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What would you do if your husband says to you: You are fat.

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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • When he is fat also.
      On Shopgirl blog “what is on your agenda today? I posted what is on mine, that is going to do exercises-dancing with a friend whose husband said to her she is fat, but he is FAT too.
      I think she has to recognize that she is overweight and that is not healthy for her, second proof to herself that she can do it, not for him, but for herself and, then tell him, honey you are fat too, you may join us for some exercises too.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I will ask him “Would you love me less?”  He will probably say “No” Then I will say, “Great, glad to know and I love you too no matter what and how you look.” He should shut up from then on and I will work on my own issue - not his problem, not his opinion, not his criticism.  I am in charge of myself and destiny.




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      Jodi Geiger wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Depending if I had coffee yet would be my response!!!estatic




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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Chinadoll,
      He does it as a criticism, I know it b/c she told me about it. I told her you just have to do it for yourself, not b/c he looked himself at the mirror and realized that he is fat and want you to pay the price.

      Jodiginaz, you are funny. Let me know your opinion after your coffee cup.




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      Polly W wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I suppose I would tell him to kiss my fat ass! Then leave and go on a long shopping spree and make sure he gets no dinner until he apologizes!




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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Beaticontrol hahahha your comment is funny. I think both of them have to work out and eat better. You gave me an idea; she may cook balances and healthy meals and he will regret his horrendous words. hihihihi.




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • well, i would say...
      “Hmmm I can get rid of the fat, can you get rid of the ugly?”




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      Marie66 wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • beauticontrol: I’m with you all the way...




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      Ms-kay wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • “My boyfriend likes me this way“!




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      Carolnphil wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Phil and I have both put on 40+ pounds in the 20 years since we’ve been married.  He had the body of a god.  I could have an orgasm just looking at him.  We’ve both aged and put on weight.  He’s lost hair and I’ve had cancer.  We’ve seen the good and the bad.  I love him and he loves me just the way we are.  He does, however, tell me that I need to exercise and maintain a healthy weight.  I agree but it’s incredibly difficult when he wants to go to DQ for ice cream or brings home wonderful chocolates, which I love.  I need to do something.  I have a treadmill.  I just don’t have the gumption.  And, I think my body looks a lot like the 60+ year old, tattoo covered, hippie chick minus the tattoos.  I am so sorry to say.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • You can’t cure stupid!




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Sorry- wouldn’t be with anyone who’d say that to me.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I think I’d have to let him see my fat ass make its way out the door.

      I’d also tell him to take a look in the mirror - you‘re not exactly Charles Atlas you know.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Oh, my Gosh I just read the “my boyfriend likes me this way” comment from mskay. Love it!!estaticestatic




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      007pouty wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • And your point?




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      Stephanie Lawrence wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I’d probably tell him to bite my fat ass, but my husband would never say that to me anyway




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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I am between MzTracy, Jenz and Ms.Kay comments. I like the way they sounds and I will tell my friend about it, next time her “romantic fat husband” says something about her been fat, she could says it to him.

      Carolnphil,
      I bet you, your husband comments about your weight b/c he is concern about your health, after all these years together, he is a man and a good husband.




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      Holly Beck wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • LOL Ms. Kay - I love that one!

      I would say, Look who’s talking!!” I might have a pot belly, but he is 50 pounds overweight.




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      Holly Beck wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • But, seriously, I wouldn’t be with anyone that talked to me that way, either. It is disrespectful.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I’d push him down and sit on him.

      No, this is something I worry about because my husband works out every day (not ripped, just fit) but I keep gaining. He has not said one word, but encourages me when I talk about getting into a healthier lifestyle.




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      Rebecca Deos wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I would show him my mood ring. When I’m happy, its green. When I’m mad, it leaves a red mark on his forehead.




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      Daphne wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Next time your friend’s husband says that to her, she can take his hand into hers, look it over carefully...then look him straight in the eye and in her most loving voice tell him:

      “I’m glad your hand is thin because it’s the only date you’ll have for awhile!”  And walk away.

