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ok gals.....heres another deilemma of mine.........what or how do we handle toxic children.....adult children who seem to not bring anything to the table, but still live with you and pay a small portion of rent.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 3, 2009
    • There was a time that I had to move back  home with my mom. She did not expect me to pay rent since she knew that I was trying to save money. She did however expect me to help pay a portion of utilities and food. I did all the cleaning and cooking while I was there. It was a huge help.
      So now that my kids are older I expect the same from them. And the options have been discussed if they don’t comply.
      I would gladly give/do anything for my children with the exception of not teaching them to be respectful (of my home and the opportunity to live there) and responsible (to understand about paying bills timely). So when they get paid they know they have to pay some (I think $50 per month is cheap) and they have to help around the house even if I don’t work. It just is!




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 3, 2009
    • If they are saving money to get on their feet and move out on their own, then you can know there is light at the end of the tunnel. If there is a lot of spending going on; clothes, gadgets, electronics, new cars, nights out on the town - then you‘re being taken advantage of and an ultimatum may be in order.

      We‘re doing this right now. My stepdaughter has come and gone - never paid a dime however. Barely holds down a job. If there wasn’t a grandchild in the picture she would have been gone a long time ago. But we‘re keeping an eye on the situation and being honest with her that this will need to resolve itself and she needs to get on her feet and move on.




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Sep 3, 2009
    • thanks so much..........at some point I would like to be on MY own and just worrry about me at 52. I expect this to cause quite a ruckus as change is never easy....




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Sep 4, 2009
    • also I hav to say that if I could work on my confrontation issues and JUST ASK for what I need, I would probably hav much better luck.....thanks to all you great gals!!




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