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If you and ask for and get an apology, do you accept it and move on?

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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • If I give someone an Apology, It’s up to them whether they accept It or not, but at least I know that I have apologized and that makes me feel better. Now If someone apologizes to me, well I guess It depends on how big the situation was, but I always accept an apology, I just don’t forget.




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      Susan Dahringer wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Oh yes , forgive and forget is always the best...I dislike those who dwell on the issue..




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Let me explaine my I don’t forget..I don’t forget If they are apologizing for the same thing over and over, and It doesn’t mean I dwell on It. When I say I don’t forget, It just means It’s still In my mind but I don’t make It my life. happy Just saying

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      Lazylola wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Perhaps I should have elaborated...if you ask for one as opposed to one that is offered...

      I was in a situation where the other person asked for then demanded an apology, we argued back and forth, I did not feel that I was in the wrong, it was simply a matter of different opinions, she stated hers, I stated mine, we didn’t agree on the topic, yet she felt that she needed to hear an apology from me. So after listening to her carry on about me being wrong I apologized (merely to shut her up at this point). My thing is if someone offers an apology I will take it as being more sincere as opposed to asking/demanding that someone apologize to me. To me it doesn’t carry any sincerety if I have to ask for it...




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • With me, an apology isn’t really necessary if it is something minor. Just get past it and move on. However, if it is something major and it keeps happening over and over again I’ll choose not to bother with that person.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Try to at least.  It becomes easier with age - the brain is overstocked.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Oh.. the demanding an apology, well If I know I am wrong then I do apologize. If the other person Is wrong and they don’t apoligize, then I just leave It at that, I don’t want to argue and In time I am sure they will apoligize when they are ready. Because sometimes a person will know they are wrong but are too stubborn to do the apoligizing.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Lola I agree. If someone willingingly comes to me with an apology then I graciously accept it but if someone tells that person to apologize to me then it is not the same...it means nothing to me.

      I had this exact situation happen to me a couple of weeks ago. A woman in a high ranking position came to me about something and was verbally abusive and put her hands in my face. I asked her why she was yelling and she claimed she wasn’t and continued on with the tirade. I finally turned my back on her and told her I didn’t like her attitude. That was all I could do if I wanted to keep my job. Anyway she couldn’t believe I said that to her and she stormed away from me. She NEVER apologized! My union rep went to her boss and told what happened and he made her give me a written apology. She wrote some words down but never owned what she did. So I am having a hard time dealing with this woman now and just letting everything go...but I know I have to.

      Sorry for rambling but I needed to tell this story when I saw this post.




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      Stephanie Lawrence wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Yes I always accept the apology and forgive,sometimes it’s hard for me to forget but I never let it stand in the way.




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      Lazylola wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Renee, so true, I meant no sincerety when I apologized, I adore this friend, but we were at a stalemate and it was not coming to an end until she got her apology. So she got it, I was ready to demand one back for all the back and forth we did over it. That is one of her faults is she won’t let something go, we laughed about it afterwards but she still believes she was owed an apology because I did not agree with her. estatic




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      Lazylola wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Ang, thanks for sharing your story, I have been upfront with my friend about my insincerety, she seems to not listen to that, she feels vindicated that she got her apology even though I have told her they were just words to shut her up. estatic I’m sorry to hear about the treatment you received, I’ve been in those same situations at work and cannot understand how people can behave like this. I still don’t understand my friend on this issue, she is a bright, caring, sensitive person but this is not something she is letting go. I forgive her and I’d like to forget it and move on from it. I’ve learned that some issues are not worthy of discussion with her.




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      Saylor101 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • If you ASK for it then you certainly should accept it - otherwise what was the point in asking?  A power play?

      I don’t think you should ever HAVE to ask for one....but If you did decide to ask and feel it wasn’t sincere than it sounds like it is a person you shouldn’t waste time on anyhow.




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      Lazylola wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • Excellent points you make Saylor, I do hope we can get past this. It would be a shame to become estranged over something that started as trivial. I don’t understand the point in asking for an apology, better yet would be to say to the other person “What you said/did, hurt me.” I can honestly then offer an apology for hurting someones feelings, but I will not apologize for having a different opinion.




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      Terri Quinn wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • I both accept apologies and apologize when I’m in the wrong and I’m not one of those who is afraid ,ashamed or too proud to admit that I’m wrong.  

      I’m not one to hold grudge’s and keep picking at an old wound so to speak if someone has apologized . Meaning if there was an argument I’m not one to dig  things up over and over.  

      Besides I hate to argue. I’m a lover not a fighter.estatic




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      Mzd3 wrote Jun 12, 2009
    • I don’t ask for an apology because I feel if I have to ask, they do not mean it anyway.




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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jun 14, 2009
    • I always apologize, but I never ask for one. If I have to ask, then it’s not sincere. If it comes from your heart, you‘re going to give it freely without provoking.

      If you do apoligize sincerely, I will always forgive. I may not forget. It stores in the back of my mind in case it happens again. You only get so many chances to apologize for the same thing until I get tired of it, ya know? frown




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