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My friend since 10th grade (BF) is getting a divorce and she wants me to go to court with her, to be her witness. She is married to my husband's brother. He is a sweet brother-in-law, but he was a HORRIBLE husband. I witness it firsthand (time and time again). I told her I'd go. would you, if you were me?

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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • Well if its just for moral support and you‘re not going to be called on to speak on the marriage why not go she’s your friend.




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      Mz. Queen wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • Yes, I would go for her and if you‘re called on just say what you just told us. Some men are good men and horrible husbands. Just tell the truth as you see it or have seen it. That’s what I believe and would do.

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      3sa wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • Sure if its just moral support I don’t see the problem.  Since he is your husband’s brother just be sure to discuss it with your husband so he knows she needs someone there with her because divorce is hard and she needs someone there.  You don’t even have to go into the court room just wait outside the door for her.  If you did not get a subpoena and you just stay outside the courtroom you most likely won’t be even called on for nothing!




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      Daphne wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • I have to agree with Teeky!  No point putting a strain on YOUR marriage for offering support to a friend who is ending hers.  

      Tough situation.




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      Amy L. Harden wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • I would let the brother know that you will be there and if called upon, you will tell the truth. At least you will be fore warning him...it will not appear vindictive.  I am sure he is not blind to the reasons why he is in the court in the first place...unless he is in complete denial.

      Some of the nicest, congenial or sweetest people I have known in my life have been addicts...it is the trait that they use to manipulate and get others to enable their habit. Another word for it...is being co-dependant in the relationship...he is depending on this fact that you care about him more than you will want the truth to be known about the situation. It only perpetuates what is already going on...you help no one...the wife or the brother.  

      Ask yourself if you will be enabling this person by NOT appearing as asked...or will going be an act of tough love?




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 10, 2009
    • Have her attorney to issue you a supeona (sp?), in this case, you are forced to go if you have other reservations.




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