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Do you have problems with people that are energy vampires? How do you deal with them?

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      Mjmurphy wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • LMAO China Doll! I think I will try this when I go to work tomorrow to face this vampire that I supervise...




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I think you have to learn to use blocking tactics so you kind of head them off at the pass and they soon get tired and move on to their next victim.

      Being firm as well as they are usually manipulative and they moan and whine to get their own way .....




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • mj: make sure you eat a lot of garlic so your breath stings... I am sure that person will be miles away.estatic




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      Rrl965 wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I have  a friend like that.  Very “needy“...I limit my time with her because I can only listen for so long.




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      3sa wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I start singing....This is the day which the LORD hath made....LOL and believe me if you ever heard me singing you would not be trying for long to suck my energy or anything else.....LOL




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      Smiley1962 wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • That is what I do ukgirl.  It works everytime.




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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • OMG....that was my first husband!!  By the time I left that marriage, that was my exact quote, “He had sucked the life right out of me“. It took me years to get back up to speed.




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      Michelle Bodycombe wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I agree with Ukgirl.  

      I recently had an enegy vampire in my life, a relative, it took a while but now she’s gone.

      With “friends” they would lose interest and fall away because I don’t feed their “need“.  

      However, in this case, because of the family connection and the fact that she was “down on her luck” with a 7 year old daughter...it took a while.  I had to be brutally honest and I stayed true to myself.  

      That experience afforded me an opportunity to learn valuable things about myself...I know I will not put myself in that position again.




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • i had a friend like that. I finally told her to take a valium and call me in the morning!! tongue out




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I think we have all learnt the hard way mjm – I actually told my friend she should see the doctor because he was paid vast amounts of money to dispense drugs which would heal her ..........I couldn't give out Prozac if I could it would straight in her mouth – as I said it her jaw dropped on the floor – it felt so liberating after years of moaning .......... if you work with them mjm I suggest you visit the doctor get the drugs and slip them in their drink ........ you know it makes sense and everyone will love you forever !




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • Not anymore. I’ll tastefully say what I need to in a situation like that, if it’s warranted. Life’s too long and too short for that ridiculousness.
      There’s only so much one can say to someone like that though, really. Most of the time, they‘re comfy in their drama, even though they don’t really recognize that. It takes the focus off of themselves and what they should be doing.
      I suppose it really depends on the situ and the person. Is it someone who does this ALLLLLL the time? Or is it a one-shot situation that has been dragging on for awhile & it’s a close friend?




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      Violet514 wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I also ended a relationship like that with a friend.  I tried to be there all the time for her, but when my time of need came and I was told I was being selfish, that’s when I knew I had given enough of myself.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • It’s interesting how we ‘outgrow’ people. It’s a blessing.
      I’ve noticed when I stick to my own healthy boundaries, the phone rings less from the negative, unhappy people. I think it’s great! I lose no sleep over this. :)




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      Polly W wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • This might make me a terrible person, but I refuse to deal with these types of people in my life. I simply let them go suck the energy out of someone else. People like this tend to be manipulative, time consuming, and self centered. I don’t have time to nurture a relationship like this. I have a friend like this, and while I still consider her a friend, I don’t spend time with her. I simply allow her enough space to move on-
      I can’t be a part of a relationship that makes me feel worse.




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      Queentraci wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • I pretty much have to alienate them for a couple weeks.  They are draining and I don’t need that negative enery.




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      Wittymom wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • Beauticontro, that doesn’t make you a terrible person at all...just realistic.  The bottom line is what everyone has already said. Life is too short to contiully be dragged down in spirits by someone who can’t make lemonade out of lemons.




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      Dalemarie wrote Apr 6, 2009
    • High maintenance sucks you dry. You need to be aware of your limits and bow out gracefully. Suggesting support groups might do the trick..but the crucifix, garlic, and holy water might work faster.. LOL




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      Mjmurphy wrote Apr 7, 2009
    • Thanks for all the comments, I’ve laughed and laughed and nodded my head in agreement as I read. I plan to take all your advice and if all else fails use my two favorites - garlic and prozac!!

      I actually got the situation a bit in hand today by getting the main person I was thinking about moved away from my desk. I have a team of 20 people I supervise in a call center and I somehow got her to think it was better for her to sit amid the team rather than by me...still don’t know how I pulled that one off! still I’m sure the battle is only half won and I will be coming back here to look over your advice and support on the issue.




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