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I am going through perrimenopause (Sp), I am not sure if what I am feeling is normal.  I feel that I have completely lost my womanhood. I don’t have any desire for sex, and I feel like if I did I wouldn’t be able to... I have my period literally once a year now and seem to be more emotional; however I have not had any experiences with hot/cold flashes.  Can anyone tell me if what I am feeling is normal?  I don’t like it, and I don’t know how to cope with it.
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      Janeofmyjungle wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • I have had increasing peri-meno symptons for a few years now.  I am not much for sex these days myself....don’t really feel sexy anymore either. I have night sweats, hot flashes and PMS like no other.  Up until 2 months ago, my periods were so heavy, it was horrible. Last two months have been really light.  I have the mood swings and get very irritable.  (I actually got mad at my boyfriend for finishing my gummy bears while I was sleeping today...lol).  From what I know from my research, own experiences and sharing with friends, it is all normal.  I refuse to take hormones, so I do use progestone cream, has helped with hot flashes and night sweats.  I have a friend who is taking estroven (even the walmart generic) and said it is working.  I tried it once but broke my face out, I am thinking about giving it another try.  I will not lie it is not easy and you just learn to cope.  Good luck




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      Marydam wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • Hi This is Mary.
      Listen I am going through similar symptoms: my period is almost gone but I have not lost sexual desire. Actually when I am in the gym and I see a cute guy my desire grows, thinking that maybe he could be mine. I have lot of hot flashes. I do yoga and exercises everyday and I have found that when I do Bikran Yoga the hot flashes seems alleviate. Bikran is an yoga style in hot temperatures ( almost 102 F). I also feels more moody than usual but especially like in despair, some kind of depression but I don’t know why. I work double to avoid those feelings, stopping having bad thoughts! That’s all I can offer you. Good luck!




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      Joan Cox wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • I have a period every two to three months, and it seems to be that months period plus making up for the two or three i missed! I begged my doctor to remove my uterus.. said 'look... i am not needing it anymore.. do away with it', but alas.. i still have it sigh

      The hot flashes and night sweats.. oooh yuk.

      Now whats weird is... I rarely think/want sex, but.. on those occasions i do? THATS when the period from hell comes!

      Its like.. I am giong into ‘heat’ or something




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      Maryellen5 wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • I know what you mean, I, too have lost the desire.  All I want to do is come home from work, eat iron my clothes for the next day and sleep.  I do not feel like I have hot flashes, but from time to time I feel a little warm.  I don’t know what is wrong with me.  I went to the Dr. and he put me on hormones, but I smoke and I really don’t want to increase my risk of blood clots stroke, etc.  I feel quite sad alot as well.  If you figure anything out let me know, because I really hate this.  Maryellen




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      Jenny09 wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • Ick. Perimenopause lasts quite awhile as your hormones
      change. One thing that helped me was using bioidentical
      hormone creams. They help to balance out the hormones that
      are missing. Suzanne Sommers has some best sellers on this and
      in very readable terms explain what is going on. The creams
      are available from doctors who practice integrative medicine—
      they have a medical degree but they also incorporate other practices. The cream is not a synthetic hormone replacement by the way.




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      Polliwogg wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • I HIGHLY recommend the book, “The Silent Passage” by Gail Sheehy.

      An excellent read about perimenopause.




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      Matarver wrote Apr 1, 2009
    • Thanks so much ladies for all your input, this is all very helpful to me.




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      Daffygirl wrote Apr 5, 2009
    • I agree w/jenny - read Suzanne Sommers books - The Sexy Years & Ageless - likely available at the library. She explains what’s happening to your body, bioidentical hormones in depth - they have been a Godsend to me and others. I’m working w/my doctor and pharmacist. Also try womentowomen.com—there are alternatives out there, you simply have to seek as most mainstream MD’s aren’t aware or “poo-poo” the entire menopause/perimenopause event.




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