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How do you feel about Nannies?

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Ladies we are here to learn from one another. Every thing that is blogged or posted on here is fair game.  

This is like being part of the talk show “The View“...we all participate and give our point of view. Strong minds usually bump alot which causes the simplest questions to get blown out of proportion.

With that let’s learn and move on.


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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Personally I feel ~ why have children if you aren’t going to raise them yourself.  

      The most precious moment that nannies spend with babies are the informative years.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • What do you want to know about them? I used to be one years ago.




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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I know what their job is but a coworker of mine mention that she has a nanny and the child is now more attached to the nanny than the mom.




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      3sa wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Did not have a nannie.  I was blessed as to have my mother and my sister take care of my children when they were little while I was working. I guess if you have to have a nannie then you do.  You just have to be able to trust them with your children and realize that someone other than yourself will also be teaching values and things, ( my mom and sister did and I sometimes had to correct them because they were not my values).  But that is just how it is, we all can’t be stay at home mothers or fathers, unfortunately we have to work.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I agree with you ms.kay...My children have never even been in daycare..I didn’t have them to have someone else to raise them..not knocking others..it’s just not for me...




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      Doreen XoXo wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • If I could have afforded one, I certainly would have had one.  Not to take my place as a parent, but someone who I could depend on to be there to make it easier for me to do certain things.  Like shop, cook, clean and take care of my husband’s business.  But, I got through it all without one and still do all of the above!!  :)




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • yeah brownhoya...I could use maid service every now and then..a cook sometimes..maybe...lol




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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Maidservice!!! Oh Yeah!! Now that’s something we all can relate to!!!




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      Robinesque wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Frankly, I think that they have their place and can be very valuable, if really needed.  There is that fine line that needs to be closely monitored between “just my job” and stirring up jealousy in the mother.  It is the clever nanny that can ensure that line NEVER gets crossed.  On the other hand, it is the even more clever mother that will not let the nanny sense her insecurities and use it to her advantage.

      If I had a nanny, I would make it a priority to make sure she was as happy as possible - within her limits.  She WILL be watching my child!  And, as I have pointed out to my friends several times, if you DON‘T like someone, chances are, you Don’t like their offspring, either! (Translation:  Nanny don’t like YOU, Nanny don’t like your kids!)

      (ever notice that?)




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • lol..brownhoya...Everything you said...Put me down for it all too..Just not a nannie..I love taking care of my children...just hate cooking and cleaning..lol




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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • The question was how you felt  about nannies.  

      Of course everyone will do what is the best for their family. We all are sharing our different and personal views.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I really don’t think anyone was being judged here..I simply said what’s for me..what’s not for me..And I’ve never cared much about what people say about stay-at-home-mums (although I’ve never heard anything negative about it personally)..I’ve been very fortunate to be able to do it..




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      Jean Walter wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I think this is a touchy issue!  As women, we always want the best of both worlds and a lot of women are very accomplished in the fact that they can juggle both worlds.
      Personally I have worked when my 2 oldest children were young but had the help from my parents.
      When my 3rd child was born I made the decision to be a stay at home mom and even watched my neighbors children to earn some extra cash.
      Yes, children get very attached to whom they are around all day long, this is natural and I think as long as the boundaries are set and not crossed all works out in the long run!
      Quite a lot of my friends work full time and have Nannies or have sent their kids to day care and some have regretted that time lost with their children that they can never get back.
      It is a hard decision to make but we do what we have to do and hopefully our children benefit from the structure that is created for them.
      I feel blessed to be home for my children and admire the women that have full time careers and still make time for their children.
      I personally struggled with the decision but feel I made the best one for me and my family.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • In my opinion to each their own. If a person feels they need a nanny why not? I have nannied kids in the past and it wasn’t bad at all.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • exactly neicy...I didn’t need one...lol..I am my children’s nanny...oh how funny...I have to tell hubby that when he gets home...




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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I’ll address that since my quote got her attention.  

      Look back at how I wrote that....I started with PERSONALLY ~ which means it’s how I feel, Annie123.




