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I have a boss that I am not very fond of although she thinks we are best buds because I “play the game” with her. She is demanding, overbearing and can be a raging bully at times. Although, I hold my own with her and don’t allow her to bully me. Just about everyone in the office finds it extremely hard working with her. Very recently, some rumors have been flying around about something bad that happened in her previous job and she was asked to resign. I have heard these rumors from very reliable sources and from a few “higher ups.” Should I tell her that these rumors are flying about so she can be aware or should I keep my mouth shut about it? These rumors flying around aren’t good...it was something bad that she did to someone. I just don’t know if I should be the one to tell her...I feel she has a right to know what is being said about her. I’m so confused as to what to do. Any suggestions?

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      Anne E wrote May 17, 2009
    • Definitely don’t say anything about the rumors to her or to anyone else at work.  You’ve heard that old saying about shooting the messenger.  If she asks you later one why you didn’t say something to her you can say that you didn’t want to spread such malicious lies about her- you simply chose to ignore them!




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      Mjmurphy wrote May 17, 2009
    • I’m with catfan on this, it doesn’t seem that it can do any good and you could have flack come back on you.




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      Susan Dahringer wrote May 17, 2009
    • Ang, I think it’s best to keep quiet about the rumor you heard.You know how it goes,especially if it’s coming from you is that she might assume it was you who started it. Let the sleep dog lay...

      Susan




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      Hbrose wrote May 18, 2009
    • I’m with the other ladies. You know the ol’ saying, “some things are better left unsaid“.




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      UK Girl wrote May 18, 2009
    • Keep quiet ........ say nothing and smile ...

      It’s called the karma train pulling in - your bullying boss is about to leave the platform quietly so you just watch from a distance... when these type of rumblings happen all the small people who have suffered her bullying will step up and make comments and in this economic climate she will be history ...... better not be tainted by association




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 18, 2009
    • Thanks Ladies! You’ve made my decision easier for me...I’m not going to say anything. As I think about it now...I could be the one to take the brunt of her anger over this situation so I’m going to keep quiet and see where the cards fall!




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      Angelcart wrote May 18, 2009
    • I would not say anything to her.  I would imagine she would take her anger out on you.




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      Karen Rhyshek wrote May 18, 2009
    • I agree.  The information would only upset her.  There is nothing she can do about it.  You would only be involving yourself in her misery (if any) over it.  My mom always said, “Misery loves company.”  And its true.  Don’t get involved.




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