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Bear with me here as I am going to vent a little!  Does anyone else here feel overwhelmed?  Lately I feel like too much is going on and I am basically just surviving the days and not doing really well at any one thing.  The economy has taken it’s toll on us - I’m in real estate and my husband is in construction.  I can’t seem to lose weight, my youngest son hates school and I’m still trying to get him settled with an online school.  I co-own a real estate company and I’m the broker so I’m trying to make a business run.  My ex and the father of my two older boys committed suicide six weeks ago and three weeks ago my oldest son accidentally shot himself.  Thank God he’ll be OK.  I can’t even get the energy to clean the house or just do a load of dishes.  All I want to do is just sit and really do nothing.  Top it off with my birthday in two days and I am feeling way older than 42.  Please tell me there are other women out there trying to juggle a lot of things and feeling overwhelmed with it all.  Any ideas, suggestions or thoughts would be really appreciated!  Thank you!

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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • You are totally legitimate to feel overwhelm with all that happened around you lately.  Please give yourself a break and tell yourself it is okay to feel that.  Your mind and body need the rest and recuperate.  It can be a situational and minor depression sneak in on you.  Or change of hormones.  

      I suggest you see your MD as well as therapist.  Exercise, breath, rest, let go of guilt, let go of high expectation and big demand on your own self.  

      I am sure other fabbies have more suggestions to you.  Hang in there.  It will be alright .




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • You have good cause to feel overwhelmed. There is so much on your plate. I know that many of us in our age group have life issues pile on in a suffocating way. I wish I had answers, I wish I had a way to say the right thing to offer comfort. They say that we‘re not given more than we can handle but honestly I feel you must either be one very strong woman or some kind of mistake was made and you got your burdens plus someone else’s by accident. We‘re supposed to be winding down in our 40’s and getting all geared up for retirement, aren’t we? Life has a way of slapping us upside the heads and I agree that it is indeed overwhelming.

      I hope and pray that all of this is short lived for you and the clearing is very near around the corner.

      Wishing you well and sending good thoughts
      Cynthia




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      Klha wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • Thank you to everyone for your wonderful thoughts and comments.  It helps just knowing that other people go through times like this as well. All of my friends are younger than I am so it’s comforting to hear from other fabulous women over 40.  It helps to know I’m not in this alone!




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      Jenz ~ wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • Honey you are juggling ALOT right now. What can we do to help? Goodness....
      I also may be able to relate to some of what you are experiencing with the suicide factor. I’ve been through that as well.
      If there is any possible way for your darling self to take a few days to go do nothing in a serene place of some kind, PLEASE do so. You will be ok, but need some serious ‘You time.’
      I hope you are able to take it. happy
      We are always here also and it is always ok for you to vent.
      Many hugs!!
      Stay amazing,
      Jenz




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      3sa wrote Oct 22, 2009
    • You are obviously stronger than you think....just being able to write and share this is a step in the right direction.  Time will heal the pain, and change is the only thing that’s constant in our lives so look up and stay strong because your future is bright.

      I’m sorry about your loss and really glad your son is ok..thank God for that blessing!

      Rest, relaxation, and don’t try to do everything...so the house is dirty, or the laundry isn’t done...life marches on...so do it...sit do nothing...it’s not a crime.

      Happy Birthday ...and as good as you look...don’t worry about if you feel older right now cause you GOT EVERYBODY FOOLED ...cutie!  You will overcome.




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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Oct 22, 2009
    • Sometimes when we feel overwhelmed we want to throw up our hands, or hide under a blanket. It is a normal way to feel. The way I handle stress best is to deal with (1) thing at a time. That is do‘able. Make a list of priorites and start with No#1 until you feel it is completed, or you are at least comfortable with where it is at the moment.
      Your child’s education and your job are two very high priorites and may need to be done at the same time...just make a list of what you will accomplish THAT DAY only. You may find your list for the day isn’t as bad as you anticipated.  

      I really do wish you the very,very best!!!

      And.... don’t forget that your Birthday is YOUR day...put your entire list of things to do in an imaginary box and lock it tight for the day!




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Oct 22, 2009
    • We all have more than we can handle at some point in our lives. I’ve had my share the past couple years. You have to try and stay positive and take one thing at a time. I am sorry about your ex and glad your son will be okay. It may be a good idea to see your doctor or a therapist if you feel things are really our of control and you cannot get a grip on them. I am also in real estate and my husband is in construction so I know what you are going through there. It will get better and it already has in some cases. Take some time for yourself!happy




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      Rrl965 wrote Oct 22, 2009
    • So sorry to hear you are going through all this! I truly feel for you. I had a terrible couple of years. I had left an abusive man after 10 years and he tried to lie about me to get primary custody of our two boys, I found an apartment only to have it burn to the ground one weekend when I was away. I lost my job, an elderly lady crashed into and totaled my only vehicle, and worst of all my father and mother were in a terrible car accident which left my father dead.  My mother came out of it with 3 cracks in her pelvic bone, and had to be cared for- for a month or so.  I couldn’t possibly believe all this was happening! It’s like one thing right after another!  

      The most important thing I did was try to stay POSITIVE through all of it.  This sounds crazy, but I KNEW God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle and it WAS all happening for a reason.  There are no coincidences! Everything has a time and season and I tried to learn from each and every thing that happened:

      My father lived a long and great life-it was just his time.  My strained relationship with my mother and one of my sisters disolved into loving close relationships.  I learned strength and especially perseverence from my ex! (I still am dealing with him, but I try to think good thoughts about him changing his ways...) I ended up meeting someone I’m still with and found an even better and bigger apartment in the town where my kids father also lives so we are all closer to their schools and each other. I decided to go back to school, am loving it, and my kids are so proud of me! Believe me.......IT DOES GET BETTER! Doors close, and others open, things happen we have no control over (and aren’t suppose to), It’s all in how you PERCEIVE it that’s going to make or break you!!  Stay on the positve side and try to learn from what happens, feel it deep inside, then LET IT GO!  You’ll be just fine! You take care of yourself-you may need to be the stability and love your babies need, but take time for YOURSELF also(Think of it as being Self-full not selfish)!  I wish you Love, Light, and many Blessings!

      Robin




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