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Scenario: You‘re out shopping with your girlfriend, the two of you are hungry and decide to stop in at the local pizza shop, as you enter the pizzaria you see your neighbor who is married hugged up with another woman. You‘re shocked because you just saw his wife and she said hubby was at work. What do you do? Would you say anything to him or just keep walking? Would you let the cat out of the bag to the wife?

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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • For me I personally wouldn’t want to be in the shoes of the guy or his wife for the matter, but I think I’d just keep walking just knowing I’ve lost all respect and trust for him.worried




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      Angela 'Cocco' Williams wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I think I would just keep walking as well. Its not that I wouldnt want to say something to her but it kind of depends on my relationship with her. I find that sometimes people try to make you think that the grass on their side of the fence is green when in actuality it is brown with poop when you get real close. They just lie sometimes to keep up a persona for people. If we were close and she asked me if I noticed or saw anything then I would be honest. Some people wouldnt believe it anyway if they walked up on it themselves. Just to keep their own sanity they would justify why their husband was in that situation and then I would be left out in the cold looking like a busy body.




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      Taniar wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I’d tell her he was married and if she said she new...I’d say great...two pigs belong together.

      Then I’d take a picture with my cell phone and tell his wife.

      happy luckily I have not come across this situation happy




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      Mztracy wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Well, knowing me, I would go up to the table and said hey, what’s up!!?? I have been meaning to call xxxx, how is she doing?? All the while staring at the hooker he was with. lol
      I would then probably ask her, ‘And you are?‘tongue out




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      Linni wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • i would REALLY love to say something, but like Cocco and Neicy, id walk past..




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      Linni wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • lol.. Tracy! THATS what i would be dying to do on the inside!




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      Mztracy wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Linni, I think you would! You go girl! estatic




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      Linni wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • lol... you and anyone else who knows me, knows i say it like it is...and i would still try to walk past. lol




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      UK Girl wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • OMG – have you been listening to my calls and reading my emails – this happened to my close friends the other day – they were both in Paris with work and had seen a friend of theirs Paula the day before and she said her husband was working in Germany on a big IT project when they asked how Jeff her husband was.

      Next day they are in the Marais district which is where the fashion wholesalers are and is very much like Soho ...... there is Jeff enjoying a coffee and croissant with his paw on a woman's thigh young enough to be his daughter – my friend Helen was right in his face "So Jeff, not in Germany on a big IT project and whose this your pawing your niece – or just a playmate?" My other friend Jane said he was just red in the face and stammering and said the classic "it's not what you're thinking" so those two being divorced and cheated on just pulled up chairs and said "so tell us while we have a coffee"  

      Apparently he did a complete assassination on Paula so they had thier coffee and Jane said you have to confess to her or we will tell her ...... we are waiting to hear tonight when he gets home if he is confessing because knowing Helen she will tell her ......




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      Mzd3 wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I would walk by, but look him in the eye so he knows I know. As far as telling his wife, it would depend on how close a friend she is. It would be hard not to tell her...




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      Linni wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Ohhhhhhhh Vicki! hopefully he makes the right decision! keep us posted! lol
      i feel sorry for his wife though




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      UK Girl wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Whats upsetting is Paula supported and funded her husband Jeff with his business all through university everything - let me say that man would be nowhere without her - thats what has upset us the most - if he does and she knows she has the girl gang to help her through .....

      I’m so glad Helen didn’t right hook him with her handbag




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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • ohhhh WOW! Z WOW Z‘er UKGirl that is a kick in the head. Please keep us posted on the end result of this.




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      Mztracy wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • my kind of girls UK!! tongue out




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      Linni wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • estatictongue out




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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • That is something. I remember years ago when I was in my mess I was at a night club with some friends and ran into my very best gilrfriends husband, he was out with another woman he was so shocked to see me that he hadto leave the place, I never spoke a word to him we just stood there looking at each other and he knew what I was feeling they left to this day I never told her because I didn’t want to be the one to tell her that she was married to a cheating dog well years have passed and they are to this day still married but he got his act together and we‘re all still friends.happy




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      Janet Wooley wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • This did happen to me, only it was not a neighbor it was a friend of mine. I went to an Italian restaurant that I’d never been to, walked in and there is Mr. Jerk w/a hooker looking woman. I did not say anything to him but sat at a table where he and I had to look at each other. I looked him straight in the eye and gave him the “look“. I had a really hard time trying to figure out if I should tell my friend or what I should do. When I finally decided to tell her, Mr. J spoke to her before I had a chance to and he told her the “woman” he was with was a client. My eyes got as big a saucers and I said oh really? and you believe him? She said why wouldn’t I? I trust him. I said well if you consider clients people pawing each other then she must have been a client. My friend got so mad at me. I left and did not talk to her for awhile. I heard they were getting a divorce and called her. Iended up going to her house and she apologized for not believing me. Apparently Mr. J had been doing this along time and she even knew about it but did not know what to do.




