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Would you have a baby after your 40’s years old?

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Well...I had a baby at 40 (my first one).  I just was never ready to have kids prior to 40.  I still hadn’t found Mr. Right yet, and I was not financially secure enough until I was in my late 30s.  Looking back, I was so immature and uneducated in my early 20s.  I would have been incapable of being a good role model.  I am happy with the choices I have made and wouldn’t have it any other way.

Now, with all that being said, I have to admit that I feel that pregnancy was very hard on my body because I was older.  And I also have to tolerate strangers when they assume that I am his grandmother when they see us out together.  I was prepared for that, but it still stings a little when someone asks if he is my grandson...or they assume that his teenage half sister is his mother.  

And on your reference to the fathers’ age, apparently men 40 and older have a greater risk of creating children with autism because of the way the sperm DNA mutates.  (I worried about this since both my husband and I were 40, but our baby is very healthy).


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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 28, 2009
    • NO WAY!!!!! Been there...done that...I’m looking forward to my freedom now! Not only that there are risks involved with women having children after their 40s.




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      Safari wrote May 28, 2009
    • Ang68,
      So what’s the reason many women are having babies close or after theirs 40’s?




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      Jenni0811 wrote May 28, 2009
    • Many women have spent the earlier years on education or careers...and now at 40 feel they can concentrate on having a family.




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      Safari wrote May 28, 2009
    • I heard or watched (don’t remember right now) that isn’t women age but the baby’s father age what matters. You can listen stories about old old old women having babies in great shape and healthy. I guess we have to do more researches about this. :)




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote May 28, 2009
    • I am 42, never had kids and at this point I personally do not want to start. But that’s me.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote May 28, 2009
    • I think between 35 and 40 is a good time to start a family. I had my first when I was 23. I kind of wish that I had been a little more stable and settled before having children.
      Mine are grown now and the only kind of babies I’m looking forward to at this point are Grandbabies!




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 28, 2009
    • Safari...I agree with Jenni that many women probably focus on their education and careers earlier in their life but not sure why they would want to wait so late to have children when the risks are so high. I haven’t heard much about the risks of older men fathering children...always thought it was more with the women. Guess I’ll have to research that one. Not for myself of course. happy




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      Marya1961 wrote May 28, 2009
    • I had my son at 26, enjoyed spending my youthful years with him and had lots of energy...at this age I look forward to grandchildren..estatic




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      Sandils1962 wrote May 28, 2009
    • I would love to have more babies, but only because I enjoy being pregnant.(no period)  I’ve babysat my grandson and that’s when I don’t want more.  They are too active for me and 47.
      Sandi




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      Bluerose wrote May 28, 2009
    • Nope!  I can’t deal with the cute little wobbly head at this stage of my life.




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      Fraz764 wrote May 28, 2009
    • Oh! But no!! I’m almost 45 and my baby is 17, I’m done!!estatic




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      Safari wrote May 28, 2009
    • Okay this was I heard about men age: A young man sperm isn’t the same as an old man sperm. Does it make sense to you?




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      Denise Richardson wrote May 28, 2009
    • NO!!! I planned my children, I told my ex-hubby after we were married at age 20 if he wanted kids lets get busy because after 25 I wasn’t having anymore. Well my first came when I was 21, and my last came at 24 I’m done lol.




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      Lujack wrote May 28, 2009
    • I had my first child at the age of thirty-five and second child at thirty-eight.  I did not even consider having children until I was in my thirties.




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      Safari wrote May 28, 2009
    • “Never say No” lol.




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      Chrisc wrote May 28, 2009
    • Well...I had a baby at 40 (my first one).  I just was never ready to have kids prior to 40.  I still hadn’t found Mr. Right yet, and I was not financially secure enough until I was in my late 30s.  Looking back, I was so immature and uneducated in my early 20s.  I would have been incapable of being a good role model.  I am happy with the choices I have made and wouldn’t have it any other way.

      Now, with all that being said, I have to admit that I feel that pregnancy was very hard on my body because I was older.  And I also have to tolerate strangers when they assume that I am his grandmother when they see us out together.  I was prepared for that, but it still stings a little when someone asks if he is my grandson...or they assume that his teenage half sister is his mother.  

      And on your reference to the fathers’ age, apparently men 40 and older have a greater risk of creating children with autism because of the way the sperm DNA mutates.  (I worried about this since both my husband and I were 40, but our baby is very healthy).




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      Tuliplady wrote May 28, 2009
    • If I had no children, I suppose I would consider a baby now.  But NO.  I’ve been there, done all that, not sure my body would handle having another baby, even if I wanted one.  My youngest is 14 and I like it that way.




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      Susan Dahringer wrote May 28, 2009
    • As much as I love children,and have 3 of my own..I would not want to have one in my 40’s..Too many risks involved..




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      Raquel2526 wrote May 28, 2009
    • YES!  I was married at 32, had son #1 at 34, son #2 at 37.  Although parenting is challenging and tiresome, there is no better feeling than to have a family life with kids.  So, at age 40, we began trying to conceive again.

      Being an older parent was a good thing for me and my husband.  We had great lives as single people and as a younger, childless couple.  Higher education, mortgages, finances, travel, dating before marriage...  all that was out of our system and we were ready to tackle - and enjoy - the selflessness of parenting.

      And—- just this week, at age 41, I got a positive pregnancy test!  I’m thinking positive thoughts as we get through this tricky first semester...




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      La Shawn Henderson wrote May 28, 2009
    • I’m with Ang, not on your life. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’m ready to be foot loose and fancy free. I’m ready to live life for me. I will always be a mother so I have nothing to prove. And to tell the truth I don’t have the energy to start all over again.




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      Jewelrybyirina wrote May 28, 2009
    • Hi Raquel,
      Congratulations!  I am so Happy for you!!!!

      Irina
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      Doreen XoXo wrote May 28, 2009
    • Absolutely, unequivically NO!!!!!!!




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      Doreen XoXo wrote May 28, 2009
    • That “no period” stage is right around the corner for me.....and Im not pregnant!!  Woohoo!! Menopause....it’s a great thing...I think??????????




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      Safari wrote May 29, 2009
    • Hi Raquel,
      Congratulations! My best vibes for you and your pregnancy!!@41!!




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Personally, I would not. We like that they are grown and we have our freedom to do whatever we want. My friend had her second baby at 47. She said it was a lot tougher on her physically and she admitted the other day she had no idea the toll this baby would take on her! Her husband travels a lot so she is home alone with the kids. She had her first baby in her late 30’s. Congratulations Raquel!happy




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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Funny how life works... I had my children young. I was 20 with my oldest and 22 with my youngest. For many years I just knew that I had had them too young and wished I had waited until later in life.

      When I was in my late 20’s I started getting sick. Then later, when I was in my mid 30’s was when I was diagnosed. It was then that I was glad that I had already had my children because I would not be able to withstand pregnancy thereafter.

      Incidentally, I became pregnant with both of my daughters while taking birth control pills! At first it was a ‘OMG, this can’t be’ thing. Reflecting later in life, it was GOD’s way of giving me the gift of children when it was MY TIME to do so, even though I didn’t think so then!! happy




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