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I just heard from one of my best friends after we’ve been out of touch for about ten years.  Has anyone had experience with this sort of situation?  I was so embarrassed after I got divorced and she moved out of state that I didn’t write her back.  I’m so excited to hear from her again, but i don’t want to overwhelm her with too much personal stuff.  Any advice?

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      Mjmurphy wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I would not worry about too much personal stuff. I used to have this sort of concern too and didn’t have anyone that was really close to me. Now I see that is what friendship is. I want to hear all about what is going on in my friends lives and share and get advice on my stuff too. Just like we do here. Otherwise our lives are out of balance and that will result in other issues we have to deal with, when they become physical or mental maladies.




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      Daphne wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I would simply take ownership for my part of the demise of the friendship and go from there.  Not that the last 10 years of your life don’t matter, but over time i’ll bet you two will cover it...no point to getting it all covered the first time you guys get together!

      I’m happy that your friend made the move to get in touch with you...old friendships are difficult to replace!




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      Poollady3 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • How fun, catfan, to become reaquainted with friends from our past!
      It goes without saying you’ll apologize for your part in the distance between the two of you.
      I would just play it by ear. You don’t have to tell her every detail of your life for the past 10 years. Talk about that as it comes up. I’m sure when the two of you talk there will be no silent moments! LOL
      Just enjoy having your friend back in your life. She knows you’ve had personal stuff...so has she!happy




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      Ms-kay wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • You both have a lot of catching up to do.  If you feel bad for not reaching out to her over the years - explain and offer your apologies and then wipe the slate clean. True friendship can withstand anything!




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      Kmarie wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I have reconnected recently with so many from my past, one family that I have know since I was two years old, we lost touch when I left for college and then when my mother retired and left California. It has been great. Just go with the flow, don’t worry about too much or too little. Just enjoy it.




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      Rene' Grandon wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Yes I have been back in touch,with my best friend from high school ,about 4 years now. We lost touch when I got married and we were in the Navy (Doug was in). It has been great and the catching up is one of the best parts. It really helped us reconnect as best friends again. Now it is just like old times. We talk about it all. She lives in Montana and we only get to see each other once a year,maybe twice. I live in Texas so it is tough to get together. It is great having my BFF back in my life. With us we neither one had a good excuse for losing touch really. If you were close friends like we were ,we were so glad to be a part of each others lives again. I agree with my friend Kmarie, enjoy the friendship again.
      Ciao,
      Bella




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      Holly Beck wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Yes! I found my best friend from high school a couple of weeks ago by doing a people finder search. I found her email address and emailed her. It has been over 10 years since we have talked and 20 years since we have seen each other. I was so excited! It has been great - we send each other long emails catching up on each other’s lives!

      My advice is to go slow until you know what her level of interest is, but don’t worry too much -  She is probably just as excited as you are to be in touch again!




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