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What if our teenage daughter is pregnant?  What if our teenage boy gets another teenage girl pregnant?

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      3sa wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • I nightmare I don’t need to even entertain today.  I’ve talked to her and she understands and know the consequences for having sex and not being protected and not being ready to be a parent or the backlash of having unprotected sex or having sex before being an adult and in love or married, I prefer the latter but we all know that is most likely not gonig to happen but at least she knows what I prefer.

      All I can do now is hope and pray she waits.  If she becomes pregnant I will pray only that one God gives me the strength to move on and help, and that she does not contact any STDs behind it all.  So I guess...All we can do is educate them and pray.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • I know.  But what if it is already concrete?  

      I pray I don’t have to face it for it will be very tough for me.  I have a son and yet, still.  I keep telling him I do not want to be grandma yet.  

      Yet, I’d like him to let me know if I ever become one.  I want to talk to the girl’s parent.  I am against abortion.  I do not want to think further.  However, it is a fear and concern to me.




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      UK Girl wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • If you want a story to chill your heart .. this is the UK Today  

      Who's the Daddy? 13-year-old Alfie to take DNA test to prove he is the baby's father  

      Schoolboy father Alfie Patten has claimed that he is happy to take a DNA test to prove he is the father of his 15-year-old girlfriend’s baby.
      Two other youths have come forward to claim they also slept with Chantelle, despite the couple’s protestations that there is no doubt Alfie is the father.
      Chantelle and Alfie insist the other boys are lying and the young father has vowed to take the DNA test to prove he is the father once and for all.
      He said: ‘Other stupid boys are lying, saying bad things, like they have slept with Chantelle too. But I am the only boyfriend she has had and we’ve been together for two years, so I must be the dad.’
      Today social services refuted allegations that not enough support had been provided for the youngsters involved.  

      A spokesman for East Sussex County Council said that Chantelle, newborn Maisie and Alfie had received a ‘package of support‘.
      In a statement released by the council today, Matt Dunkley, director of children’s services said: ‘We would not normally publicly discuss individual case information and it must be remembered there are three vulnerable young people involved in this case, all of whom are entitled to protection and to have these matters dealt with confidentially.
      ‘However, given the exceptional circumstances of this case, we do understand the need for reassurance.

      ‘It is completely wrong to suggest social workers are doing nothing to support the families and young people involved in this case.

      ‘In cases like this it is normal practice to assess the needs of the parents and the unborn child before the birth and to revisit those assessments once the child has been born to look at what further support might be needed.

      ‘In this case a package of support was agreed before the birth including enhanced involvement from health visitors and family outreach workers.’
      Alfie last night spoke of the moment he found out Chantelle was pregnant.

      He said: ‘When she found out she was having a baby, I asked her “Am I the dad?” and she went “Yeah” so I believe her.’

      He added: ‘I didn’t know about DNA tests before, but Mum explained it’s when they do a swab in your mouth and it tells you if you‘re the dad. So, if I have that, they can all shut up.
      ‘But I don’t really care what people say. And I don’t like them being bad about Chantelle.’
      Trainee chef Richard Goodsell, 16, who lives near Chantelle in Eastbourne, claimed they had sex at least three times around the time she became pregnant.
      He said: ‘I know I could be the father. Everyone thinks I am. My friends all tell me that baby has my eyes - even my mum thinks so.’
      A second youth, 14-year-old Tyler Barker, also thinks he could be Maisie’s father.
      ‘I slept with Chantelle about nine months ago and I’m really worried I could be the father,’ he said.
      ‘I hope it’s not me. All my mates have been teasing me about it but this isn’t funny, it’s serious.’
      But Chantelle has insisted that 13-year-old Alfie is the only boy she has slept with.
      She said: ‘I love Alfie. I lost my virginity to him. We decided to start a physical relationship because we love each other. There has been no one else.’
      A family friend said: ‘Chantelle and Alfie only had sex once. Since then she hasn’t let him near her but he’s besotted with her. It’s the classic case of puppy love.
      ‘He adores that baby, if it turned out it wasn’t his after all this he would be devastated beyond words.’
      Chantelle gave birth to baby Maisie Roxanne last Monday and both families are being accused of trying to cash in.

       Unmasked: Alfie with father Dennis
      Alfie’s father has instructed PR guru Max Clifford to broker deals on his son’s behalf - he is already being tailed by a TV documentary team - while Chantelle and her newborn daughter spent much of the weekend with a newspaper.
      Questions were raised last night over the response of social services to the case of under-age parents Chantelle Stedman and Alfie Patten.
      Friends of 15-year-old Chantelle claimed that health or social workers have had little or no contact with the vulnerable young mother since she was sent home from hospital last week.
      In addition, her baby-faced ‘boyfriend’ - just 12 when the child was conceived - did not see his case worker last week, according to sources close to his parents.
      A family friend said Chantelle has spent much of the last 24 hours in ‘floods of tears’ and Alfie has thrown a series of tantrums.
      Last night a spokesman for East Sussex County Council said they had been closely involved with both families and said staff were planning to visit this week but refused to comment on claims that they had not made a formal visit over the last few days.
      Tory MP Ann Widdecombe said: ‘It’s appalling that social workers were not in there from day one. What is crucial is the welfare of the child at the centre of this shambles who is an innocent party in all this.’

