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anonymous Anonymous

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Please don’t become angry because I’m anonymous.  There is someone on this site who works at the same place I do and she knows who I am.  

I need your help and opinion—Here it goes:  

I worked at my job for 5 years and the vice president has always given me the cold shoulder. First I thought he may be oblivious, but turns out he is friendly to everyone else.  He was not fond at all with a co-worker I had befriended, and I feel that it might very well be “guilty of association“.  But, everyone else seemed to have befriend her as well.  

I feel ostracized when he walks in the room and greets everyone—minus me.  First I felt I should not take this personally, but how could I not?  I work there. I’m not invisible and I do have feelings.  

I have already emailed him with my concerns, but he did NOT acknowledge it.  What would you do? This is major FAVORTISM!!!!

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      Monkish wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • Yes go to HR, but remember it would be better if you made your boss look good somehow.  The way to get ahead is to make him look good.  I am sure he would talk to you then also.




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      Anonymous wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • Thanks Marcy,  

      Where I work seems a bit corrupt sometimes.  My boss is buddy buddy with him.  Their relationship is beyond professional—they know each other on a personal level.  

      Marcy, I’m so sick of this type of office politics that I really would like to get the heck out of there, but I want to with dignity!  

      His former secretary told me that he treats people with disrespect if they‘re not college educated /no degree. Do you think that could be true?




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      Termite wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • I was wondering the same thing Term. I’m afraid she will figure out who you are.
      But anyways,
      I agree, don’t let him know this bothers you. I would treat him the same way he treats you. You have tried, he declined, now the problem is his!




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      Anonymous wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • I appreciate your concerns ladies, but the only way she would know who I am is if she’d see my profile photo. We‘re not considered co-workers; we just work at the same company and different departments.




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      Anonymous wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • I’ll just leave this alone.  I’ll give the cold shoulder also.  I’ll turn this into a positive: I will do my very best to become a successful businesswoman and leave with my head up high!!!!  I hate BS office politics!!!!!!!!!




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • I agree with Marcie, you should talk to him face to face.
      And I don’t think anyone should get angry because your Anonymous. We shouldn’t have to feel like people are going to be angry for using something they give us a choice on here to use. But I know you don’t want this other person to know who you are. Good luck with your situation and hope things work out happy




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      L J wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • i hate to say it but i would say to hell with him, cause he puts his shoes on the same way you do and he is no better than you are and just ignore him when he comes in and do your job and be yourself with everyone else and don't worry about it!
      [ i have been there! in a corporate environment!]




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I’m with LJ...don’t worry about it! There is always going to be someone somewhere who doesn’t like you. If you know you haven’t personally done anything to offend this person then there really isn’t much you can do about whether or not he likes you. Just do your job and ignore him unless you need to deal with him on work related issues. Is he really someone you want to have a friendship with? I know I wouldn’t care to be friends with someone who can’t be bothered to speak to me or gives me the cold shoulder.

      If it bothers you that much then perhaps you can go into his office and very professionally ask him if there is something you did to offend him because you seem to always get a cold shoulder from him and you feel left out from the warm greetings he gives everyone else.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • When I had difficulty like that in two of my previous jobs..I quit and saved myself the aggravation and stress of dealing with a person like that...maybe he hasn’t gotten laid in a while!!..lol..tongue out




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      Jodi Geiger wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Hi Annoymous -
      Depending on how large your company is and how “friendly” the office really is - because I’m a little more bold - I would knock on his door, and say - “I think we need to have a chat“, you lead the conversation but not in a “girly, needy” way,- more professional by saying that thru your observations on more than one occassion you have not ackknowledge me, Is there something that I’ve done personally to you that I need to correct so that our business relationship can be at it’s best during work hours?
      If you know there is no reason for his behavior, take whatever he says and then thank him for his time and that you got a chance to clear the air.
      I like the answer that Angell Law wrote - too!




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      Kenya wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Anon, you have already emailed him your concerns if he hasn’t responded then he isn’t concerned. If he can’t man up then let it roll off your shoulders. Don’t take it personally. Don’t let him dictate who you should be friends with. For him to be in such a high position he is stooping very low. But if I were you the next time he walks into a room and greets everyone except you I would make it appoint to say hello loud  enough just to force him to respond and put him on the spot. Then let it go. You have to sometimes laugh at situations like that. I have been in many at my job.




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      3sa wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I would do exactly what Kenya said.....I would say...HELLLLLLOOOOO what am I invisible...and then laugh my big azz off.....




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      Jenz ~ wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Don’t email that person again. Ignore the who’s nice to whom stuff and just do your job. You can have personal friends outside of work.
      Just let it bounce right off of you as though you don’t even notice.




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