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I need some serious help. I am obsessed with eating just junk! I’ve gained 10 pounds in the last 10 days. Already today, I’ve had an entire bag of little chocolate eggs filled with peanut butter. I just really hate myself right now. I’m ashamed of how I look, at 220 pounds, THIS WEEK! I’ll start a weight loss program, do good for 6 or 7 weeks, then I just go bonkers and eat anything and everything I possibly can. The thing is, when I am on a program, I don’t deny myself anything, I just have it in limited quantities. I am not going to go to overeaters anonymous. I just won’t do it. Do any of you that have had a weight problem have any suggestions ot ideas?  

I don’t want this to come across as me being mean or jealous, but if you’ve never had a weight problem, you can’t possibly know what I’m going through. So please, don’t advise me on how to lose weight if you’ve never had more than 40 pounds to lose. Thank you

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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Ok I have 40 or more to lose and I can tell you it is hard
      My advice would be to move more then work on your food intake. By moving more and getting in that habit you realize you have more control than you thought. Once you feel that control it’s easier to limit your food intake. The worst thing you can do is stop eating. That’s what I have always done and now I’m paying the price of a non existant metabolism.
      Then of course we are here.... let us know when you feel temptation or lack of motivation. We will blog your worries away.




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      3sa wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Ok I have 40lbs pounds to lose, and it’s just as bad because people that see me think NO WAy, but i’m 180lbs last time I checked.  My doctors says I should be between 140 - 150lbs.  I agree.  

      I am an emotional eater, stressed i eat, extremely happy I eat, depressed I eat and angry i eat.

      I eat food not sweets, salty and spicy....retaining water like a hippo.  Anyway...I am learning that the only way to win this battle for ME is to exercise when i’m triggered instead of eating.  It is going to alway be. I’ve lost 25 pounds every year and when I stop working out I gain it back and the FAT goes to the weirdest places when it returns.  

      This year I need to lose 30lbs or more as  you can see it keeps getting bigger....

      The only thing to do is to find out the WHY behine your eating and Fight just that....like if it’s because you are lonely...fight the loniness..and so on.

      Hope this helps.




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      Poollady3 wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Thank you, Vikki. I don’t NOT eat. But I also don’t move very much at all. I have no metabolism either.
      So, are saying to start getting a little bit of exercise first, make it a habit, THEN start a food program?




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      Poollady3 wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Oh well, I’m not anonymous anymore!! HEEHEEHEEEtongue out




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Right as someone who has a very sweet tooth and gains and losses and then gains....

      I’ve now been good and exercising etc; but know that I’ll pile it on so saw a friend who has lost loads of weight and kept it off and she admitted she has had Hypnotherapy - so I’ve had it....

      The upshot is when we are feeling like gorging on the mini eggs filled with peanut butter (which sound fab by the way) then we feel disgusting after - we think just for a second before we open the bag or the fridge door of a happy time - you have to remember a time where you felt really happy with your weight and we move away and sit down and concentrate on the happy moment and why we want to go back to the happy moment.

      Mine is a mental image of me in a swimsuit in France looking hot on a boat - I felt really god and looked it so I have this image and concentrate - as I don’t have a picture of me from them I have an image on my screen saver of a boat in the Mediterranean sea so I look at that and think thin ....it’s working because I don’t want the after eating thoughts - the self loathing, the disgust with myself. I'm losing the weight slowly but I'm not lapsing which is the key




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Poollady just move..... Move when you feel like splurging. Get up and go to the bathroom! Whatever you need to do to shift your focus. And yes I would focus on exercise before dieting. You need both to be successful and there is no quick painless way to lose weight. Movement is what is going to help get your metab back on track. Also eating what is called metab boosting foods will help.
      Also I posted under the weight watchers group a link to prevention to show you a virtual you before and after...check it out.

      But just keep moving....




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      Michelle Bodycombe wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Poollady3...I feel you.  

      I’ve been there on several occasion.  I call it my “downward spiral“.  When I hit rock bottom, I have myself a good cry and then I’m able to begin putting one foot in front of the other toward the weight loss I desire.  For me, admitting to myself and another person who I’m close to is very helpful.  I think that everything I say to that person, about what I want/need to do, holds me accountable.

      I’m not big on offering advice, but I’m big on meaningful conversation.  So, I have a question for you.

      What are the things in your life that (you feel) are keeping you from making healthy food choices?  

      I ask this question because, for me, I need to focus on myself completely for at least a month...until I have completely detoxed my cravings for sweet.  My family is very supportive and are happy to take care of themselves and their own meals if they are not happy with what I prepare for ME.

