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What would you say to someone who is always complaining about living in California?  They have nothing but negative things to say and complain it’s too expensive to live here, but this person lives with their mom who is the one who pays rent. Hmmmm...




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 29, 2014
    • I have a friend who complains all the time about living here in California. Complainers about this and that and is always bringing up how Montana is so much better!!! Every time I hang out with this friend, I hear about how California sucks and Montana is so great. Yet this friend lives with their mom and she pays the rent and most of the bills cause this person has no job. He does side jobs here and there when he can get some.  

      I love California. I was born and raised here and don’t plan on leaving anytime soon. Granted yes it is expensive to live here for the most part, but I do it and I make the best of it as much as I can with what I have. So it’s really upsetting me when he complains about being here. I’ve told him a few times, to MOVE! To Montana if it’s so great there. I told him to save his money that he does make and put it away so he can drive there and live there. HA!! Right....every time I tell him that then he says he can’t afford to get a place there and he has no job. So I tell him “Then QUIT complaining about being here“!!!!!  

      It goes in one ear and out the other. Cause the next time I hang out with him, he does it again...I just want to slap him!  How do I get it thru his skull to stop!




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      Carine Nadel wrote Jun 29, 2014
    • there are just some people whose personality is that they like to complain.

      Ignore them.  They can’t continue if no one listens.  kind of like a teenager!




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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 29, 2014
    • I’d do just like I do to people who bash my state.  Look them in the eye and say, “If you don’t like it, leave.”

      But, people who complain like that don’t have the ability to be happy anywhere.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jul 1, 2014
    • Sounds like he may be unhappy in all areas of his life, so needs someone to vent to...tell him to look up the name of a good counselor who can listen and give him the proper advice and goals.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 2, 2014
    • Time to tell the friend to either move on or zip it!




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      Tropicalady wrote Aug 7, 2014
    • When we are teenagers, we handle things like teenagers. When we are adults, we have the maturity and the foresight to respond to things using more wisdom and empathy. The teenaged me would probably have responded to him by saying something like “Well if you hate it so much, then go back where you came from!” That is not going to do him or you any good. All it may do is cause him to get defensive and add unnecessary tension to your friendship.

      It is our responsibility to ourselves to speak our truth with love. If this is truly your FRIEND, then you should be honest with him and speak your truth about how it makes you feel without coming across as being antagonistic. Tell him that California is your home and you love it and when he bashes it, it offends you. Tell him that you work very hard and don’t have the luxury of having the financial support of a parent like he does and when he complains, it makes you feel like he is being ungrateful and taking things for granted.

      Sometimes people don’t realize how they come across until someone points it out to them. They will not be open to doing any self reflection if you present it to them in a negative, unloving way. But if you present it to them in a truthful, loving way, they may be more open to your criticism.




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