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What do you do when you know a man likes you more than a friend and wants to be with you, but has chosen to not pursue any relationship due the reasons listed...I am a single mom, he doesn’t want step children, and I am unable to have any more biological children?

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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Well, I think that if he can’t accept you (ALL of you), then he is not worth your time. There is someone else out there who you are meant to be with who won’t care if you can’t have more biological children, but will embrace your children as his own.




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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Annie, that is hard on both of you, I am sure! I am wondering why you would be interested in him if he has told you he isn’t interested in single moms or in your children? How long have you known him?




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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I see where you are coming from. It sounds like maybe it isn’t that he isn’t interested in being with you, but he just needs to get other things in his life under control first...
      Are you two exclusive or are you also dating other people?




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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I know that it must be really hard for you and emotionally wrenching. It is always hardest to see a situation clearly when you are in the middle of it! I think if you are mindful of where God is leading you, the answer will become clear to you.




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      Esther Bloom wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Look for another man that wants all that comes with you. You are a beautiful women and if you want a good relationship it does not need to start with so many negatives..For goodness sakes don,t let him be a friend with benefits!!!!




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      Coachmombabe wrote Jan 31, 2009
    • I’ve never been a single mom, so I hesitate to give dating advise. But I am a Life Coach. Sounds like your romantic interest may need some help letting go of the past to make room for something new. It’s so common for us to allow a bad past experience guide our decisions.(See my blog “What’s Pushing Your Buttons?“) But they can sometimes truly limit the possibilities.




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      Rebecca Deos wrote Jan 31, 2009
    • Wow, you found a guy with a head on his shoulders? Someone who knows what he wants, and doesn’t want, and is able to stick by that and articulate it? I’m sure in a way that makes him even more desirable.

       If it never progresses past this point, at least you have met someone who seems to respect you, like you for who you are, but understand that he may not be ready for all the “baggage,( ie, life“) that you come with.  

       And I’m sure that you deserve no less.




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      Holdonloosely wrote Jan 31, 2009
    • He knows what he wants and is honest about it. Before you get hurt, cut some ties and free yourself up to look elsewhere. There is someone else out there. I was a single mom and I didn’t meet any guy who had the maturity to admit to what he really wanted. When I cut off ties and moved on to look for someone that was good for me and my children, I met a wonderful guy that admitted from the start, my kids would never be a problem and more children would be great but not necessary. We are married and have a child together and he will tell you they all are his. I’m so glad I moved on!




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      Martinilush wrote Feb 1, 2009
    • Good luck, Annie! Please let us know how it goes! I am hoping that it all turns out the way you are hoping! estatic




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      Cynthia Green wrote Feb 1, 2009
    • Annie,

      Please move on.  Do not try to analyze.  He has given you the honest answer and reason.  Believe him!!!!  If he really liked you as much as you believe, there would be no problem accepting you and your child/children. Darling I hate to be blunt but he will sleep with you if you allow but otherwise as the book and soon to be movie states: He is just not that in to you!!!!




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      Coachmombabe wrote Feb 1, 2009
    • Annie, it seems like a good sign that he is willing to consider adoption.  

      I hope things go well for you guys. You could use some blessings!




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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 1, 2009
    • What else CAN you do? Don’t settle. It’s good that he knows what he wants & doesn’t want. Something like that should not be ‘forced.’ I’m not one to spend too much time analyzing things when it comes to men. Go with your gut.  

      Don’t settle girl.




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      Cynthia Green wrote Feb 1, 2009
    • Annie,

      I hope I am wrong and that everything you want works out for you.




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