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The reason for the break-up of my marriage is complacated, but at the same time I know that the woman that I blame will be a part of my childrens lives.  At one time we were friends.  Could you be friends with this person and treat them with respect?

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      UK Girl wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I think the words that springs to mind are "civilly cordial" you're not going to clutch her to your bosom but you can't call her a w***e ...... so you have to tread a fine line and be respectful to yourself.




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      Mzd3 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I could not be “friends with ” her but could fake being decent for the sake of your kids.....




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      Mztracy wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • depends on which position the woman is in.

      if i am the x, i’d be cordial in front of my kids...just do not run in to me in a dark alley. tongue out

      if i am the other woman, just deal with it and be cool around her as of course she will not be liking you.




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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • It would be very hard, but for the children I would hope that I would have the strength to be sociable when needed.

      Tressy, I love Reba!




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      Janet Wooley wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I don’t think Friend is where I would be but respectful for the kids sake because anything negative will come back to haunt you. Be the bigger person and that is a good example for the kids. That will last a life time.




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      Marie66 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • When I first got divorced my ex’s girlfriend couldn’t NOT stand me, from what I understand she still doesn’t (my ex and her aren’t even together anymore).. I got to her with kindness.. I was civil with her in front of my boys (at the time).. DON‘T let her get to you..  

      I agree with Janet.. Show her that YOU are the bigger person..




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      Zena Coleman wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • If only it was as easy as Reba makes it look, Good luck I’m sure you figure it all out.




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      3sa wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Living well and happy is the best revenge, Lady go on with your life and and well....he is her problem now.  

      You don’t have to be friends with her or even speak.  Just deal with him and the kids.  In social settings if she is there, pretend she is invisible unless she start talking to you, then keep it short one word answers and a smile.  Then carry on with your life!




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      Venus 7000 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • You don’t have to be her friend.  Just try to be civil.  Move on with your life.  It all gets easier with time.




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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I agree with all the answers!estatic




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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Renee I have been there. I was ‘friends’ with the neighbor while married to my 1st hubz. Well just to keep it simple she coveted thy neighbors spouse...MINE! If our marriage wasn’t already in trouble she couldn’t have weaseled her way in tho.
      So since I had nothing to be ashamed of I always conducted myself with the best interest of my children in mind. No I didn’t make nice but I did make sure I set a positive example for my kids.
      Now 18 yrs later I don’t think about it. We have had gatherings together and while she isn’t my BFF I do make a point of being nice.

      Remember now it’s not about you, him or her. It’s only and will always be about your kids. Focus on that:)




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      Allthingsnatural wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Be friends with her, no way, nor my ex-husband either, but in due respect for the kids, I would just put up a good front as I wouldn’t want to involve them in what had happened. Two of my best friends had that to happen to them. One of them is going through a divorce over the situation and another woman broke up my other friend’s marriage and for the daughter’s sake, she doesn’t bring it up, but she is in no way friends with this woman and it remains the same with her ex-husband, but they do all get together at times and all remain civil




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      Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • On behalf of my children, I would force myself to smile, act like I am doing fantastic and not give this woman the opportunity to see me brokenhearted or ticked off.  I would be civil, but I would not be her friend,nor would I want to be her friend.

      Respect?  How could I respect a woman who willingly got involved with a married man?  This one is tough, especially with the intense emotions of a marriage coming to an end.  

      The best thing that I could do is behave in a civil manner and tolerate the unpleasant circumstances.




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      Jo46 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I love all the comments that I have read here but Tressys yours stands out-“your a Fab Girl now and you can do anything“!   This may actually become my mantra!!!!!!!!!!!!




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      Samib wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I feel for you, and I’m sorry you are going through this difficult time. I have a divorce in my past, and know that this will be difficult for you.  Take care of yourself.




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      Venus 7000 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I agree with Term. But in this case the other woman was a friend.  It would take some effort to be civil to such a person.  

      Tracy you are a hoot!!estaticestatic




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