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My husband hasn’t lived in the house since august and i’ve been trying to refinance to get it in just my name but have had some problems with the market slump. He still has belongings here and half the garage is his work stuff. Do i have to wait until his name is off and we are officially divorced to get the key and garage opener back?  He still comes here to pick something up and uses the fax machine when i’m not here but he calls before he comes.

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      Maria Louise Van Deuson wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I don’t know the laws where you live. I think legally, if he’s still paying for the house, his name is still on the note etc. maybe you can be nice about him using the fax etc. If he’s not legally on the house any longer, then his stuff should go and you should change the locks.




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      Jennifer Stewart wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • He hasn’t paid the mortgage since before he moved out in august or anything else for that matter.  His name is still on the deed until we are divorced which hopefully will be in the next month.  We have been on good terms with eachohter about it, but i just don’t like him being here when i’m not home.  He doesn’t live here and shouldn’t have free reign.




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I’m not sure either. You may want to check with your lawyer on that one.




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      Jenni0811 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Are you allowed to enter and leave his place at will? Since you have only a month to go, it might be best to keep the peace. If you don’t want him in, change the locks.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all with him coming in and out whenever.
      If he moved out willingly, I would think you should at least be able to change the locks.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • My husband hasn't lived in the house since august and i've been trying to refinance to get it in just my name but have had some problems with the market slump. Work with a good mortgage consultant

      He still has belongings here and half the garage is his work stuff. Do i have to wait until his name is off and we are officially divorced to get the key and garage opener back?  He still comes here to pick something up and uses the fax machine when i'm not here but he calls before he comes.  We have been on good terms with eachohter about it, but i just don't like him being here when i'm not home.  He doesn't live here and shouldn't have free reign.  Ask him to come when you only when you are around. Otherwise, just change the lock on front and garage. If you do not like him to have access to the garage, change the code as well. It is up to you and if you said you have a good relationship, perhaps you can speak of your reference.

      In my humble opinion




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      Saylor101 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Change the locks is my suggestion too - just right off the bat.  Tell him it’s just simple respect - he doesn’t help pay - he doesn’t come and go..... Period.

      Otherwise - aren’t there legalities re: changing the house note and all if you are in the middle of divorce?  Who gets it in the settlement?  Will someone owe equity?  Just curious.




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      Jenni0811 wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I like Tori’s idea:

      1. Give him the fax machine

      2. Change the locks




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I ditto’s Teeky’s suggestion. Just check with your lawyer to be sure. You want to cover all bases.




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      Jennifer Stewart wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • Well ladies the problem with the fax machine isn’t the machine, he doesn’t have a home phone line hooked up at his new place.  So basically i’m still paying for his stuff!!  I guess i need to have a talk with him about how i feel, but everytime i have him on the phone he tries to get off as fast as he can.  I’m not using a typical lawyer since we don’t have any children of our own involved so i’m just going through the free uaw legal services i get from work.  I feel like i’ve tried to be “nice” about everything and we’ve been in agreement on mostly everything, but i just don’t like him being here in the house   period!  If i would have been able to refi months ago (i’m now on my 4th try) then i would have already changed the locks and his stuff would have been out.




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      Becca wrote Jan 4, 2009
    • I’m not certain with the laws there, but here in PA, what you are trying to do is legal and yes - it can be done. As long as he will sign over the house to you, there shouldn’t be any problem with the transition.

      As your divorce lawyer on the particulars on these things, he/she could find this out for you easily.

      Good luck!
      Becca




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      Maria Louise Van Deuson wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • Do you have the LEGAL papers filed? Is the house yours? If the house is yours and his name is off the deed in 30 days. Be nice, but tell him you‘re changing the locks etc.




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