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How do you keep sex from feeling like a job?

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SEX begins and ends in the mind. How do you see yourself? If you see yourself as ugly and not worth the pleasure that sex can be than it is a job because your only doing it for the other person. Fix the mind and the rest will follow.


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      Anonymous wrote Sep 21, 2008
    • I would research different positions that get you excited to have sex, and then try them out with your partner. There are so many things that you can do to spice up your sex life, so that you are actually the one asking for it (I am sure your partner won’t complain!). Sex toys, role playing, and romance can play a big role in your sex life.

      Try planning a weekend get away, leave mysterious notes around ,or things on this level. You may think these are tips that will only excite him, but you will see how excited you will be when you are awaiting his response.

      I would also look into your diet/exercise that may be attributing to your sex drive lacking. Sex is an important factor in relationships, and is sometimes hard to maintain (a good sex life), but you can do so many things to keep the sex hot, and you interested.




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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 22, 2008
    • I can’t think of a job I love more. However, I recall when my marriage was unraveling, sex was the furthest thing from my mind. I am (and not ashamed to say) a very sexual person. I am easily turned off, however, by someone who is not passionate in return. My ex started to look and act “ugly” to me and I lost every ounce of sexual desire.  

      In a healthy relationship, sex shouldn’t be the chore. Taking out the garbage should be. Not everyone has a high sex drive so it’s hard for me to be subjective here. However, something is keeping you from enjoying it. Are you turned off by your partner or is it another stress that consumes you—-like finances, children, etc?  

      I have three at home still and I haven’t been in a long term relationship in quite awhile (lack of great guys out there and I’ve focused on my kids for the past 7 years). I am in one now and we’ve known each other for 4 years so the relationship is “new-ish” but the friendship is not. We‘re extremely attracted to each other and both have our stresses. He’s got a very visible position in the state and gets pulled in 20 directions daily. He’s a single dad of two boys. Very active with them. I’m raising 3 here and got two thru college. Our “alone” time isn’t big, but I know that sex is NOT last on the list. It gets squeezed in because it’s important. I think that helps all around....brings you closer together, takes your mind off crap for the moment and it’s just good for you! :)

      You might want to sit and figure out what is stopping you from enjoying sex. There are lots of ways to get your mind racing again...




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      Rosa Page wrote Sep 24, 2008
    • SEX begins and ends in the mind. How do you see yourself? If you see yourself as ugly and not worth the pleasure that sex can be than it is a job because your only doing it for the other person. Fix the mind and the rest will follow.




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