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Thank you all for your comments.  As I sit here in tears because you are all right.  Nad I knew this from the start.  It is going to be hard to let go of the emotional aspect of this relationship.  BUT I HAVE TO LET GO FOR MYSELF...AND FOR HIS WIFE....It isn’t fair to her and it isn’t fair to me...I guess I was wrapped up in the feeling of someone paying attention to me...I am going to put a STOP TO THIS....Thank you all so much for your responses....

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      Termite wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Dee, do it for yourself and no one else! You take care!




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Don’t be too hard on yourself.  

      I admire your openness and sincerity in digesting all our comments.

      Start blogging more here for you will find through writing, you will find a best way to mold your new self.

      Be gentle and that’s why this site is so Fabulous.  We are all in transformation.




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      Rena Bennefield wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Don’t be too hard on yourself..We can't always see the forest for the trees..And it's sad that men will see a woman who is looking for real love and commitment and take those precious tender feelings and turn them into a self serving game that he will always be the winner of..I will be praying for you and I will be here if ya need a friend..I truly understand..I to have been on both sides of that fence... (((HUG))) Kat




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Don’t beat yourself up, we all have done something that we shouldn’t have done. I know I have!! And check out the wonderful support system you have here happy




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • You’ll find peace and happiness




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      Angelcart wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Glad to hear your getting out.  I hope your daughter doesn’t know about him.  I believe it would hurt her very much.  Good luck.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Dee even though I read your first post about your affair I didn’t reply because I already knew you knew it was wrong not only in your onw eyes but God’s  eyes also, like you said you already knew the truth so what ever I may have said only would have confirmed your answers to it being wrong. Now that you realize that you‘re not going to get anywhere with this guy and the relationship its time for you to realize this one important factor: YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE AND SO MUCH BETTER FOR YOURSELF! and you are the only one who can give it. Begin to take stock in you, you are a beautiful woman who is smat and so deserving of so many things that a tainted relationship can’t give. I don’t care how many times this gentlman has tols you he loved you he is a liar and he will nmever love YOU! He just loves what he can gain from you, and most times it is only for the sex. So honey your body is your’s don’t allow anyone else to abuse it. Get strong, lift up your head and march on as China said earlier YOU ARE WOMAN, A STRONG WOMAN! take control over you, over youe life and the good things you deserve in it and go out and get it for yourself and NEVER FEEL THAT YOU NEED A MAN and a MARRIED MAN AT THAT TO VALIDATE YOU! I’m keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.




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      Mztracy wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • (((((((Dee))))))))




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      Saylor101 wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Growing and learning experiences come to us daily - some are huge and effect many more than we know.  Some are simply ours and effect only those we allow close enough to be aware.

      None of know how deep this particular situation is - and none need to - what matters is how it effects you.  You are NOT a bad person, you are NOT a home wrecker - you are human.

      Find the lesson, look for the silver lining - it is there..... you learned things about you.....you learned things about us.  

      You are an admirable honest women -  you posted a controversial situation about you as yourself and not anonymous - that shows character and value.  Wonderful things will come to you, because you deserve them.




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      Deb Darby wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Dear Dee,

      Besides having the Lord in your life, I found a really cool site. Here’s something from the Bible...

      Psalm 1
      The Songbook of Israel
      Book 1
      Two Ways to Live

       1 Happy  are those who don't listen to the wicked,  

             who don’t go where sinners go,  

             who don’t do what evil people do.  

       2 They love the Lord’s teachings,  

             and they think about those teachings day and night.  

       3 They are strong, like a tree planted by a river.  

             The tree produces fruit in season,  

             and its leaves don’t die.  

          Everything they do will succeed.  

      Here’s the new website I found...hope you enjoy it!

      www.happiness-project.com

      Oh yeah, and I think I know this guy. This is the REAL him...




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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Hi Dee.
      We are here for you.
      I just know that you will be fantastic & you will feel really good about your decision. It may hurt at first, naturally, but you’ll see. You will feel better and you’ll see that you’ll be respected in a new way by setting boundaries for yourself like this. I hope that makes sense. I learned that type of thing the hard way, but now- after the fact, it really does feel pretty good. happy
      You’ll be great!




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      Dee2301 wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Thank you...That is AWESOME...




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      Dee2301 wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Thank you...I appreciate your honesty...




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      Jacquie6363 wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Hi Dee:

      I was just talking to a girlfriend only the other day, who was in the same position as you are, she blamed herself for letting the situation get to the point that it did, but I had to assure her that this is all to make her strong and to know that because we are humans we will falter from time to time, but the trick is to pick ourselves up and move on.  

      You will grow because of this and accept nothing less than the best..it will hurt, but it will pass and you will be in a better place....




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