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My sister in law was just diagnoised with Breast Cancer.  They went in yesterday and thought they would just have to remove the tumor from her breast and she would go through one week of radiation.  They found cancer in her lipnodoes too and now she will be going through Chemo and radiation.  My question is, what can she do to help with all the side effects of the medications? What helped you through this time in your life, emotional, physically and Spirtually.  I apologize if this is to personal of a question.  I live 1300 miles from her and just would like ideas on how I can help her through this being so far away.  Any suggestions on uplifting articles, books etc..  Thanks for all your help, your all amazing Women!

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      Hbrose wrote May 16, 2009
    • I don’t have any wonderful knowledge or advice on this issue itself. But can offer an idea—one that I shared with a very good friend when she was battling cancer...

      We established a time that I would call my friend each day. And we would take turns reading aloud one chapter from the book of her choice. This was our special friends book club. I knew how much this little thing meant to her, as well it helped me feel I was doing something to help bring a little piece of joy to her even when I couldn’t be there.




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      Smiley1962 wrote May 16, 2009
    • I went through chemo and radiation back in 2002 I was 39-1/2 years old.  It was a very difficult time for me.  What I found helped the most was having people there to listen, or just be with me when I cried. Always try to help her keep a positive attitude.   It is an emotionally roller coaster and the more support she has it will make her feel better.  Especially when she starts to lose her hair.  I think the worst part for me was when I lost my eyebrows.  I don’t know why, but that bothered me the most.  But just remember to be there anytime she needs you and listen.  Please never say to her I understand how you feel, unless you have experienced it.  I remember that is what I heard the most “I understand how you feel” but they don’t.  They did not experience it first hand.  Also, if she has someone there that can make sure she gets out and enjoys the fresh air everyday, it does help emotionally.  I will keep your sister-in-law in my prayers as well as her family and you.




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      Sandy H. wrote May 16, 2009
    • Thank you hbrose, that is an great idea, especially me being so far away.  I did contact all my nieces and asked them to start sending her cards, jokes, anything uplifting to brighten her days.  She just lost her husband a little over a year ago and now this.  Thanks again!.

      Sandy




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      Sandy H. wrote May 16, 2009
    • Thank you Smiley for your prayers.  My husband and I are going to try to go out there while she is going through the treatments to help out the other family members out in AZ.  

      Was there anything you took to help with the side effects of the medication?  I have heard giner is good.  

      Thanks again.

      Sandy




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      Aprn67 wrote May 16, 2009
    • Sandy,

      Hello....  I recently went through a battle with breast cancer.  As I read the questions about your sister in law I find myself having so many questions for you about her treatment regimen.  I don’t want to get too personal but the thoughts of them just removing the tumor scares me.  Did she discuss a mastectomy????  

      I am not sure what type of chemo she will be receiving but here are a few suggestions for the chemo I had.  I had 6 rounds of Adrimycin, Taxotere and Cytoxan.  The major side effects that I had was bone pain from the Taxotere.  It is an unbelievable pain.  Although I took pain medications it never seem to help.  I used the heating pad alot.  Also, I had major chemo brain.  I was very dizzy, foggy, my eyes couldn’t focus when reading, etc.  Was very scary.  

      Sandy, everyone reacts to the chemo differently.  If there is one suggestion I can give her.... Please please please... listen to your body!!!!  Rest when you are tired, don’t try to be a super hero.  Just ride this wave and get through it.  

      Feel free to contact me at [Link Removed] if she has more questions.


      Aprn67, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.




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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 16, 2009
    • The blog that LeeAnn posted yesterday has a link to the blog of her friend who has stage IV colon cancer.  In that blog the woman writes a list of to do and not to do when someone you know has been diagnosed with cancer.  She also writes about her chemo experience extensively- it might be a good resource for you.




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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 16, 2009
    • I did it again! Said LeeAnn meant Carol... I don’t know what is up with me and these two ladies but I always call them by the other one’s name. ohhhh




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      Susan Dahringer wrote May 16, 2009
    • No, for me , the question isn’t too personal..Because I have an aunt who had  breast cancer.She had to have a double radical masectomy over 30 years ago..The pain and the suffering from the radiation treatment made her sicker than a dog.We all dealt with it the way most families should with love and inspiring words and most of all affection.Just always be there for her any time day or night.My heart and prayer goes our for anyone who is afflicted with this disease.

      Sincerely,

      Susan




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      Deb Darby wrote May 16, 2009
    • Hi, Sandy.

      So sorry to read about your SIL.

      My husband, Michael is just coming out of treatment for base of tongue cancer. He did have a low-dose chemo and radiation. There are amazing new anti-nausea medicines. We‘re not sure if it was because of low-dose, but he never threw up once! She also needs to stay very hydrated. Michael’s protocol was for him to go in for IV hydration 2X / week and more if he felt he needed it. It really made a difference.  

      Radiation will make her extremely tired, especially toward the end.

      Spiritually, accept any and all prayers from anyone you know. We act on faith, and the Lord is the one who answers. We DON‘T know whose prayer He will answer. I do know that my friend and I got together at least over the phone, EVERY DAY to pray while he was going through chemo/rad. His scan after surgery showed that the doctor got all of the cancer out.

      Going to her will be very good, too. Michael’s son and family came when he was just getting started before Christmas. His sister came when he had his surgery April 8th, and my sister came 2 weeks ago. He loves to cut up with my sister, and each visit was exactly what he needed (me, too!) at the time.

      I’d like to invite you to join the Yada Yada Prayer Group. I’ll say a prayer for her right now.

      Deb




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      Mztracy wrote May 16, 2009
    • like all have said, just be there for her. my sister in year 5 of remission from stage 3 bc. all 15 of 15 nodes were cancerous. Remember, there is always hope!
      in my thoughts and blessings!




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      Jana Toohey wrote May 17, 2009
    • Did you see the thing on NBC news Friday about Ginger Root for nause during Chemo? I’m sure there are recipes for Ginger Root Lozenges that are supposed to help.. It’s something the alternative world has known for ages, now Western Docs are taking another look.  

      Recently received my diagnosis too. Humor works for me as there’s only a few that are going to see me cry. Personally, I’m going to try ALL the Remedies... including weed, as I’ve heard marijuana is the best remedy for chemo nausea. Sign me up.  

      Check in with her often & let her yack about all she’s learning. I know more about Estrogen Receptors than I ever thought I would, as research is my therapy. It’s so interesting, but I don’t think this is what most of my people care about it.  

      Emails, phone calls - just don’t let her think for one minute you’ve forgotten about her or don’t care. I can not imagine facing this without my husband. She needs to know you‘re there for her, if it’s to talk about  biology, frustrations about the medical system, fear, or the weather. She’ll let you know.




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      Sandy H. wrote May 17, 2009
    • Thank you so much for all the information. I know my sister in law will beat this.  She goes back to the Dr. on Thursday and will find out when the treatments start. I appreciate you sharing your stories with me.  Take care and have a wonderful Day!  

      Hugs!  

      Sandyestatic




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