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How would you handle a situation. You have a happy hour with 2 friends that never met each other-you rarely see one of them (not by choice) she has been too busy w/her guy. You find out later the 2 of your friends exchanged #’s and have spent time chatting often on the phone and getting together not including you. You have been friends with one of them for 5 years (one w/boyfriend) other friend 1 year.

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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • Be glad your friends want to get to know one another.  Much easier to have friends who get along than who can’t stand each other.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • It’s always nice to meet new people and realize you have something In common with them. Maybe your friends realized they had something In common and they began chatting and now getting together. I don’t know about the part where they don’t Invite you, But I am thinking because this Is a new friendship for the both of them that they just got caught up In the moment. When things slow down for them, you will all be getting together and hanging out In no time happy




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      Anonymous wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • In my opinion if your friend of several years hasnt had time for you where did she make time for your friend? Proritize, by asking you first to do something or the 3 of you-excluding you to me is a big no no.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • True, but at the same time, this friendship Is new to both of them so am thinking cause they just became friends, they are getting to know one another and probably not even thinking how much this hurts you. Maybe you should have a talk with your friend who you have known longer and ask her about the situation, maybe shes not realizing what she Is doing. Just a thought.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • I have been in both places.  The one that seemed to steal the friendship away as well as the recipient.  I have to say, “let it be.”




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • I would have to examine the content of each of my friendships with these women. I have friends who I really enjoy being with; the conversation is light, we laugh, we have similar interests and we both come away with a good feeling after spending time together. I also have friendships with people who, while I really care about them, I come away tired or not in a good mood after spending time with them; we either really don’t have much in common or I feel like I’m always a sounding board for their problems.

      I’ve had friends who have gone to others because they need a new ear to listen to their problems. I have lost friends because I was in an abusive situation at home and they were tired of hearing me complain with no followup action. I have also lost friends because they connected with others who they had more in common with.

      I don’t know if any of this is making sense but it’s just a thought.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • Hello. I don’t think I’d worry about it much, really. Understandably, you probably raised an eyebrow when you noticed time made for the other person, however, I’m sure it’s not an intent to blow you off. Just carry on as normal and perhaps plan something for all of you to do together. Dinner or shopping or something. happy




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      Coachmombabe wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • It’s so easy to get hurt feelings and take things personally. I’ve experienced something similar myself, years ago. Interestingly enough, when I pushed past the feelings and decided it was okay for them to also be close friends, it has brought us all much closer through the years. Sometimes I get together with both of them, sometimes one, and sometimes they get together—without me. It’s all good. estatic




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      Susan Dahringer wrote Jun 7, 2009
    • It’s nice to be included in joining them for happy hour,but to exclude you on everything.So subtly add this into the conversation at the next happy hour..




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