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Hi~ I have been ‘abandoned’ by my husband of over 11 yrs. He had been waiting in a settlement from a large company,I had supported us for most of our marriage. My 7 yr. old daughter and I are now homeless, he took EVERYTHING I had and got rid of it. I have no money for an atty. I REALLY need my 1/2 of the settlement, which I am legally entitled to.
How do I get my half when I can not even get in touch with him? I am unable to work now,because of health problems.

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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • You really need an attorney.  Perhaps try to find one that will do a continent fee.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Jun 15, 2009
    • I’m sorry to hear about that.
      The only thing I can think of is 1) call the police. or 2) call the district attorney. If the settlement is big enough they will take the case and their share when you get your money.




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      UK Girl wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Do you now have citizens advice in the US or pro bono lawyers who work on no fee unless settlement ?
      Go to the City Hall they should have a place where you can check this out




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I hate to hear of your loss, but there is help out there. Do you have his social security number, where does he work? There are ways of finding him and as UKGirl has said there are attorney’s who will work for you if they feel you have a legit case and won’t charge you unless you win look into this at your local city hall, get out he phone book and do your research on get online and search. There is always one way to skin a cat. I wish you much luck and success in your journey to win all that you have lost.




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      Monkish wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I have a friend in a similar situation but he spent all the money and she knows where he is but that does not help the fact that the bank is foreclosing on the house. She only has a teenage son but he was not the father so no child support.
      I definitely think something can be done.  Men who do not pay child support and the wife collects assistance will have to pay child support to the court.  You need to go to the state and ask for assistance right away.  Tell them the situation and they might tell you how to find him and make him pay.  They might do it for you since you will be collecting money.  The government wants to collect from him also.




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      Carolnphil wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Get an attorney NOW!  You need copies of your tax returns which you can get from the IRS.  You can get copies of bank account statements from the bank IF your name was on the account(s).  You can get copies of your marriage record from the courthouse of the county that you were married in.  Was your name on the mortgage or deed to your house?  Get copies of both which should have been filed in the courthouse of the county you live in.  How about property tax payments?  Get copies.  Good luck.




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      Sandils1962 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • You are in my prayers.  I’m so sorry for what you are going through.




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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Good advice so far sweetie. Try contacting a Legal Aid Society if you have one there. We have one here and if they can’t help you, they can at least point you in the right direction.

      Thoughts and prayers are with you.




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      Tine wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I’m so sorry for what you‘re going through. First off, get an attorney, he/she may be able to get his location from the company who provided him with the settlement, and find where the $ was deposited and then get possibly a court order to obtain the info from the bank. Depending upon the amount of the settlement, you may be able to find an attorney that will take a contingency fee and not have to put any $ up front.
      Best of Luck I will be thinking of you.




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      Marie66 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I’m so sorry for what you are going thru. Do you have legal aid where you live? You are intitled to half the money and can get child support.. I know you are going thru some hard times right now, but DO NOT give up!!

      My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter..




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I’m so sorry for what you are going through. frown

      The suggestion of legal aid is a great one! Hopefully there is a Legal Aid Society in your area. You definitely need to get legal advice on what to do and how to move forward with this. They may be able to give you #’s of attorney’s that handle pro-bono cases.

      Good luck to you...I’ll keep you in my prayers.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • The most important thing right now is that you and your daughter have shelter and food to eat..are you currently staying with family/friends?..there are local women’s organizations that help in these type of matters...they can help you get the proper legal aid, find temporary housing (even if it a shelter type environment) if needed, etc...do not wait..act now, it is serious...not sure where you are located, but look in your phone book under local listings for women’s shelters..you can explain your situation and they should be able to direct you from there..I hope the best for you and your daughter..God Bless!




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      Jodi Geiger wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Contact your local family services thru your city and also a women’s crisis shelter where there is counseling and help for all of this.




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      Anne E wrote Jun 17, 2009
    • Dolphin,
      I just wnted to wish you the best with your difficult situation.  I hope you’ve been able to find a lawyer.  From what I understand, your husband should be responsible for paying your lawyer’s fees since he makes so much more money than you.




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