      When I am starting off a weightloss program I have no problem leaving my house in a mess, dishes in the sink, my bed unmade and heading off to the gym or for a walk. My exercise and eating plan are the most important things in my life until I feel I’m at a place where I won’t loose it if I have too much to do.

      Hope this is helpful.  feel free to PM me if you would like to chat some more.

      Be gentle with yourself.

      Warmly,
      :)Michelle




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      Pam Koppel wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Do you drink diet sodas?  I have  a friend who lost 20 pounds just by cutting out her 1-2 diet sodas a day.  The chemicals in the diet sodas actually make your fat cells swell and then you hold onto the fat.




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      Vasilia wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Diet sodas help retain fat??  Seriously?  Oh, no...diet Dr. Pepper is the only thing fizzy enough to get my (rather large) meds down every day!  Say it isn’t so!frown




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      Pam Koppel wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • Sorry to tell you this but yes the diet in diet sodas is a misnomer in my experience.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • There has been so many articles about diet pop being bad for you. I actually watched a friend gain weight by drinking diet pop. You wouldn’t catch me drinking it anyway but definitely not after hearing that repeatedly.




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      Denise Herich wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • I have lots bunches of weight in the past and am in a good place.  Here’s what works:

      1. Walk every night.  If nothing else, if no other serious exercise can fit into your daily life, walk around the block every night and take the kids w/you if you have to. Endorphins will start to flow, weight will start to vanish, and your mood will be elevated.

      2. Make a grocery list and stick to it.  I NEVER guy junk because you know what?  I’ll eat it!  Can’t have it in the house, no way, no how.

      3. Join a support group that includes like-minded people who are trying to lose weight in an organized fashion.  I highly recommend www.beachbody.com.  Try the Power 90 plan as a beginner.  I have no monetary ties to this company and they are not a current client of mine, but their plans have really worked well for me.  And there are 10,000+ women just like you on their message boards who support each other through chats like these all the time.  It works!

      4. Pamkoppel is absolutely right about the diet sodas.  Ditch them and instead buy bottled water (just to replace kind of the oral fixation part of eliminating a soda habit). When I get hungry at night, I also make hot tea and lots of it.  I’ll sit watching the tube at night with cup after cup of green tea or orange tea.  it’s good for you, has no calories, and the warm liquid soothes hunger pangs.

      Good luck, I know you’ll find your strength, help is out there! estatic




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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • This sounds like emotional eating, I’m guessing.
      Dr. Phil has a few very good books on the topic if you‘re interested. I’m not someone who believes in dieting, but do believe in moderation with everything. Don’t keep junk in your house/fridge/desk drawer etc. Replace soda with water & lemon in it.
      Use milk instead of creamers in your coffee if you drink it etc.
      Perhaps write down what is on your mind in times of binge eating- pay close attention to this. You may very well find a pattern there. Just ideas for you.
      Eating high sugar in that volume will make you sick and do wonders to your teeth and cholesterol level.
      Plaster a picture of what you want to look like on your refridgerator.
      We all want you to be healthy. :)
      Walking or some sort of daily excercise is crucial also. Seek support from someone locally as well. Let us know what we can do to help you. Good luck.




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      Dennie05 wrote Mar 19, 2009
    • Don’t forget to drink WATER!!!! Very important.  Don’t put anything in it except maybe a lemon slice. Very refreshing!




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      Pam Koppel wrote Apr 25, 2009
    • Watch the 35 min video at this site www.resetlive.com. The doctor on the video will explain what is going on in your body and why you‘re having so much difficulty losing weight.  He has done clinical trials with his program and I have recently helped two people lose over 100 lbs. with the program.  If you‘re interested in more information after you watch, let me know. It’s better to contact me by email—iamhere2@cox.net.




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      Marykaylady wrote May 25, 2009
    • Girl, I am right there with you when it comes to weightloss. I need to lose about 130 lbs and I have been overweight most of my life. I have started a high protein, low carb diet, because I know I am totally addicted to carbs. Bread and potatoes are my best friends. I have had to totally rethink any old ideas of dieting I ever had, and concentrate on carbohydrate intake. I live in S.C. and go to the Myrtle Beach Diet Center, and they are totally awsome. I have been on the diet for 6 weeks now and have lost 29 lbs. They do reccommend that I drink 100 ounces of fluid daily, (this can be water, diet drinks, or unsweetened tea). Some days I have a hard time geting the fluid intake in, but I just do the best I can. I try to remind myself daily that “Nothing tastes as good as thin feels”  I also got myself a Wii fit and I love every minute on that. It makes a workout easy and fun for beginners, and you can advance on your own. It also keeps up with your weight and Body Mass Index for you. Good luck and if I can hepl you in any way, feel free to ask.




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