      Eastbourne Tory MP Nigel Waterson said: ‘I am surprised that social services have not been involved considering that they have put out a statement saying that they would give all possible support.
      ‘If the family feel they are not getting the support they need, I am happy for them to contact me and I can take it up with whoever necessary.’
      Former Tory leader Iain Duncan Smith, who is the chairman of the Centre for Social Justice, said he was not surprised that social workers had not visited the family since the birth because the care system is stretched to breaking point.
      He said: ‘The welfare system is creaking and crumbling, and major change is required.’
      Both the Pattens and the Stedmans have been accused of courting the media with rumours of newspaper and TV deals worth thousands of pounds.
      Yesterday there were farcical scenes at the home Alfie shares with his mother Nicola in Hailsham, East Sussex when his estranged father Dennis Patten arrived.
      The father-of-nine vehicle fitter was wearing a devil mask and carrying a fluorescent yellow placard saying ‘No comment. Call Max’ - a reference to publicist Mr Clifford.  

      Yes WTF - a 13 year old boy allowed to sleep with his 14 year old girlfriend at her house over night sharing a bed !




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      Renee Robinson wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • It’s a terrifying proposition to think your teenage daughter or son could have a baby, but I’m with 3sa—I’ve tried to inform and educate making clear that I will not under any circumstances be the doting grandmother.  Letting her know she would have to take full responsibility and that if she is doing something that she protects herself.  Most of all I pray and pray for her so that she makes better decisions.  I try to instill in my daughters that they are beautiful young women in the making and should honor themselves as such.  Even with all of this, there are no guarantees—you keep being positive, noting consequences and PRAY!!




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      Msedie wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Each year on my daughter’s birthday, I always say, “Thank you God, got through another year, no baby, and still a virgin.” But with my son, it’s a constant worry. Always said, my daughter can only come home with one baby every 9 months, and I would know my grandchildren. But my son could have many in 9 months with different girls and I might not know. I’ve talked to my kids about everything. However, with my son, I always add, girls can be evil! They can trap you with a baby. Also, don’t put it past them, if their parents find out you had sex, they might cry rape to save themselves and your in jail. I have seen both happen.  

      If it happens to either of them, I’ll deal with it.




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      Termite wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Good answer Judy. That is exactly how I feel about it. I am hoping it doesnt happen, but if it does....then we deal with it.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • EEKS.  

      Jesus! 13! THIRTEEN! EXCUSE ME?

      Guess they won’t be keeping THAT story quiet.

      I guess I’m curious to know where Miss Chantelle’s mama was during all of this?




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      UK Girl wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Honey the mother allowed this to happen - the family are now trying to seel their story to the highest bidder ..

      The boy looks  

      He looks 8 and his voice hadn’t broken - a child with a child it’s sickened the nation




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      Rystmom wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • As a mother of two sons I did have the talk with them. Then added even though I don’t approve of premarital sex there will always be condoms in the cabinet no questions asked. I also told them and reminded them over the years...If you get a girl pregnant your life as you know it is over. YOU will be getting a job afterschool and on weekends to help pay for that child. Also YOU will be taking care of that child when you have.

      I am a firm beliver that if the parents of male minors where to have to pay child support on babies their sons fathered that it would help curb teenage pregnancy. I know if I would have had to pay child support due to one of my boys, they wouldn’t be out running around for a LONG time!




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      Coachmombabe wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • This is something that I know a lot about, but don’t have time to respond right now. I’ll be back later, even if it’s later in the week, to give you my perspective. estatictongue outfrownestatic




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      Deb Darby wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • At least the British press called it what it is...a child. I counseled in a pro-life pregnancy center for 3 years. What I learned was that in the U.S., the number of abortions was nearly equal to the number of childless couples wanting to adopt. My daughter’s fiance cannot father children, and they plan to try to adopt, so this will be an even more important subject to me in the near future. As far as STD’s, that’s really scary, too. HPV can lead to cervical cancer, and sorry to be so blunt, but researchers now think also to throat cancer.
      The sexual revolution is ruining us. BTW, anyone see the Sports Illustrated cover? Pretty provocative, no?




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      Anonymous wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Discuss safe sex scare them into NOT having sex so young by showing them a film on aids.  Also they have dolls that act like real babies you must hold them when they cry, they actually wet their diaper. Let your kids be completely responsible for that baby for 3 days when home, which means they cannot go out with their friends they have a responsibility to their baby.  

      Take action rather then to wonder what if....and its too late.




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      Esther Bloom wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Well, I must be the old lady herehappyhappyhappy, I was that teenager and so was my daughter. No mind you I was young (just born)JK 15 years old and my daughter was 17. My parents were angry but could do nothing about it. With my daughter her father threw her out of his home, she returned to me and we just got through it. She is a great mother and has always worked hard, still does today. We really just did the best we could with the situation at hand. Today my grandson is an amazing young man and I don’t have ant great grand children ,YET!!!




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      Michelle Walker wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Thanks so much for this question it enabled me to express how I and my daughter who will graduate high school this June have handled this situation. See blog “my teenage daughter had a baby.”

      I love you Fab40 and Beyonders!




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