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How do you MAKE your child pay rent?

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Sit her down and let her know she needs to contribute towards the use of what she is consuming, either she can bring snacks and keep them there or you will take money from her monthly to cover snacks, same with laundry supplies, she can provide her own supplies, or let her know she can pay per load. As for the computer usage, you can always password protect it. Most libraries have computers for free internet use...just some ideas, I’ve used these with my oldest...it worked for us.


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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • My daughter is a 21yo flower child- She is okay with living in her car or tent city.  She comes over about 2-3 times a week and catches up on her MySpace, eats, calls her friends, eats, takes a shower/ bathe, does her laundry and leaves the house a mess! She works 25- 30 hrs a week.
      It does drive me crazy with all the drama and I dont like it at all. But I feel like I am enabling her lifestyle choice.
      Oh- what can I do?




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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • Hard to call it rent if she isnt livng there....But to come over and USE all the things she does, you could charge for that, $10 per hour, or whatever, or she cant have the use of the house.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • Ahh- very smart.
      Thank you




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      Lazylola wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • Sit her down and let her know she needs to contribute towards the use of what she is consuming, either she can bring snacks and keep them there or you will take money from her monthly to cover snacks, same with laundry supplies, she can provide her own supplies, or let her know she can pay per load. As for the computer usage, you can always password protect it. Most libraries have computers for free internet use...just some ideas, I’ve used these with my oldest...it worked for us.




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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • Change the locks.




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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • Don’t have snacks and shampoo or laundry detergent where she can get it and tell her to bring her own or contribute to the pot to help buy more because these things are not free.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 30, 2009
    • LOL tulip!

      Bringing her own supplies/ food just might work too. I talked to her about the “hourly usage” fee. She seemed okay with that but I dont know if it will work (now) because she will come over and be like I dont have any money and I am really liking the idea of her putting her name on her own supplies. Then she can feel the cost of peanut butter, cheese, and whatever else.
      Thank you so much for these ideas.




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      UK Girl wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • Starve them , don't do washing and remove all electrical items from their room including hair appliances ....... seriously it worked for my cousins and they buckled and got rent. The hairdryer and  the lack of TV and music / computer got them .........




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      La Shawn Henderson wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • My daughter will be 18 in September and we have already had the conversation that she will have to pay rent. I’m charging her 35 dollars per week.




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      Jenz ~ wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • I had to deal with an issue like this a few months ago w/ my 19 yr old. It wasn’t fun. They have lessons to learn at that age that can be difficult to teach, remain calm about and follow through with. Tough love, one could say. And tough it certainly can be. My rule is, if you‘re in school full time, no rent required. But if you‘re not, we‘re discussing room and board. He didn’t like it. He bitched and said none of his friends have to pay that or pay a bill in their parents homes etc. etc. I listened. I put my foot down. He moved out. It was tough to watch him leave, however he’s doing just fine and we get along great. It’s brought on an additional component of maturity that I must say I’m pretty impressed with.
      How do you get them to pay rent? Sit down with your adult child and in detail, show them the bills. Explain what it costs to run a household. They need to learn these realities to live right later anyway and there’s no time like the present. Money is a VERY important, if not one of the MOST important things you ever educate your kids on. My parents did not do this even though they have tons of it and I struggled for years trying to learn it elsewhere, making many mistakes that could easily have been prevented.
      I wish you luck with your situation. happy




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      Jenz ~ wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • ps- Keep in mind, if they don’t pay rent at home, they always seem more than willing to pay it elsewhere. haha  Interesting how they often opt to move out. lol




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • I agree 100% with Jenz. My youngest daughter was much like Jenz’s son. Now that she is out on her own she has figured out her budget, what she can pay and when to pay it.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • BTW I know there are some who think it’s mean that we make our children pay. But I think  teaching responsibility far outweighs anything else. I love my children so much that I want them to be able to take care of themselves in this hard life.




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      La Shawn Henderson wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • Your right Vikki I say welcome to the REAL WORLD. They can’t wait to grow up so why should they wait to pay rent and do the real grown up things.




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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • Jenz, Vikki, LaShawn I totally agree with you all. My daughter at the age of 20 thought she knew it all and gave me and my hubby the blues living at home with us she didn’t want to listen to listen or follow house rules let alone pay a bill or two, then she had the nerve to eat up all our food we would buy for the house but then would go buy her personal stock and hide it for only her Consumption. She began rebelling so I told her either she straighten up and follow the rules or she could leave she opt to leave that was 4 years ago she ended up having to come back home after seeing that no matter where she went there were rules and bills to be paid, NO ONE is going to let you live for FREE!!! so she humbled herself and got it together but not until after she found out she was pregnant with my g-baby, but the lesson was learned now she is as humble as can be, and doing well on her own.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • I agree with Janwoo on the part where she should bring her own supplies or contribute to the pot.happy

       Have a jar sitting by the door and let her know when she comes over that she needs to add money to the Jar depending on how much she uses at your house and what she eats and computer time, laundry.  

      When I was living at home and already graduated from high school, my mom and step-dad charged me rent, It wasn’t alot but they wanted to teach me responcibilty.




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      Karyn Olson wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • I am lucky when it comes to this cause my eldest lives with me and she pays rent and helps with the grocery bill...she does not make much money so I am a little slacker when it comes to the utilities...but she has been doing this since was able to work and make her own money...now a days it is easier to have her continue to live at home and help with the expenses...I only ask one thing from her and that is no boys over for hanky panky...and she respects me enough to follow that rule...




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Jul 31, 2009
    • When my oldest was living with me I absolutely made him pay rent...not much because he wasn’t making alot...but $50.00 a week which went mainly for all the food he consumed. He didn’t like it one bit that I made him pay rent but I told him he better get used to it because he would be paying rent anywhere else...and alot more than what I was charging him. I agree that this teaches them responsibility and being responsible will help them greatly in life. He has since moved out and is working, paying rent and utilities and taking care of his two year old son. happy




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      Carine Nadel wrote Aug 2, 2009
    • our daughter and future (at the time) son-in-law were told that it was time they helped out-they were actually earning more than my husband & I and told them if they were old enough to earn the money and get married, they could help out financially.

      Pretty much did the same w/ our son when his fiance moved in.  

      One was horrified to be told that rent wasn’t an option since they had lived “in the room all my life”

      The other said “I was planning on starting to pay and help out, so this is perfect timing”

      same parents, same circumstances, different personalities.




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      Marilyn09 wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • Wow- I feel bad for missing all this great advice until now.  Thank you everyone for you input.

      We decided.. that we will bring it up to her more seriously this time

       It was her idea to spend her paychecks and move into her car. If she needs clean clothes she can take them to the laundrymat. If she needs to use the computer - she can go to the library- if she needs to use the phone she can get one where she can buy minutes. If she wants to watch TV she can buy her own portable TV.  (since she gave hers (christmas present from us)away to an ex bf) Shes complaining about her car using up the battery and we are going to tell her to think of it as the power bill.

      We are going to meet this Saturday and we are going to tell her that “her room” is not her room anymore it is the guest room.  

      Thanks again for all this input.




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