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Have you ever sought help from a therapist when things weren’t going so good in your life? If so, did you find it helped your situation...if not, would you ever consider going to one if you had an issue?

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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • I never wanted to talk to a stranger about my personal issues but I found when I was going through this last breakup with my ex that I needed help in the worst way so that I could break my co-dependent behavior and keep my ex out of my life once and for all. It was the best decision I ever made and I would do it again if another issue was to creep up in my life. Those therapy sessions also helped me in other areas of my life.

      My 17 year old has been having some issues and I just started bringing him to see someone. I am hopeful that this therapist will be able to help my son work through some things. My son doesn’t think he needs any help but I think he will be very surprised what will come out of those sessions.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Back in my 1st marriage we sought marriage counseling for a year but it didn’t help him, he continued to be permiscuious and that is what lead to our divorce, but for me it gave me some insight on me and how NOT to make the same mistakes in future relationships where I was too trusting in men as well as how to be more demanding in my selection of men. As far as going back to one in the future I think NOT! I have the ultimate COUNSELOR in my life now.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Never been to a therapist before, but I wouldn’t say I would not ever go to one. I have been thinking about what It would be like to actually go and talk to one about something very personal that happened to me when I was younger and maybe It’s taken over the way I deal with my life now but then I am not sure I can tell a stranger things like that. I just think about going but I don’t.




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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • I always talked to my pastor or his wife. That seemed to help me very much. My husband & I had marriage counseling with our pastor and that was really helpful as well. I also got involved in a group session and seeing others sharing with others that have simular situations helped me to not feel so isolated and they gave me good advise but most of all I could hear what they were saying and take an honest look at myself. I tend to think people close to me like family members could not relate and did not listen to them or take their advise.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Frannie...I used to feel the same way about talking to a strange person but things got to a point in my life where I just couldn’t deal and I needed some advice from a professional to help me figure things out and give me the tools to mentally live a healthier life. Why don’t you give it a try...you won’t be any worse off if you find you don’t like it. happy




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      Doreen XoXo wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Im still in therapy.  Three years now. I almost dont want to end that “relationship” I have with her.  I was in a very bad way then.  My daughter was dating the worst possible person in the world and forced him on me.  My son went and bought a motorcycle when he was told not to or he would be thrown out.  Well, I threw him out.  (I did have him move back in.  Him not being home was worse for me) It was a really bad time in my life with everything else just piling on.  It seemed as if everything bad that ever happened prior to this just came tumbling down on me.  I was a basket case. I couldnt even speak without breaking down. Then in 2007, my son was in a horrific motorcycle accident but is alive and doing well.  His arm will never be the same but he still has it!  Quick thinking on the surgeons’ part.    Well, here it is two years later and Im has happy as a pig in crap!!  Im not so hard on myself and have learned that no matter what I do or say, I cannot control anybody or anything other than myself and/or my own actions.  Very hard learning to not be an enabler.  I still enable to some degree but Im a work in progress!!

      xoxo




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Originally, I was very anti-therapy.  My culture did not support that.  From my experience, if I find a good one, it is very beneficial.  My company even offer free phone therapy sessions.  Nowadays, I am all for it.  

      However, this is like going to church.... you put in what you get out.  You need to be opened and willing. happy




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Doreen let me first say that I am so happy your son is alive and well...hallelujah! It’s so wonderful that you took the necessary steps to get some therapy for the situation you were going through. I agree that it’s hard learning to not be an enabler. I still read my self-help books. When I was in therapy I learned that I was co-dependent in other areas of my life other than with my ex. I’m still working on those areas.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • There was a time when I really wanted therapy.

      I agree with cd that you get out of it what you put into it. If you have an inner critic and you criticize the therapist then its not going to work. But if you just let go and try to get your moneys worth. Then you will feel the payback.




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      Deb Darby wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Absolutely! Therapy saved my marriage by helping us both change. To me, it’s like going to the doctor for a physical problem. If I ever need help with my emotions or relationships, I will set up a session or two as a refresher. As far as telling a stranger...have you ever tried to tell a friend or family member something and had them try to “fix” your problem, give you advice (alot of times bad) or just dismiss you by saying something like, “Oh, everything will be OK“? There is REAL help available. A friend and former counselor of my daughter’s now does “check-up” weekends. I haven’t been to one, but I think it’s a great idea.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jul 12, 2009
    • Last year when I was going through a long illness which forced the fibromyalgia to surface...I enlisted the help of my pastor who sat and talked with me and my family for weeks...it was very beneficial and therapeutic and I would do it again with a therapist if I had to...it also prepared me for my third surgery that I had early this year.




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      Deanna Moon wrote Jul 13, 2009
    • I have gone to therapy in the past, and I would consider going again if I need to.  My Mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimers and put in a nursing home, so I may need counseling to help me get through this.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jul 13, 2009
    • Deanna I’m sorry to hear about your Mom. I don’t know much about Alzheimer’s but I worry about it with my folks too as they are getting up in years. Have you talked to the doctors and nurses about what to expect? Perhaps they can put you in touch with the people who specialize in this type of illness and can guide you along the way in how to help you mentally deal with it. Good luck...hang in there!




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      Angelcart wrote Jul 13, 2009
    • Yes in my first marriage.  I knew I wasn't happy anymore and went to see a therapist for all the wrong reasons though.  I wanted HER  to tell me to get a divorce but she wouldn't, instead she gave me "exercises" to do.  Pffffttt....not what I wanted to hear!




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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jul 13, 2009
    • Absolutely....I have been in the past and would go again. i think Debj hit the nail on the head!
      We see a Doctor for our physical health, why would we hesitate to get help for our mental health...it is just as important, if not more so as our mental health effects so much of our physical health.
      I applaud you Angell for your attitude about this matter and for getting your son the help he needs now while it is still in your control. Once he is over 18, chances are, he would not do it on his own had it not been for you opening that door to him. Hopefully now if this is still an issue for him then, he will continue with his therapy.




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Jul 15, 2009
    • Thanks Twinkie...you are right...I know he would never go to therapy on his own so I am going to keep him in for the next school year coming up since it is his last and hope for good results by the time he graduates. He of course doesn’t think he needs it but I am insisting that he go and I think in the end he will thank me for it.

      Bernadatte how right you are! Spiritual grounding, social groups and exercise are all very important and help a person with staying mentally healthy. I know my realtionship with The Lord helps me deal with many situations on a daily basis that if I didn’t have Him in my life I think I wouldn’t be able to mentally handle most of the situations I find myself in. So that was a great point!




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