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Does anyone here have kids/grandkids with ADD/ADHD?


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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 1, 2013
    • That term seems to be so general as I see lots of people with attention problems and nobody slows down to comprehend anything, so I suppose if a person is actually tested and diagnosed and treated for that condition then it actually exists for them.

      Our son was diagnosed years ago with auditory difficulty with comprehension issues which in part was due to enlarged adenoids/tonsils and therefore affected his hearing and speech as an infant/toddler.  He did have everything removed when he was six years old, but still now as an adult has residual problems with attention/comprehension and really has to take his time to read things to understand it.  He was NEVER put on any drugs during his young years as I would not allow it, but rather worked with him, training him to take his time and ask to have things repeated if necessary.

      There are many people in this world that have this type of learning issue, but unfortunately the “majority” don’t care to respond to their needs and these poor individuals are labeled “lazy“, “stupid“, “irresponsible“ is all very sad!!

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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 1, 2013
    • My daughter is struggling with her step-sons, both who have been tested, treated, etc etc.  I don’t like the labels and I disagree with medicating children.

      The one step-son is 15.  He refuses to take any medications, which is good, but he’s having all sorts of trouble in school and at home (from my point of view he needed his butt paddled years ago).  Anyway, he won’t take the drugs, but he won’t do a single thing to help himself either.  The changing his eating habits etc.

      My daughter has been researching natural help, herbal remedies, etc.  She’s looking for anything that might help these boys.

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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 2, 2013
    • Is he having academic issues or behavioral, T?  If it is academic as it was in our son’s case, then if I may suggest that your daughter meet with a counselor or teacher at his school to enroll him in tutoring and/or meeting with a trained professional that can evaluate his academic needs.

      If it is behavioral, then he definitely needs professional attention as that can only escalate.  Again, a trained professional that can work with him and they use different methods...cognitive/behavioral therapy is a good one as meds are not pushed...also, get in touch with a natural medical specialist who can suggest natural alternatives versus conventional if that is the route she chooses.

      It is all very stressful for everyone involved, but in our case, it was needed for our son to flourish.

      BTW—hub and I hired tutors, enrolled our son in a Charter school which did wonders for him (grade 6,7,8), bought in-home programs to help him (via books and computer), we would give him mock tests to encourage his strength in test taking, verbal testing and later in his life got him to see a counselor who helped him through some issues and gain confidence.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 3, 2013
    • I love Mary’s responses - so on point! I believe that, while ADHD is valid for some, it’s a very overdiagnosed condition. And, notice that it’s often times diagnosed in boys much more than girls. Boys are kinesthetic, they don’t sit still in class, they have lots of testosterone surging around and they need to be active. Many of them actually learn better when they‘re allowed hands on learning. My husband, as you guys know, is a headmaster of a college prep school. He’s been working with kids for 30 years. His teachers come to him all the time complaining about how the boys can’t sit still in class and refer to them as kids with learning problems. In truth, these teachers are only willing to teach to learning styles that are convenient for them, not teaching to the learning styles of their students. That being said, it’s a multi-layer issue. Progress has to start at home, like in Mary’s case. They took the time to work with their son and everyone benefited from it. Tulip, if these kids are step-sons, there may be underlying issues that have nothing with their abilities to learn or their attention span. Medication works for some kids, but not all. Your daughter may want to start keeping a journal documenting their behavior swings, noting the circumstances, see if a pattern develops.heart

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