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Why do men cheat?
All I have to say is, the man who cheated on me is often trying to cheat on his current wife with me, so does that little fact still make it my fault or maybe it’s her fault. B.S. the common denominator is still the one with the penis

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      Ellen Carter wrote May 23, 2009
    • I don’t think all men cheat.  The ones that do seem to be the ones that continue to do it in all their relationships.  They seem to think that if they got away with it in the past that they can do it again especially if they were forgiven.  I read somewhere that it is difficult at first, then cheating gets easier each time.  I don’t think they understand the pain, embarrassment, humilliation and feelings of betrayal that it causes the ones they love.  If they truly did, I don’t think they would do it.  Overall, I think it stems from being a very selfish person, who puts his feelings above the one he loves.




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 23, 2009
    • It is in a mans nature to cheat...it’s an instinct they have. I don’t know why...that is just how it is. Many men do not follow that instinct though but then many men do. I agree with ellen that once they do it each time for them gets easier. they do it just because they can. there really doesn’t have to be any particular reason although many do have their reasons. i’ve been cheated on by a couple of guys i’ve been with in my past...including my ex-husband but i refuse to believe it was ever my fault.




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      Jenni0811 wrote May 23, 2009
    • I also agree that there are men that Do Not Cheat.....or at least, I prefer to believe that.

      I have been cheated on in my first marriage. It was a fact I suspected, but was only just confirmed some 13-15 years later. He is still with the same woman. My perspective is that our relationship had hit it’s expiration date and he found the woman he was meant to be with.

      Now it’s my turn to find my guy...........




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      Mjmurphy wrote May 23, 2009
    • I like the expiration day comment Jenni, Lol, good way to put it!  

      Agree that if they cheated once, then they keep on doing it.




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      Tina Sickinger wrote May 23, 2009
    • I like all of your answers. I think Jenni is right. Sometimes you just outgrow one another and need to move on. Ang 68 has apparently run into the scum that just feel they‘re “entitled” to do it. How sad. Did any of you see the post from Friday night about that Dr. M. Gary Neuman and his book “The Truth About Cheating...Why Men Stray and How You Can Prevent It“? He was on the Oprah show and was blaming the woman for the man cheating! Now is that absurd or what? Anyway, the theory that came from that post was that people cheat due to something from their childhood. It doesn’t matter who they were with, until they receive the attention they are lacking, they cannot settle down and be faithful. I guess this could be another reason for cheating.




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      Jana Toohey wrote May 23, 2009
    • Many times, these men are cheating with women who are also married. We don’t talk so much about them, but sadly I know as many women that have cheated as men. Does she get more of a pass than he does?  

      Unfortunately, when someone gets caught up in the thrill, they just don’t see the destruction and bloody bodys that will be left on the side of the road until it’s too late.




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 24, 2009
    • Whoa Twinkie...I can’t believe this guy was blaming women for men cheating...that is crazy! I wish I had seen that! Relationships are hard enough as it is without worrying about preventing your man from cheating on you. I also agree with Jana that married women do just as much cheating as men. There are also those women that specifically look for married men to cheat with. It’s all disgusting if you ask me!




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      Mz. Queen wrote May 24, 2009
    • It is my belief that those who seek out married people to cheat with have commitment issues.




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      Mztracy wrote May 24, 2009
    • well not all men cheat!
      Those who do are just weak, scared, stupid, 'little' men.
      Insecure, pathetic individuals.
      And sorry, but there are no oops, mistakes!
      Those who outgrow a relationship, should just leave before they cheat.  

      Women cheat as well...

      Either way, it is not the person being cheated ons fault!! TYVM




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      UK Girl wrote May 24, 2009
    • Not all men cheat - my ex cheated but he was weak and flattered by a woman he worked with - was it my fault maybe because I’m very focused at work and I didn’t massage his ego 24/7 and she snook in and did ......

      Who knows but I do know those that cheat cause misery ..




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      Jana Toohey wrote May 24, 2009
    • My sisters husband left her & her 3 kids for a lady 20 years older than her (10 years older than him). She said he might as well have left her for another man. My sis stayed on good terms with everyone for the sake of the kids, and made us do the same. But when wife #2 had the nerve to come to my sister 5 years later crying because she was afraid he might be cheating - we all fell down laughing. He was a chronic cheater... serial cheater - whatever.




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      Doreen XoXo wrote May 24, 2009
    • It definately was not you  UK.  Nobody can make someone do what they dont want to.  Youre not to blame.  Although he probably would like you to believe it was your fault.  

      xoxo




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      La Shawn Henderson wrote May 25, 2009
    • The men that cheat do it because they are greedy. They want to have their cake and eat it too. I don’t believe it has a much do do with the woman as it had to do with the man. I’ve seen men who seem to have it all a beautiful loyal wife and they still cheat. It’s the player in them. I think Steve Harvey or some man said men cheat because they are weak. It’s a defect of character.  

      I also think some men cheat because they don’t know how else to get out of a relationship. There are some men who find it hard to break your heart with words so they do it with deeds. This way you leave them and they don’t have to feel guilty for leaving you.




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