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For the Marrieds...
If you knew then what you know now (how your life has turned out), would you have married the same man in the first place?

See My Reply Below...

Edit shopgirl wrote 8 minutes ago
Sorry Girls, My daughter called in the middle of this...
My husband and I have discussed this question extensively and we both say yes we would have although we do wish we'd met in a locale that would of enabled our children to grow up around Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins...
My husband and I did go through a separation 8 years ago that lasted 1 year and during that time I had serious doubts
as to whether I'd made the right decision, but today I feel I did!

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      Daphne wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • A resounding yes!




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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • Shopgirl, I don’t see your reply! you tricked us! ;o)

      My answer: a resounding YES!!! He’s my best friend. but it took a lot of years to get to this place.




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      Feathermaye wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • My first husband, no way in hell.

      My current husband, a hundred times over.




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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • If I knew then what I do now, I probably would not have married the first husband.  At the time I did not have the self confidence to raise a baby alone and I also thought every child should have the benefit of two parents.  Now I know I’d have managed somehow.  Then again, I wouldn’t have my other two children, so..... then again...  I really don’t have them anyway, their father has them. So I guess I’d have to say, no way in hell would I have married that pig.

      Five years ago, if I could have seen into the future that The Man and I were going to have, I might have hesitated, but I’d have still married him.  He is my best friend and other half.




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      Blingiton wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • Absolutely!!!  It’s not all been great—we’ve definitely had our share of highs and lows but knowing what I know now I’d marry him in heartbeat!!  

      He’s really the best thing that has ever happened to me!  We love each other and we have never tried to change each other.  We don’t agree on everything—we never did and we never will.  We respect each other for that.  

      I went through a terrible time spiritually about 15 years ago.  I was raised in a cult.  (My husband was not.)  My children were getting old enough for the church to begin indoctrinating them and I seriously wanted to make sure this was the church they needed to be in.  

      I threw out all the church literature, publications, lesson studies.  Everything the church used to “tell you what the Bible said“.  

      I started reading only the Bible and praying that God would allow me to see what His truth was.  Needless to say, I quickly found out just about everything I had ever know was a lie.  I was devastated!!  My world completely fell apart.  

      My husband, who could have easily stood there and said, “I told you so” was so supportive.  I didn’t know what or who to believe.  I didn’t trust anyone.  And I knew that this was only the beginning of how bad it was going to be.  He never tried to persuade me or push me in any direction.  

      I remember one afternoon very clearly.  I knew I couldn’t with a clear conscious ever go back to the church of my entire life!!!  But I really didn’t know how to be anything else.  My husband came home from work and I collapsed in a puddle of tears.  He hugged me and told me, “Everything is going to O.K. You do whatever you need to do.  If you need to go back to that church then do it.  It’s O.K.”

      Two days later, I told my family and life long friends I was leaving their denomination.  I lost most of my friends almost immediately.  My family hung onto me for dear life desperately trying to reel me back into their faith.  They said very cruel things to me and my children.  The last straw was the day my mother announced to me (in front of my children) that every blessing in our life came from the Devil!

      It was horrible but my husband was there for me, Not to tell me what to do, or not to do, but as a friend.

      I thank God for bringing him into my life!!




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      Smiley1962 wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Yes I would marry my hubby again.  We have been together for 23 years, and will be married for 20 years in May.  We have known each other since we were 16.  The only thing I would change is our finances.  I would have been more careful in spending in the beginning of our marriage, and having children sooner.  I did not have my son until I was 35, and becuase of that I chose not to have anymore children.  Otherwise, he is my best friend, and am so glad that I have him.




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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Bling, your story is amazing! Thanks for sharing that!

      I’m encouraged to see many of you have had hard times and hung in there to find your relationships now bearing the fruit of your endurance.  

      Many others, I realize, made the decisions they needed to make to survive and are now thriving!




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I would to my current husband BUT I would sure like to change or stop an event from happening.... i.e. let him go off meds.  I am still suffering from that consequence; it’s been over 8 years. I remain hopeful and in prayers.




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      Michelle Golden wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • I would marry mine again, though I think it would have been better if we’d met a few years later!  I was a week away from my 18th birthday and he had just turned 20.  We’ve been together ever since, married 22 years.  Sometimes I think I would have been a stronger person, knew more who I was if I’d have had a few years to live on my own.  But it worked out, he’s a great guy and we have two wonderful kids who I wouldn’t change for anything!




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