wasn’t bullied or was I a bully and if I could go back I’d be the same as then. Takin’ NO sh**!!




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      Psalmist wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • monnalissa, my heroine, or should we call you “la zorra?” you go girl!




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      Jenni0811 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I must have more like BB....sort of flew under the radar, not causing much commotion. I always had one or two “best friends” and a host of casual friends belonging to all groups represented. Also, being primarily shy, I veered away from trouble when I saw it headed my way! I have become much bolder and confident as my adult years go on - more likely to be the one to stand strong on the path of defiance. I have experienced what Ingrid has, my child/high school friends do not recognize the “me” I am today.




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Ingrid good for you when you went back to Chicago.

      I was neither similar to BB.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Yeah, I moved to another city in 4th grade, and went from being one of the most liked to the most picked-on. One incident that really stuck with me is being “felt-up” by several boys when were were playing with the parachute in gym class. Our teacher had the bright idea of turning out the lights, and immediately I felt several pairs of hands on my chest. The girls all said I brought it on myself. How? By developing. Several kids thought this incident was funny enough to keep bringing it up in later years.




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      Mztracy wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Let’s just say being taller than even the male teachers by 4th grade, I was daily messed with.

      In the 4th grade this one girl would hit on me, spit on me, pull chairs out from under me, etc. Iwas taught to turn the other cheek. I had a group of good friends, but no one tough enough to defend me.  

      At the end of the year she jumped on me and knocked me to the ground. As usual I said R*** stop it, and she would say gonna make me. Well...the next thing I remember she was holding her stomach running to the office. John, the cutie came up to me and held my arm up and cheered.  

      She got suspended and my teacher said she was so glad to see me defend myself, finally.

      Even still, I was still bullied as I did not want to be like them.

      But, After all this, i think it is why now I will never back down again. Mess with me or my family or my friends you had better look out!! tongue out




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I like that image, Teeky, a big mouse mattress taped up on some whupped child’s lip!estatic




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      Jenni0811 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Tracy ~ How tall are you??




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      Karyn Olson wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Sadly to say that I was bullied...it was more racial than anything...by boys...never the girls...I actually think the boys were jealous of me for some reason...not sure why though...Maybe cause I got along with all the girls...lol but I fought back...didn’t matter if I got a bloody nose or not...guess it is just my nature...I didn’t go looking for it...but if it came to me and I am backed in a corner I did not back down...something that I carried on with me today...




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      Cheryl Guy wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Neither for me. I was always taught to turn the other cheek but never quite agreed with my mom’s philosophy. If anyone made an attempt to start trouble with me I quickly let them know that I would be happy to beat their butt. I hated the bullies & let them know it. It’s a good thing that I’ve always been a good talker because they all walked away. I probably would have been the one getting their butt kicked!!!!




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      Lorilyn wrote Jan 5, 2009
    • I was bullied a few times.The first one was a girl who was a year older (grades 3/4?) I finally had enough and smacked her to the ground. She and her posse never bothered me again. In 5th grade a boy followed my after school and literally kicked me in the behind.I pleaded with his older sister to stop him,but she just kept walking. He eventually stopped.Another girl tried picking a fight with me,I stood up to her and we started throwing our fists but it was more silliness than anything.I stopped and said it was a stupid fight and I never even liked her boyfriend.I called it a draw but she still brags that she kicked my butt.Hah.
      I taught my girls to be meek,but to stand up for themselves.
      My son,who is 3 already shows signs of being a bully.I am trying hard to help him learn restraint and to be active in other ways.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Jan 5, 2009
    • I neither got bullied or bullied anyone. I just kind of skated alone.
      Like BB, I kind of stayed under the radar.




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