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Ok ladies help me out here my hubby and I are invited to a party coming up in a few weeks, it is a formal affair and we will be in a long gown /tux now we are suppose to be guest at this affair, but just yesterday I get this email and I’m somewhat peed by its contents I’m not one to be told what to do at your function when you never considered asking me prior to sending this please read and give your honest opinion, should I say something to her of just go with the flow? Okay Ladies,

The invitations are in the mail and I need all of you to be hostesses at the party (Jan 19th) . I will have table numbers on all the tables and a list with the guest names on it at the front table in the lobby. I need to have yall just direct them to the right tables and direct guest when dinner is being served. WE ARE GOING TO HAVE A BALL. My table is on the stage and you all (with spouses) will sit with me, Donovan, and the girls. This is fancy ladies so STRUT YOUR STUFF AND WEAR BLACK !!!!!!!!!! Shell, I need David Jr, Gina, I need Alfred Jr. and James, Tracey, you know I need Trev :) Denise, I need Bill to help keep an eye on the door. We will have security in the parking lot and inside.  

I will be in touch and I want to c u there !!!!!

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I understand your feelings. You want to enjoy the evening with your hubby being carefree and relaxed.  You really must follow your heart on this one.

Being a giver, you want to help and sometimes saying no can be difficult; yet, givers should also be respected But, remember if she’s a true friend, she’ll understand if you choose not to obligate yourself this time.

On the other hand, chalk it up to her ignorance that she didn’t consult with you first. If you hostess, you’ll really get that beautiful gown noticed, an opportunity to use your beautiful smile, bring  joy and laughter to others lives and know that the blessing will return.

It’s happened to me(chairing an event) and I did it and had a most enjoyable time! It was time-consuming, but for a worthy cause.


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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Tuliplady wrote Jan 1, 2013
    • It sounds like this person is a very disorganized twit.  But, I’d just smile and let it go.  It really doesn’t amount to much at all.




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      Nita P wrote Jan 1, 2013
    • neicy...at first i find this invite a bit hilarious, im a guest and i have to work for my meal so i hope the party better be good for all the work i now have to do... i do not want to get sweaty and bothered and who knows i do not want to work all night and miss out on fun...if u go u know u have to host if u dont go  do something special with your hubby in the outfits you intended to wear at this function....estaticohhhh




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 1, 2013
    • My first thought....... WOW!!!!!!!!!

      And then I thought about it. How good of a friend is this? I ask because my sisters and a few of my closest friends just expect me to be an assistant hostess. Knowing that these few expect that up front prepares me so no problem.

      Now if someone random just threw that at me I would be taken aback. Without any prior conversation asking if I would mind.... Yeah.... I do mind!!!!!!

      So here is where I would have to bit my tongue and go with the flow:
      I really wanted a dress up night with my hubz
      There were other people there I want to see
      I paid to attend (clothes, ticket, hotel, etc)

      Neicy good luck deciding what to do and how to handle. I’d love to know! More importantly tho I want to see the formals that you are thinking about wearing. And of course any pictures of the event itself with all the couples in their finery estatic




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 2, 2013
    • @vikki, this is the dress I’m wearing, but mine is black

      She never not once called me or my hubby and asked for our assistance, I’m not wanting to work at an event I was invited to, if I were asked ahead of time maybe.




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    • +1 votes vote up vote up

      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 2, 2013
    • The dress is beautiful!!!!

      I feel the same way as you frown




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      Marya1961 wrote Jan 3, 2013
    • Very odd..if it were me, no, I nor my hub would not be an usher or usherette unless it was previously talked about and we agreed to this.  A person does not send an invitation and expect this without prior communication with the other people involved.

      Your dress is gorgeous!estatic




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      Butterflyrose wrote Jan 3, 2013
    • I understand your feelings. You want to enjoy the evening with your hubby being carefree and relaxed.  You really must follow your heart on this one.

      Being a giver, you want to help and sometimes saying no can be difficult; yet, givers should also be respected But, remember if she’s a true friend, she’ll understand if you choose not to obligate yourself this time.

      On the other hand, chalk it up to her ignorance that she didn’t consult with you first. If you hostess, you’ll really get that beautiful gown noticed, an opportunity to use your beautiful smile, bring  joy and laughter to others lives and know that the blessing will return.

      It’s happened to me(chairing an event) and I did it and had a most enjoyable time! It was time-consuming, but for a worthy cause.




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