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Have you ever met someone that judges you by the clothes you wear or where you live? Don’t mean to disrespect..

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      UK Girl wrote May 11, 2009
    • OMG - all the time honey ......

      First worked in the sportswear industry and look so not like a sporty person and I have a Northern accent so people assume I stupid - it happens all the time I just let them!

      I never judge people because of that - I live a low key life and so people just are amazed when they find out who I am etc; and try like mad to be friends .......




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      Marie66 wrote May 11, 2009
    • ukgirl, EXACTLY..I wasn’t raised with lots of money, but we did have some good days too..I was happy with what I had and it might not have been alot..Me and my siblings didn’t have alot..But my mom worked her behind off for what we did have..

      I always told my kids when they were growing up that whenever I could get them what they wanted I would..I taught them to appreciate what they have and that it might not be this high price or name brand stuff but it’s still the same thing weahter it be clothes, shoes whatever...

      Now that we have this nice comfortable house and nice truck, I sometimes freak out because I’m not use to what I have..I don’t shop for name brand clothes or name brand shoes, I’m happy for what I have weather it be from Walmart or Payless(shoe store)..I not a materialistic person and I am VERY happy for what I do have, and when I do get something nice and somewhat expensive I just break down and cry..
      But people still judge me or my family, because they(certain people)look down at us..Or if we get something new for either us or the boys they start talking about us (in a bad way)..Why are people so judgemental and hateful..Will it ever change.




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      Susan Dahringer wrote May 11, 2009
    • ukgirl,  

      People are so damn ignorant..It’s unbelievable...People don’t take or make time to get to know someone long enough to know what you‘re all about...I’m low key as well..




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 11, 2009
    • Lord yesssssssssssss, and it gets old with me. I have learned that people will always judge another person if not only for their own insecurities, but for the reason of jealousy. No one knows another person's story and we should NEVER "judge a book per say by it's cover". No one knows another person's story we don't know what it took that person to have what they have, if their struggling to keep it or if they worked honestly and hard to be where they are in life and have the things they have. We all have a choice in life as to what path we want to take and what we need to do to become successful in life so when other's try to judge me based on my appearance, or where I live and the material things I've gained over the years, I always think back to my first experience when I made the conscious decision to follow Christ, "WE'RE YOU THERE WHEN HE, SAVED ME?" No you were'nt so you don't know my story and I move on from there.




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      Angelcart wrote May 11, 2009
    • Yes.  For me (fortunately) I don’t have to dress up anymore.  I can wear jeans to work everyday and do.  I had one lady tell me I should “dress age appropriately“.  Excuse me?  Because I don’t wear “Mom Jeans“?????  I still have all my nice dress clothes but am more myself in jeans and a cute fitted top.  

      People also assume we have $$$ when I tell them where I live.  My neighborhood is very eclectic - you have homes from the 100’s to 5Mil.  I had to go to traffic court and the judge actually asked me if I thought I was better than the other people in the court room!  Dud had a MAJOR attitude.  

      I don't feel the need to by brand names like I did when I was young.   (with the exception of jeans).




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      Angelcart wrote May 11, 2009
    • Also, our dearest friends moved away to Hill Country after IKE.  The first time we went to spend the weekend to see their new home my husband and I were THRILLED!  Now we have an awesome place to stay when we ride up there!  It’s absolutely the most stunning home I’ve been in.  We are very happy for them.  We could never afford a home like the one they bought but we both look at it like a blessing for them and again.......us!estatic




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      Marie66 wrote May 11, 2009
    • sdahringer,neicy,angel..Ya’ll are so right,What we do have my hubby has worked his butt off and their isn’t a day that I don’t thank God for him..So I make sure and tell the boys that you don’t have to live in a mansion or be driving a corvette, to be happy with yourself..I live in a nice home, nothing fancy and I dont wear fancy clothes, I’m a jeans girl kinda girl. It just bothers me when people start talking and they don’t know the REAL ME..




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      UK Girl wrote May 11, 2009
    • I don’t care anymore ....

      Plus I now use this back as I can see they are false and would only want to know me for the wrong reasons ...

