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Does anyone here, after 5 plus yrs, have a ex-husband that refuses to talk to you and still holds a grudge and is still resentful?

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      Mz. Queen wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • If you don’t have young children, do you really care if he ever speaks to you. I wouldn’t.




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      Joni Marie wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • not so much young children, but we have young “grand” children, so it would be nice if he wasn’t such a poop head, you know what i mean?  you have to make peace with the past and move forward.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • I feel bad that he makes you feel bad.
      Sometimes an apology is not accepted. And you just have to swallow your pride and step aside - dont allow his problem to mess you up.
      if God is love and wisdom- and if Jesus is forgiveness...
      Maybe you can see how it is his problem; his integrity is lacking ‘forgiveness’ there is nothing you can do to fix it. Just keep thinking good of him and for good to come his way.




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      Janet Wooley wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • He is only hurting himself if he wants to be that way what can you do? Just enjoy the kids and know in your heart you tried to make ammends. Some people just don’t get it and that is too bad because what goes around comes around. You can only control yourself.If you could control him you’d already have poop head fixed and over with it. Right?




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      L J wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • why does he hold a grudge?
      what is his problem?
      i have an ex that was like that and i can't be around him without snapping back, and i have a son that's his!
      he took it out on my son and

      • he has not seen my son but one time in his whole life ...*
        LJ



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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jun 23, 2009
    • Joni, I understand completely. Ex and I have been divorced for over 24 years now and he still barely speaks to me. We rarely talk as it is, and that’s ok, but like you said, there are grandkids and you somehow end up in the conversation somehow with the kids (or we do anyway) and he is very cold. We had a really bad divorce. There was a lot of hurt and hard feelings and he still carries that to this day.

      I forgave a long time ago and moved on with my life. I remarried 13 1/2 years ago and couldn’t be happier with my life and I don’t give him much of a thought unless one of the girls mention him or something. He, however, has been married 3 times since our divorce and still tries to cause trouble for me every chance he gets by butting into my relationships with my kids. What’s with that? Why can’t they let go and move on? He told me once during the divorce that he didn’t want me but he didn’t want anybody else to have me either. Crazy I tell ya!! ohhhh

      If you figure it out, will you please let me know?




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      Tuliplady wrote Jun 24, 2009
    • I have an ex like that too.  Makes it especially hard since we still have minor children.

      When our younger daughter had her car accident, he had the nerve to call our  older daughter and ask her to call me.  She told him where to go and told him he’d have to call me himself, which he finally did about an hour later.  He wouldn’t even talk to me when I got to the hospital till I got him cornered and got right in his face.

      He’s an ass.  Every time I have to deal with him it reminds me all over again why I left him.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jun 24, 2009
    • I’m in agreeance with 47, if there are no children why do you care, if he wants to go through life holding on to grudges and being rude, mean and just miserable let him as long as YOU have a forgiving heart and has forgave him and moved on so be it! It’s his blessings he missing out on NOT YOU! and besides you‘re getting remarried so what’s the big deal about him???




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      Angelcart wrote Jun 24, 2009
    • Yep.  Divorced when my son was 9.  He cheated (and she ended up pregnant with twins!) so I knew I couldn’t remain married to him.  He promised me the world to not file.  He made it as rough on me as possible by “always having to work late, weekends, etc.“.  I have forgiven him for what he did (he has to live with it and the child support payments not me).  Now that our son is 19 we never speak.  It bothered me when I would try to discuss our son with him but now I don’t have to speak with him about anything.  Can’t recall the last time we spoke.




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      Anne E wrote Jun 24, 2009
    • My ex is like that.  he will speak to me if I initiate a call, but never asks how our daughter is doing.  She never wants to see him- it’s been over 10 months- and you think he’d call me to find out why she never returns his phone calls or e-mails!

      I look forward to the day my daughter turns 18 and we never have to deal with him again (I know he won’t be shelling out a dime for college, wedding, etc).  It’s very hard for me to forgive him as he was a terrible husband and left me with nothing when we got divorced.

      Try not to let your ex have any power over you.  It’s so hard to make peace with this sort of situation. Best of luck.




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      Pamela Hutson wrote Jun 24, 2009
    • Yes and luckily our children are grown so there really hasn’t been a need or reason to have to communicate with each other. But in the past couple of months his wife is now trying to become my new BFF and I don’t know this woman................Thank goodness I live over 2000 miles from them now!




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      45nfabulous wrote Jun 25, 2009
    • It’s been three years since my divorce and my ex is still absolutely hateful.  He even insisted that my kids stay with him one day after I had foot surgery and could not walk. (It was his weekend, but come on!) My children are teenagers and he knew that they would be helpful to me. I will be so happy when I no longer have to deal with him, but I am disappointed that we couldnt be friends for the childrens sake.




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      Lazylola wrote Jul 5, 2009
    • Ex # 1 was resentful for many years, insisting on using his mom as a go between our son, I refused to put his mother in the middle and let him know that I could care less to talk to him but if he wanted to know about our son he had to talk to me and not put other people in the middle. A few years ago he finally was able to see he was wrong and apologized. We are civil to each other but I have nothing to say to him unless it is about our son, and he is 23 now so we don’t speak too often.




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