      Jackass!




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      Encee wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I think that even if I knew he was right and I did need to lose weight, I would resent him saying it to me like that.  There’s a ton of ways to get your spouse more active and eating right.  The first way is to lead by example.  I would hate it, hate, hate, hate it, if my husband sat on the sofa with a bag of chips every night and had the nerve to tell me I needed to lose weight!




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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Cindylou hahahaha your comment about sitting on him, it is so funny. But I agree with you, a husband who loves you will encourage you in a lovely way to get rid off these extra pounds, only b/c he loves and cares about you, either way, a good wife should do the same for her hubby.

      Hollylu, I agree completly with you. I couldn’t be with somebody treating me like this.

      Daphne and Rebecca, he is lucky none of you both is his wife. Hahaha.




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      Safari wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Encee, I can imagine the chips bag ending on his head as a hat. Hahahhhaah.




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      Smiley1962 wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I am so lucky my husband never tells me I am too fat.  He just tells me there is more to love when I complain about being to heavy.




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      Denise Herich wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I’d tell him to shut up and then go cry.

      No, seriously, knowing me, I’d shake my head in slow agreement, touch my growing gut and say you’ve got a point there.  

      Then I’d smack him a good one! tongue out




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      Kountrykelly wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Yeah my husband has called me fat a few years ago but I know I gained alot of weight back then. I have hypothyroidism and my metabolism is so slow even with medicine. I have always been really thin..around 120lbs but age and thyroid problems doesnt help. He is bigger too but he knows that and acknowledges it. I know Im big and when he has said that it makes me feel inadequate. Cant tell him to kiss my butt. Im afraid he will knock my head off for smarting off to him. I guess I just face it head on or ignore him and his comments.




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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • If my husband said that, I’d say, “Look in the mirror buddy!”

      Tulip




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 25, 2009
    • You know what honey? Get yourself the P90X DVDs and do these workouts every day in your own home when “Mr Critical” isn’t looking. You will be flabbergasted at the results you have in even one month’s time. (Make sure you‘re doing this for yourself though.) You’ll be so confident, he won’t even know what subtly just hit him. Then (as Cynthia said- which was GREAT) he can watch your ass walk right out the door.  

      I’m not sure what makes someone ridiculous to actually even vocalize a statement like that other than assuming he’s unhappy with himself. Happy secure people do not say things like that to people. Ugh. He’s lucky I didn’t hear it!
      Chin up girl.




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      Susan Dahringer wrote Apr 25, 2009
    • I let stupid comments like go through one ear and out the other..




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      57haddreams wrote Apr 26, 2009
    • I’d say “Kettle meet Pot“...but I kinda doubt he would ever say that to me.




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      Safari wrote Apr 27, 2009
    • Good good good. I will have to write down some suggestions and give it to her. Thank you ladies for helping me helping her.




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      Safari wrote Apr 29, 2009
    • My friend told me that her husband stopped calling her fat. She lets him knew how harsh and stupid he was acting and hurting her feelings, also she told him to carry a mirror with him anytime he wanted to see his wee wee. Hahahahaha, funny girl.




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      Kellyc wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • One time my husband took 5 pounds of hamburger out of the freezer and said “just imagine if this was 5 pounds of fat on your thighs and butt”  (We are not married anymore!!)  estatic




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      Safari wrote May 3, 2009
    • OMG KellyC
      That was rude from this....man? I’m glad you aren’t longer with this chimp.estatic




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      Safari wrote May 3, 2009
    • Hi babygato;
      I will say like stop cooking for him and start a balanced diet and careful exercises for her.




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      Jenz ~ wrote May 3, 2009
    • I just went through this blog again. I just can’t believe people actually say things like that. REALLY. HOW do you look at someone and say, “You‘re fat.” OMG.

      I still conclude, there is no cure for stupid. I hope your friend is ok. happy




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