      I am what I am and I’m happy ... so if they think because I have an accent I must be stupid more fool them .... what really shuts them up is when they find out where I live - I often think what empty lives they must have as they must only go round or know people who match their image of what is perfect




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      Angelcart wrote May 11, 2009
    • Marie - I agree with you.  My husband and myself have always worked to get what we have.  (no bailouts here).  Plus, we both have been through divorces which we all know is VERY costly.  I can honestly say that if we had tons of $$ I still wouldn’t want to live in a 5Mil home.  Too big, too much to take care of.  We live in a 2 story house and I hate that part of it.  When we retire I told him it has to be one story!




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      Kmarie wrote May 11, 2009
    • While I do work in an industry that people usually only dress to meet with bankers or investors or award luncheons, how one is groomed does seem to impact how willing people are to invest in your projects. Even in in formal settings, your background, your appearance ect.. is judged.




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      Fraz764 wrote May 11, 2009
    • If I have I could care less. I have learned over the years that what people think about me just really does not matter.  

      One thing that is very funny to me however, I drive an economy car by choice, don’t need a big one and because of environmental reasons. The job that I recently left is full of people who feel like the type of car you drive determines status; so of course they thought that I didn’t really have it going on,(Not that I do, but I am very happy with my life)  but, when I was able to quit my job, without having another one in this economy, people approached me saying the dumbest crap. Things like, I knew you had money, I wondered how you traveled so much..  

      So either way people are going to try to label you based on what they don’t know..which is why I don’t care what they think.




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      Jenz ~ wrote May 11, 2009
    • Not much, really. As far as judging others for what they would wear, where they live etc, that is always a mistake to do in my opinion. You never know who you‘re sitting next to or what sort of friend you could have etc.
      I like people of all walks of life and have always thought everyone has something to offer. happy




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      Stephanie Lawrence wrote May 11, 2009
    • Yes... it used to bother me when I was younger, but now I don’t even let it get to me. I’ve learned that people are going to judge and talk about you regardless, so I just go on and live my life to suit me and not let what other people say about me bother me.




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      Termite wrote May 11, 2009
    • Yep, everyday! I just ignore them, rude!!!




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      Mz. Queen wrote May 11, 2009
    • Small minds, they don’t deserve any of our time or attention. Be yourself.




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      Jane Woods wrote May 12, 2009
    • Well, it’s the way of the world isn’t it? And sadly, women are always judged more harshly than men. People make a judgement on us in the first 30 seconds. And as that is usually before we’ve opened our mouths that tends to be on what we look like, how we hold ourselves etc!

      Research on how people take in information about us divides up like this
      Words we say 7%
      Voice we say it in 38%
      Appearance 55%
      Sad but true and we all do it. On first impressions anyway.

      When I’m coaching women to interviews etc I always say take advatage of this and use it to give yourself a boost. But when you have the job dress how you want!!

      I am particularly aware of it when working. I have to stand up in front of a group of women who do not know me and I know probably every single one of them is making a judgement on me based on how I am dressed. Do I look like I know my stuff, do I look like I’m going to make them hug trees? Do I look cold and unapproachable? Do I look like someone they could talk to honestly? All those things are going through our heads on first meetings.

      I’m not saying it’s a bad judgement, simply that how I look is giving them info about me and if they form a negative opinion I have to ‘waste’ a part of my time with them while they realise that I am actually an expert at what I do. So, on first acquaintance I think very carefully about how I might be judged. But at home and in my private life I slop around in jeans, trainers, dressing gown, anything comfortable! Usually people from my professional life do not recognise me outside of work! Although my loud laugh is a bit of a giveaway....

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      Mjmurphy wrote May 12, 2009
    • Oh yes, I think this is definitely true. It really befuddles me that people think this way as I have never had this in me and often shock people by my lack of adherence to status roles. I see everyone as a person and will befriend anyone who is of a kind and gentle nature. I have shocked friends by talking with homeless people and crazy people in the store or on the street. I have also shocked people at work by not kowtowing to upper management just because they are someone important and in fact believe those individuals respect me because of it. When my girls were in school they always wanted to have the designer jeans, etc that the other kids had so they wouldn’t be looked down upon. I did the best I could to get them what they needed and occasionally get them things of that nature that they wanted. But I always told them that it did not make anyone better to have things, that they were special as a unique person. At the time they didn’t really care for what I said but they understand now and they are very kind to everyone no matter for status.




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      Jane Woods wrote May 13, 2009
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