Do you pay your children for getting good grades? Do you think it’s a good idea? My daughter is doing really well and I want to encourage her, but not sure if money is the right way to go.
I used incentives - such as TV in her room or mobile phone or bike etc; so she had a goal .....
I have never paid my children for their grades. I am of the belief that doing well in school is a responsibility, not a job. My children understand that i am much more likely to say “yes” to things if they are holding up their responsibilities...priveleges are earned and maintaining ones’ responsibilities is a perfect way to earn them.
Now, my in-laws...they are another story altogether. After report cards come, my in-laws show up with an envelope. It doesn’t contain much, just enough for them to enjoy a movie and popcorn...but it’s their way of say, “job well done.”
I’ve known many kids whose parents put out a ridiculous amount or money for good grades. When i was in school, I knew one girl who made hundreds of dollars at report card time!
I do not pay for good grades either but do give him more priveleges when he is keeping things done , and am more apt to say yes when he needs money to go out and have fun with his friends.
I do sometimes...$1 for A’s...LOL...I know it’s not much, and PE doesn’t count...half the time they forget to mention it...so it really isn’t a big deal at our house, they know education and good grades are important to me,so it’s almost a non issue. My aunt & uncle did that with their kids, it backfired on them...incentives and privilages are a better way to go.
I don’t have children, but I remember when I was a kid and I got good grades which mind you wasn’t very often when I did, my mom use to either take me shopping and said i can pick out something I wanted, nothing expensive but a little something for me or as I got older and got good grades she would let me stay up later then usuall.
My parents promised 100 dollars to any kid who got straight “A“s.
My sister was the only one of us who did. She was 14 at the time.
She promptly went out and bought herself a typewriter.
“I’ll need it for term papers in high school“.
My mom was speechless.
Why pay a kid for something that is expected of them?
I never paid my kids for good grades either. It was a responsibility. They were given special rewards for good grades as an appreciation for doing well, but not paid. I, too didn’t feel it right to pay them for something that was expected of them.
I’m with Daphne on this.... it‘a responsibility....theirs!
When they got old enough to drive the rule was maintain 3.0 or higher average and I would sign off on drivers training. They also had to keep that 3.0 or higher if they wanted to be able to continue to drive.
I see nothing wrong with incentives...whether it’s money or new clothes or a video games, etc. I’ve done it with both of my boys. My youngest son is 17 and I have told him I will pay for driving lessons for him if he gets decent grades. I want to use that as an incentive for him to get his grades up...he struggles with school so I am looking for ways to motivate him and I know he wants to get his license. But I told him driving is a priviledge that has to be earned. As a single mom I do what works for both of us and incentives seem to work.