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I’d like to know how to help my 17 year old son lose weight. He is extremely overweight and it is beginning to give him health problems. I have removed all junk food from the house and replaced with healthier foods. I encourage him to exercise and offer to go walk with him but he’s not interested. He’s very shy so getting him out of the house is almost impossible...other than school he doesn’t go anywhere. Does anyone have any suggestions?

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      Wow40plus wrote May 8, 2009
    • The WII fit is supposed to be really good.Confidence is a real key here.What Bernadette says about the martial arts is so true.You do have to go into the dojo and see what their philosophy is and if they have different ages,sizes doing the classes so your son doesn’t feel so overwhelmed.He has no interest in any activity?Self-confidence is going to be an issue.Does he have any friends that he can walk with? You know you r important but you are just mom to him-that’s what i get from my boys-geez luize!
      I’m sorry i don’t have too much for you to go on,just keep at it with a positive attitudeestatic




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      Mztracy wrote May 8, 2009
    • make sure he real foods, with real fats, and no diet sugars aspartime etc.  

      its about moderation and exercise.  

      what bern said about martial art is awesome. they teach control, repsect for yourself and others and discipline.

      keep away from sodas and breads etc.  

      wii fit would be gr8 as he can do it in private. stationary bike, treadmill, etc. anything really...just keep moving and keep processed foods away. It is not about dieting it is about a healthy diet!!

      He can do it!! Especially with a mom like you behind him!!




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      Anne E wrote May 8, 2009
    • Is there any hobby that you can get him interested in?  The news that I’ve seen recently on Yahoo says that being overweight is caused by overeating and not by lack of exercise.  Can he keep a food journal and keep track of everything he eats?  Be sure and pack his school lunches and don’t let him bring any money to school.  I wonder if there is a website like ours for women over 40 that is for teens that he might use to makes friends.  Also wondering if setting up specific meal and snack times with no exceptions might help.  I am wishing you the best.  I’m wondering if he is eating because he is hurting inside.  Any possibility of seeing a counselor?




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      Angell Villafañe wrote May 8, 2009
    • Thank you so much everyone for your suggestions...they‘re great! The Wii Fit was something I thought about and was happy to see it was a suggestion here...I’ve heard great things about it. I think I am definitely going to get one now.
      I think the marital arts is a great idea but the problem with my son is that he is so quiet and antisocial and getting him out to get involved in something is SO hard. I like the idea of finding a website like this one where he can connect with other people and make new friends.
      Yes...I do believe he is hurting inside...he is a bit depressed and we did the therapy thing for awhile but he hated it and refused to go back.
      The food journal is a great idea and I am going to start one for him tomorrow...thanks for that suggestion and Trudy I will check out your blog...I could use certainly use some nutritional cleansing myself. Thank you!




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      Foxfire5822 wrote May 9, 2009
    • Would he maybe be willing to try some sort of martial arts? My son loves karate it helps with fitness as well as self esteem.




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      Sue Allemand wrote May 9, 2009
    • Does HE want to lose weight?  I think kids have a hard time admitting that...  if he doesn’t want to - it might be a real struggle getting him to do anything!  But I would say cut out all the white foods (bad carbs) - shrink the portion sizes - and get him lifting weights!  Muscle burns more calories (even while resting) than anything else - and that would be a “cool” guy thing to do!  And he can do that even if he is maybe too large to attempt any of the other workouts at this time!  You could find a few weightlifting tapes for him to workout too - or he could lift on his own—not like weight bench stuff right away, but dumbbells (10, 15, 20 lbs) and work his way up!  That’s what has worked for our family, as well as walking or riding bikes!

      Good Luck to you!  :)




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      Angell Villafañe wrote May 10, 2009
    • To foxfire5822...this is the third suggestion of martial arts! I did ask him if he’d be willing to at least try it but he looked at me like i had five heads! I thought it was a great suggestion though...thank you! happy




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      Angell Villafañe wrote May 10, 2009
    • To suea...you hit the nail on the head! He does not want to work out because he feels he doesn’t really have a weight problem. However...when we went to the Dr. last week and found out how much he weighs and was told he had high blood pressure he began to realize there just may be a problem. A few days ago while I was brainstorming with him trying to come up with some ideas that he might be interested in to try and lose weight he mentioned getting some dumbells and lo and behold I just asked him if he’d like me to buy him a bike and lo and behold he actually said yes!!

      Keep your fingers crossed for me...hope this works! Thank you for your suggestions! happy




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      Angell Villafañe wrote May 10, 2009
    • To bernadette68...if I could actually get some grass to grow in my backyard I would be all over planting a garden...lol!

      As I mentioned to the other ladies I made the suggestion of martial arts to him and he wasn’t impressed...doesn’t want to even at least try it. He did say ok about bike riding and has an interest in the dumbbells so we are going to try that. I just want to get him moving!

      However, I will definitely get that book you suggested, In Defense of Food....thank you! happy




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      Pamelak wrote Aug 23, 2009
    • Try some at home videos like Turbojam or Power 90, don’t start him with the P90X yet cause it’s pretty intense.  Work out with him which can help to keep you both motivated.  As he starts to lose his confidence will grow.  

      Also, find out if he’s having problems with kids at school which could be a factor in his confidence.  Turbojam mixes dance and kickboxing together which is fun.  It has a 20 minute learn and burn introduction video which walks you through the moves helps you to burn fat.  Here’s my shameless plug check it out at [Link Removed]

      I teach TurboKick (mother of turbojam) I fell in love with Turubojam so much so that I had to find out more about it and have been teaching it for 3.5 years now.

      Also look into kettlebells which gives you a total body workout (you get cardio and strength at the same time) and in 20-40 minutes you will have done more work that 1 hour at the gym.  Start light cause there is a learning curve.

      Good luck to you both.

      P.S. Studies have shown that when you work out with a partner the chances of you reaching your goals is greater than not.


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