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Am I rude to ask visitors to take off their shoes upon entering my house?

Follow up question of what do you wear on your foot at home.

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      Kduncan wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I dont think it is rude, but maybe a bit OCD;)...but your home is your castle...it is one place where we can control the environment...so its totally up to you!

      Personally I am a barefoot girl...and the heels show it!




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • It is not OCD at all.  It is just Chinese or oriental culture.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • If I visit friends or even customers at their house, upon entry, I always ask “if you would like me to take my shoes off?”




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • There are piles of shoes nearby the front door - again, oriental entry way.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • Just make sure no one is wearing Manolo Blahniks, like Carrie in SATC!

      My mom had a really pretty carpet and it had a light background, so she always asked us to take off our shoes.




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      Sunkist wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • Cindylouwho, I saw that episode of SATC with the Manolo Blahniks.  I have people take their shoes off cause our carpet is a beautiful medium green, no one has ever complained.




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      UK Girl wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • No - I always get people to take their shoes off - I have indulged in cream carpet ...people never object and I now have a pile of slippers if fok wnat something on ..London is filthy so I don’t want muck tramped through...




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      Jody Cadieux wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • It is your house...I have no problem asking people to take their shoes off...especially of rainy or snowy! estatic




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      Owlmaria wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I wouldn’t mind & that’s b/c of having lived in the Orient where it is a custom, a very practical one I might add.

       We take off Our shoes @ the doors & leave them on small shoe racks, some people don’t like to take their shoes off put then again it’s the south.




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      Paris Mano wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I used to have a house with high gloss tile throughout and I would not let anyone in my house that would not take off their shoes. We have a lot of sand in the dirt and with hard sole shoes and the sand, it would grind into the tile and scratch it. Only had one man that did not want to take off his shoes. I did provide socks for everyone.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I even have a tile sign at my front entry “Please remove your shoes, Mahalo!”  Friends usually are fine.  Those servicemen drive me nuts (like plumber, electricians, etc).  They want to march in and march out to their trucks, bringing in lots of mud and dirt.




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      Paris Mano wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • Yes Chinadoll that reminds me I did have a cute little sign made up and was at the front door.....Please be a dear and leave your shoes here!estatic




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      Termite wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • You shouldnt have to ASK people to remove their shoes in my opinion, I think they should just know better and do it automatically. I dont think it is rude or OCD...I think they are rude if they DONT!!




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      Termite wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • Paris...I love that saying! I just may use it.




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      Rystmom wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I was trained shoes off in the house! My husband learned fast, and my boys were taught at young age.
      I also automatically take my shoes off when I walk through anyones door.




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      Rystmom wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • CD I have shoe covers for any service people who come to the house. Works wonders!




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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I wish I could get my husband and step son to take theirs off..... but I will be getting my wood floors sooner vs later!

      No I don’t think it’s rude at all...especially if it’s a custom.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I don’t think it’s rude to ask folks to remove their shoes before entering.
      We don’t remove ours, but I can respect others who do.




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      Coachmombabe wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I do not think it’s rude to ask guests to remove their shoes.  

      I wear shoes all  of the time (except in the bath and in bed). My "slippers" are actually slip on tennis shoes. I have arthritis in my feet and we have tile floors. Not wearing shoes is painful to me.  

      So if I visit your home, and you do not like shoes on your flooring, I actually appreciate your asking me to remove them. Otherwise, you may think me rude, when I’m really just protecting my feet.  After all, I would not want to offend my hostess!estatic




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      Tuliplady wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I love you all here, but thank goodness you‘re my on-line friends and not my next door friends.

      Guess I’m in the minority here.  I think it’s unspeakably rude to ask someone to take their shoes off.  It’s one thing if they‘re muddy or something, but for crying out loud, it’s a house not a freakin’ museum I’m stepping into.  Let’s say it’s 22 below zero outside, you want me to come inside and take my shoes off????  Seriously?  I put on the same jeans I had on yesterday, can I sit on the sofa?

      You‘re going to ask a man who wears lace up work boots to sit down and take his boots off every time he comes thru the door?  My men would spend their life just taking boots off and putting them back on.

      As for what I wear at home, I go barefoot unless it’s 22 below.  But if I have gone to the effort to put shoes on to go out, don’t be asking me to take them back off.




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      Linni wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • i do not think its rude to ask folks to take their shoes off! ESPICALLY when you either have NEW carpet, or light colored carpet..

      i learned at an early age that shoe come off when you enter a home...And whenever i go to someone elses home my shoes come off directly..

      my children do the same thing.. OFF with the shoes




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      Denise Richardson wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • To answer the 1st part of the question, NO! you‘re NOT being rude when you ask people to remove their shoes whether its a Chinese custom or not, I do the same thing. I feel people shouldn’t want to track dirt and other matters into another person’s home and I see nothing wrong with that, my sister and I both keep a basket filled with footies at the door for our vistiors and when they leave they put them on the floor at the door for the laundry. Now my daughter does the same thing.




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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • Vikki,
      It is a bone of contention at my house too. Hard wood floors are even harder to keep clean. :( Tulip, it is all about perspective. We live in the country and there is no way to walk to my door without walking in gravel dust from the drive, and more than likely through some dirt (or mud for most of the winter and spring.) I personally think it is rude for people to track dirt in my house (husband included!) unless they are going to offer to clean the floors after they dump dirt everywhere. LOL
      I have tried just not sweeping/mopping in an effort to get my husband/boys to realize how much dirt they track in. They just don’t care. I remind myself that one day I’ll long for the dirt when they are all gone and I am lonely. estatic




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      Linni wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • i agree with you DeeDee..

      we also live in the country ( which i didn’t mention in my last post ) right in the heart of AMish country! so lots of dust dirt horse dropings, etc.. lol

      so yes.. the shoes have to come off!




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      Anonymous wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I USE to have a friend I considered her being too anal because not only did she make you take your shoes off but you had to wear white socks she had in a basket, she refused to put on her air cond. on in the summer when it was 90+ inside. You had to sit on the couch to watch tv-burning up because your toes could not touch her carpet even for a second. Between my hot flashes and her obsessive white sock insistance I decided to take my feet a walking out that door permanently!!




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      Sugarmama214 wrote Feb 21, 2009
    • See,  here in the south , people walk in peoples houses with those dang  shoes ON! Grrrrr, I hate it! I have hardwoods and white carpet ( I don’t know what I was thinking) and it just ruins them! We also have red clay which just sucks! So I ask people to take their shoes off and if they get pissed I don’t care, it’s your house your rules.




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      Wpwmn wrote Mar 10, 2009
    • In Hawaii it is custom to leave your shoes on the front porch-wearing them in the house is a big no-no




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      Tina Hengen wrote Mar 25, 2009
    • Everyone knows in my house shoes come off, I will offer slippers or socks if they would like and if they don’t want to remove thier shoes or boots then they can stay outside. It’s kind of like smoking, absolutely no smoking in my house, but I do set an ashtray and a table and chairs outside where the smokers can go. No one seems to think it’s rude to ask smokers to stay outside so what’s the difference?




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      Wpwmn wrote Mar 26, 2009
    • in Hawaii it is considered rude to wear ones shoes inside a home-they are there to be seen all lined up outside the front door.




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