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      Wittymom wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I can see both sides as well. My sister and her husband have horrendous commutes to work. They have a nanny that is there with their toddler but is also home when the 11 year old come home. It makes sense to me. I have never had a nanny but I was lucky to have a support system that my sister did not...my daughter did attend daycare though.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • They pay me with their hugs and kisses...and constant “I love you mummy“..what better payment..lol..Believe me..it’s not easy..people assume it is....but being at home can be very lonely..but I sacrificed...just like working mothers sacrifice..we all do it in some way...




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • my cousin and his wife in Canada has a nanny..or two...one for during the week..the other for weekends...they are both live-ins too...




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      Ms-kay wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Ladies we are here to learn from one another. Every thing that is blogged or posted on here is fair game.  

      This is like being part of the talk show “The View“...we all participate and give our point of view. Strong minds usually bump alot which causes the simplest questions to get blown out of proportion.

      With that let’s learn and move on.




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • dang..I missed my girl jeanies comment..and a great one too..I couldn’t agree with you more..

      it is a touchy subject..although I’m sure ms.kay didn’t mean for it to...I think she was just asking a question because she was curious..not knowing it would stir up these feelings..Sorry ms.kay, your intentions were good..I know.




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      Robinesque wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • What’s wrong with us setting each other straight on how we feel?  It’s hard to “play nice” when someone pushes your buttons and you have to speak up. Sometimes, it’s just, that, kind, of day.

      (Want some popcorn?)




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I will say this though...even if I had the money to..I doubt that I would hire a nanny..I doubt that I would work outside of my home fulltime...I doubt that I would change much about my current situation..except maybe work at night so that I am still here with my children...




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      Robinesque wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • This is VERY interesting, I must say!

      (Yeah, I have no life.)




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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • yall got me scrolling back up to the top to read what went wrong and how...BRB




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      Coachmombabe wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I would have loved to have had one with my kids, but I’m glad that I didn’t. I ended up homeschooling them. We made some very good memories. But a break now and then would have been very nice!

      Seems there’s a balance to be achieved in there somewhere.




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • I did not need a nanny. I had the assistance of my mom to help me and my husband. Without her my kids would not have turned out as well as they did. You know it takes a village to raise your children.

      I don’t knock having a nanny. If you need the help, go for it. Just be careful who you hire.




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      Mztracy wrote Jan 22, 2009
    • Well we hired one from and angency that was partly why things got crazy.

      After we fired her, we hired a girl from the college. To this day she is still a huge part of our lives. Her name is Marilyn, yet we still call her nana.  

      The girl from the agency was hired by my parents as I had a 2 yr old at home and twins on the way. They wanted me to be able to still spend time with my son.

      Eventually, I needed one everyday. I got very sick and was dx‘ed with MS. I had a bad flare and thankfully Marilyn was there.

      Even if I had not gotten ill, I would have needed help. My hubz job hours were strange back then, and we were alone quite a bit.  

      I was there with the kids and the nanny, but even if i had to work it would have been fine. I was blessed to be able to stay at home.

      My sister, wanted kids then was left by her husband with 2 small boys. She had kids as she wanted them. Due to life sometimes being shi**y she had to leave and work. She needed help!




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      Reblrosek9 wrote Jan 23, 2009
    • I was a Nanny for 7 years. Let me tell you from a Nanny’s point of view that I never worked for a “lazy” mother. Most were way too permissive and busy and had a hard time focusing on their kids for a long period of time. The children never loved me more because I kept a distant, but loyal detachment and always stuck up for Mom, even when I thought she was wrong. That was my job. Always make Mom look good.

      Be aware of manipulation by the part of your child. If mother allows one thing and Nanny allows another, you will have trouble. I had a three year old ruin my career by telling his parents I told him Jesus was “Bad“. The word Jesus nevr even came out of my mouth, but he knew his parents were religious and he used it as a tool! It worked.

      Nannies are a cleaner and healthier environment than a daycare, but the social stimulis is lacking unless the Nanny takes the children out often. There are pros and cons to both. We are pricier, your children get more one on one and they become more dependent on us, but I’ve never had a problem with children loving their parents any less merely because I was there.




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