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Janet I would have done the same. Let him know I’m there and I see him and what he is doing. Then let him tell his wife since he knows the cat’s out of the bag




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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I would say to myself, “this is NONE of my business whatsoever”

      Then, just to see him squirm, I’d probably walk over and say hi and chat a moment.




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      Good2bme wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • It depends on how well I knew him.  Some men act really aggressive when caught in situations like that. For the most part, I would at least walk by and let my presence be known so that he knew I saw him.  

      Love your reply Mztracy!




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      Marilyn09 wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I do like imagining...  If we did not catch each others eyes. I would act like “I know nothing”
      But it is funner imagining that I would go up and say “hey, I just talked to your wife on the phone, she said you were at work, whatcha doing here?“.  estatic




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      Frannie1964 wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I would have said I would just pretend like I didn’t see anything, But! the outspoken part of me would have came out.
      I would walk up to him and say” Well Hi neighbor, How are you? Hows your wife doing? and then I would look at the other woman and say, Oh! Are you a friend of his wife’s?

      Then I would made sure he knew I was on my way home and for him to tell his wife hello for me, then i would say, well If I see her before you do, I will just say Hello anyway. Ok Bye!estatic




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      Deanna Moon wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Wow Fran, that would be the best thing to do, I would do the same thing!estatic  However, if it’s just a neighbor who I’m not really friends with I would just eyeball him and smirk as I walked by, giving him that look of “Yeah your caught and now you’ll have to wonder if I’m going to tell your wife“..but I wouldn’t, unless she was a close friend and already suspected something..I do not like to be the bearer of the cheating news, as it usually backfires at some point, then your friend ends up resenting you for telling her, and gets mad at you..  I’d hint around a bit first, put my feelers out to gauge their relationship, then make subtle hints and possibly tell her casually that “Oh, I just saw your husband with a woman at wherever, is she a friend of his?




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      UK Girl wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Well Jeff came home from Germany / aka Paris and confessed to Paula – this woman is not the first and he said it was serious – his reason was Paula had been neglecting him!
      Yes, Paula might have been she has built his business and she has won him all his contracts and she runs his office and home..... He told Paula that he knew Helen would say something so he just thought it would be easier to confess.
      Jeff is with his ladieeee friend in her tiny flat and Helen and Jane are staying with Paula this weekend – they went over at 2am this morning.

      So we are all having lunch and helping her out – this is going to cost the buffoon dearly in terms of business and home as Paula can prove it was her – so Jeff I can't keep it in my pants could end up a mere employee of his wife .....Not a co director.

      Paula has suspected for a while but didn’t know what to do - now she has support and that idiot out of her life




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      Kmarie wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I would have just gone about my business if he saw me fine if not, but some men can be agressive. I know someone that a man hit in the parking lot for confronting him would loose respect but keep on going. i also know someone who saw a friend’s husband, wnet to the wife and discovered that her thoguhts were out of sight out of mind, as long as it was not in her face she did not care. After that I have decided just deal with me and not second guess.




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      Coachmombabe wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Are we talking about a close friend? Or acquaintance? I am pretty good friends with the husbands of my close friends, and I’d have no problem walking up to the table and simply saying “What’s going on?” It would be very clear what I was asking.  

      Then, like Vicki’s friends, I would give the ultimatum, “You tell her or I will“. I wouldn’t stand by and not tell my friend if I knew she had cancer and needed treatment, and I wouldn’t let her believe a lie about her marriage either.

      Of course, I couldn’t eat after that, and I’d have my heart pounding in my throat for 2 days!




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      Angell Villafañe wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Wow that is scandalous!! Well knowing me, I would have walked right up to him and said a nice big “hello...how is your wife doing?” Then watch him get all nervous...lol! estatic




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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I didn’t read the other comments so if this is a repeat I’m sorry!
      I would walk up to the person and just say a friendly casual hello. And also stick around for some small talk. Chances are the other woman doesn’t know the guy is married but will figure it out soon enough by his squirming. Of course I would also introduce myself to the friend too.
      And then I would wait and see if the guy confesses or breaks it off.




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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Aug 9, 2009
    • If this was a REALLY good friend I would try to stay unnoticed. I would then visit with her awhile to get a feel for the state of their marriage in her mind to see if I should tell her. If I felt like I should tell her I would give her my opinion as to the best way to “STICK IT” to this guy financially before he knew what hit him.

      • I think this is what I would do without having an actual person in mind.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Aug 9, 2009
    • P.S.

      Vicki, I hope your friend Paula has an amazing future life.
      AND I hope he gets the woman he deserves!!!!!! lol




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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 10, 2009
    • I agree with Coach...if the friendship between myself and my friend’s hubby is close, then he would have me sitting at the table asking a multitude of questions...otherwise most likely I would pass by, make sure he catches me glancing and then go home and sending an e-mail to his wife with the news...no woman (or man) deserves not to know the truth and I would pray that if my hub did that, that the person who found him with another would tell me.




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