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Has anyone ever dealt with a single aging parent who retires and stops being physically active? My mom has and she’s getting so she can hardly move now because of it.  It’s very hard to cope with as there’s nothing physically wrong with her.

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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • I am sorry.  But that’s part of aging.  Everything slows down until it is dormant.  My grandmother and great grandmother lived up to their 90s and beyond - all they did was sleep and they did not talk or eat much.  Just be there.  It can be depressing and yet, try not to take it personal.  Their metabolism decreases drastically.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • My mom just sits on the sofa and watches TV all day. She doesn’t do anything physical. She used to walk every morning but a few years ago she slipped and I think she was afraid to do it again and break a hip.

      She does get up and cook for herself and since her housekeeper retired she’s cleaning her own home now. But as far as deliberate exercise goes, she doesn’t do any. She’s 80. I wish she would be more active. Her life would be more fulfilling.




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      Inakika wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • My Aunt Mary is 91 years old and a ball of fire! She still drives, lives alone and gets out as much as she can. She keeps up on current events and loves a glass of wine or a cold beer! LOL! She’s something else.
      I don’t think every older person slows down completely, I think it varies depending upon the person, lifestyle and their individual health issues.  




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      Womensafety wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • I thank God my mother is in fair health but she keeps on going. Since we lost my father she is really trying to stay active. We have to know that as they get older they really have nothing to look forward to. I try to give my mother something to look forward to every week either lunch out or a trip somewhere. I am lucky to have 5 brothers & Sisters so we try to take turns doing something with her and she was always their for us our whole life I owe her a couple of hours a week. Yes sometimes it tough but it is my job as a daughter.
      Good luck remember you only get one enjoy every moment you have with her.
      Donna




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • Ingrid, I love,love,love your aunt Mary! Someone to aspire to.

      Donna, you made me think that every few months I go out and see my mom. We spend time together, cook together, I usually cook her a nice dinner one night, we go out for a drive. I know she looks forward to our visit. We do what we can for them. They‘re old, they‘re set in their ways, we work around their parameters.




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      Gottagorightnow wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • god bless your dear old aunt, inakika!

      My mom is 82 and we just had a conversation like this today:
      "mom, just sit on the bed or in a chair and flap your arms up and down....ya gotta do something  to get your blood circulating"!!

      Of course she won’t do it...I keep telling her “the less you do, the less you want to do”

      Sleep & TV.  that’s all she does...I don’t live close enough to her to get her out of the house more....




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      Esther Bloom wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • My mom can still move with the help of her walker but she does not really do much else. Its difficult having our parents get old , an entirely new relationshipohhhh




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      Jenny09 wrote Feb 26, 2009
    • My mom started taking a senior exercise class..just
      one time per week and it has helped her feel a bit
      more energetic. She does better when she feels that
      there is a purpose to something. I believe a part of
      the slowing down is mental, not feeling purposeful, needed.
      Another part is the metabolism, for sure.




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      Mary McGuire wrote Feb 27, 2009
    • First off, getting old/old past 70 is not a time to just sit unless there is a medical or mental reason.  Yes, there is a loss of friends, function, etc.  But I once heard an elder say “As long as I have breath, I have a mission“.
      If there is a change in habits, i.e. sitting at home/idleness, check for depression.  Almost 80% of seniors are experiencing undiagnosed depression.  At the same time get the meds checked, they may be prescribed multiple pills from different doctors which shouldn’t be mixed and causing a change in beheavor.  Find a local senior center with activites and go with your elder to help them find friends.  Find a support group for you, put the oxygen on your self before caring for a senior.




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      Susan Sullivan wrote Mar 13, 2009
    • Thanks for all your answers!  I think part of it may well be just slowing down, but there’s no doubt she’s showing some signs of depression too.  When I finally get moved back close to her, I think I’m going to take one weekend a month, at the least, and spend it there with her. It would help us bond, I’ll get her up and moving and it’ll give my poor sister and her hubby some them time...something they’ve had precious little of these last 10 years.




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