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Help...Is anyone having to deal with child support? I have been divorced sinces 1996 and I’m still trying to collect.. Any advice??

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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Please work with Child Recovery Services (State or Federal owned, can’t remember).  They have all the means to track your Ex down.  They garnish the wages.  

      I turned my case to them when my son was 2 years old.  They worked diligently.  They brought him to court and confiscated his passport so he could not get out of the country.  I had no idea where he was but they were able to locate him via DL search.  I think they get information from IRS or DL division etc.  

      It costs you only $5 or very minimum upon any child support amount you received.




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Oooops, I’m telling you it’s been so long that I forgot when I got divorced (something I REALLY want to forget)I was divorced in 1991, met my hubby(NOW) in 1996..He doesn’t want me to dealing with the child support, saying that I don’t need the money that HE can take care of the boys and me (even if they are working). But I tell him it’s not me it’s the Attorney GENERAL. My sons are 21 and 19 and my ex owes back child support about $67 or $68 thousands and that would really help my sons out, not that I’m going to collect one lump sum.. But it would help out, in whatever I collect..




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • I went through that. I had a court order that wasn’t being enforced so, I stood in front of a fax machine & sent more than one copy (lol) to his employer’s payroll dept. I highlighted what I needed to.
      I had money within a week. It also took me over a decade to accomplish this. GRR!
      If you know where he is and works, call Child Support & tell them. Call them until you get a PERSON on the phone. If that doesn’t work, write it all down & hand deliver the paperwork to the child support front desk. sucks that you have to jump through hoops, but, if you don’t, you won’t get it.
      GOOD LUCK! happy




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Chinadoll..Thanks I didn’t know about that I’m going to look into it 1st thing Monday morning.. And you know what the CRAZY part of all this is?? We live in the same town, and every time I call the attorney general office (for updates) they tell me that they can’t locate him and that if *I* know where he might be..Isn’t that their job to look for him? They need to serve him so we can go to court, but it’s been put on hold because they can’t find him..How crazy is that?




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • jenz41, but what do you do when he gets a job and then realizes how much they are garnishing his paychecks and quits? He’s been doing this ever sinces I reported him to child support (in 1991)..




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Marie: You said Attorney General, do you mean you have already had a case with Child Recovery Services (CRS)???




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Chinadoll: Yes, I already have a case with them (Attorney General)but my case doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.. And I’m getting frustrated..




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • I had another friend whose ex quot his job in order to avoid support! That is the ultimate in low behavior.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • WHAT?! He’d prefer to ‘shoot himself in the foot’ so to speak and earn no money rather than just man up, earn a living and pay it? SERIOUSLY?
      What an idiot. Perhaps cut your losses & rename that guy “Donor.”
      I’m sorry to sound insensitive, but I’ve been through alot of this as well & I’m not sure what planet these guys are from.
      MAN UP, DUDE!
      All you can do is get a court order really, and any way you can, find out where he’s at & where he works. Be sweet as sugar to him even, if you must. Then nail him. Eventually, thisa will catch up with him & he’ll be ordered to work and to pay what he owes.
      Do they ever grow up? Sheesh....
      Good luck honey. Really.




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      Mz. Queen wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Unfortunately if the AG office lets you down and Mr.Deadbeat chooses to not work that’s his choice. He’s a loser, a liar and worthless. He lied to you so many years ago. I would give it one last attempt and then I would consider him dead. Put all your energy into loving the man who stands before you ready willing and able to provide for,profess and protect you and your sons.

      My children’s father always paid his child support, it was the love, affection and quality time that we longed for.

      love 47




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • I just wanted to stop back in here for a minute and wish you luck again. happy




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • Marie, that is sooooo awesome your wonderful husband has that point-of-view. That is the exact same thing my Pop (stepdad) told my mom after my dad left the state and fell several thou behind in support.




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 19, 2009
    • Cindylou: Thank you I am grateful that I found a loving, caring man in my husband, because to be honest I thought someone like him doesn’t exist, but I can vouch that he does.. A person, that is willing to take on the resposibilities of raising some one else kids and love them and me unconditionally (he doesn’t have any of his own) is one of hell a man! But my honey (sammy) loves OUR sons.. I’m pretty sure my ex thinks that sinces they( my sons) have someone in their lives, he doesn’t need to be their for them..




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 19, 2009
    • jenz41: Thanks for that, NO you do not sound insensitive..I feel the same way too..I do refer to him as a DONOR, even though we were married for only 4 yrs, the ONLY good thing that came out of it were MY 2 amazing boys.. I didn’t want my boys to grow up without a father,(because I did..he pass away)but I had to get out, I was tired of being his punching bag and being degraded in front of my odest son (my youngest was a baby)..I often wonder, how guys don’t give a s—t about a beatuiful life that was giving to them..
      But like the saying goes: ANY BOY CAN MAKE A BABY, BUT IT TAKES A MAN TO RAISE ONE..




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 19, 2009
    • 47ntiredorun: Thanks, it does seem that I have to keep pushing the AG office for enforcing the case, supposely we are going to court..Of course I will go and “the deadbeat” will be a no show as always..What gets to me we live in the same town, he even knows where MY sons work and goes there and acts like he has done nothing wrong so damn hateful!! My oldest does NOT want ANYTHING to do with him, my youngest was still a baby so he really doesn’t remember much, but he choses not to see or talk to him..There are good guys that DO take care of their kids even if the marriage didn’t work out and those guys ARE MEN for taking care of their responsibilites..




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