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If a marriage has ended in divorce, but there are kids from the union is it the parent who is not the custodian of the kids job to still honor their ex with gifts on Mother’s/or Father’s day?

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      Mztracy wrote May 9, 2009
    • i would say help the kids to get the ex a gift. but you do not need to. lol i wouldn’t lol. But get something for your child to give to their parent. estatic




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 9, 2009
    • LOL I hear ya MzTracy, for me and my ex it’s been 18 yrs. since we’ve been divorced and he in no way should even phantom the thought of a gift from me lol. And Lord knows I want nothing from him lol. happy




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote May 9, 2009
    • Agreed, if the kids are small help them pick something. if they are bigger, remind them. But no, I myself would not be honoring the other parent.




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      Fraz764 wrote May 9, 2009
    • My ex never stopped giving me a mothers day gift. He always has said that no matter what I am the Mother of his children and he honors me for that. When the girls were young he would pay for their gifts for me and still get me one from him.




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      Jenni0811 wrote May 9, 2009
    • That is a wonderful way to be Fraz. It’s a shame that most adults cannot see the good in a bad situation.....that takes a truly open mind and one that has forgiven the pain. Sometimes though, there is a hidden agenda behind such acts.  

      If I may ask, do you do the same for him on Father’s Day?




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      Fraz764 wrote May 9, 2009
    • Yes Jenni I do. We actually had a very amicable split, He made a huge mistake that destroyed the trust, but I have long since forgiven him for that and we have moved on, Neither of us are the type to carry around a bunch of garbage.  He was my best friend before and will always have a special place in my life and I in his. Even after the divorce he has always been a wonderful father and friend.




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      Jenni0811 wrote May 9, 2009
    • I’m happy to hear that. You are both very fortunate.  

      I call my X my “hubbro“...that’s a guy with whom I have a close-knit brother/sister relationship, who I accidentally married....LOL  We are close and have a supportive relationship also.




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      Fraz764 wrote May 9, 2009
    • Thats really cool Jenniestatic, I love that name!




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      Susan Dahringer wrote May 9, 2009
    • I do because my ex husband and I are still on good terms




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      Carolnphil wrote May 9, 2009
    • I always bought cards for my sons to send to their Dad on Father’s Day and made sure they always gave a card to my husband who was raising them, as well.

      I don’t know if my ex will show up at my son’s wedding in July!  Makes me sad.

      Broke my heart once that he told me he wanted me back but without the kids.  To heck with that!  So they are all mine.




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      Tuliplady wrote May 9, 2009
    • Not just NO, but hell NO!  If the kids want to give him a gift that’s up to them, but I’m not spending my hard earned money on the pig.

      Obviously we do not have an amicable split like Fraz.




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 9, 2009
    • I feel you Tulip, my ex allowed his new wife to mess up things with he and I we were trying to be civil and all but her with her insecurities thinking it may have been a chance for reconciliation with he and I NOT!!! so guess what whateva! sucka!




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      Renee Berge wrote Jun 5, 2009
    • Wow Fraz... your ex should give “EX-Lessons“!

      I think teaching the kids to honor the other parent in spite of the other parent’s behavior, is really for your children’s benefit, not the other parent.  (Unless, of course the behavior was extreme.)  

      I also think it influences their respect for their own wives/husbands when the time comes for them to get married.  

      Now... that would be in a PERFECT world!




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