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How to handle A thirteen year old boy grrrrr. Do you think I should put a time limit on him playing his x-box? He would stay on there if I let him till he grew a beard! He thinks I’m so mean when I say enough for today.HELP

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YES.
And if he views it as mean, tough you-know-what.
You‘re the boss, chicky. estatic  

It’s just a matter of discipline. Can be done with a smile. If he gives you any crap, just say, “I’m not mean, I just smiled at you. And you‘re still done with your x-box for the time being.”

There’s a tricky balance between parenthood and befriending at times. They have lots of friends and only 2 parents. Someone said that to me once upon a time~ I never forgot it for some reason.

Have a great rest-of-the-day! estatic


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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • Kids need rules. I know it’s hard but they don’t get to decide their schedule.




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      Trudy S wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • It is your place to make that choice...mean or not.  My 4 year old thinks I’m mean when I say ‘you’ve watched enough cartoons today‘.  Goes with the territory.

      You could negotiate the amount of gaming time he gets per week and then let him ‘spend’ it as he likes.  

      What are all your expectations?  Homework, house cleaning/chores?  12 hours of homework a week, 5 hours of chores and 6 hours of gaming, 5 hours of TV?  Make it a per week expectation and then he can use the play time when he wants to...as long as he fulfills his help time too.

      Just an idea!




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      Sissorhappy wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • This is the only time I hate being a single mom. No back up ya know. I used to say wait till ur dad gets home but I am that now. Its just frustrating. I guess sometime I just need to hear that I’m not just freaking out on him for no reason. Some of his friends have no time limits at all. Thanks ladies




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • Great that he is attached to that... it means the Xbox is your bait.  Do this and you will be awarded with Xbox time.  If not, you don’t need to hide the whole unit, just the cord.




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      Jean Walter wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • Good advice Lori!

      I have a 10 year old that has PS3 and as long as his homework is done and any chores that he may have to do, I let him play to his hearts content, within reason! He is not allowed to play too close to bed time and he also needs to have some outside activity!
      I also don’t let him play the real violent games!!

      We also have WII and they have a lot of “family” games, like bowling, boxing and golf!   We have a great time and it is awesome exercise!

      =)




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      Theresa Simmons wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • my mom used to say that too.i brought you into this world ,i,ll take you out:)  lol




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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • YES.
      And if he views it as mean, tough you-know-what.
      You‘re the boss, chicky. estatic  

      It’s just a matter of discipline. Can be done with a smile. If he gives you any crap, just say, “I’m not mean, I just smiled at you. And you‘re still done with your x-box for the time being.”

      There’s a tricky balance between parenthood and befriending at times. They have lots of friends and only 2 parents. Someone said that to me once upon a time~ I never forgot it for some reason.

      Have a great rest-of-the-day! estatic




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Hi, I don’t envy you, been there-done that! Out of my two kids it was my daughter who dragged me through hell and back....I still have a twitch! I may be somewhat (I would never claim to know everything) of an expert on dogs and dog training but NOT on raising kids. I think we need to put our foot down when you have to and totally ignore whatever tantrums, big sad eyes, the “I hate you’s” and door slammings, whatever they do to tell you they aren’t happy with your authority over them-tough, I made the mistake of wanting to be friends with my kids and boy oh boy did I pay for it when they were teens!!! DON‘T make that mistake, you will always be their mom, always be there when they need you, but you can’t be their friend not at least in the sense I’m refering to. You have to make rules and stick to them no matter what they say and they can be pretty darn cruel with their words as they get older, tear your heart from your chest, but words are just words and you have to remember that. I can’t give anyone advice on raising their kids god I barely came out of it alive, but now that both my kids are adults and have been living on their own succefully for many years we NOW can be friends and really enjoy each other! Do what you need to do to keep them healthy (which sitting in front of a screen working their fingers or thumbs non stop is not healthy) and educated so they can live on their own, I think that’s the best any of us can ask for in terms of raising our kids-the rest we just have to “wing” it! Good Luck to you and I mean that from the bottom of my heart!
      Suzan- mom of two human kids who made it through the teens!




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