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How would you handle being called the home wrecker by the ex when in fact you are not the home wrecker, she had an affair before you were even knew the family?

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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Dec 1, 2009
    • Divorce is a death of the family structure as it is known.  It is common whenever there is any kind of death, that the blame needs to be placed on someone and something.  The new wife is an easy target, especially if there are children involved.

      You can’t control what comes out of the mouths of others.  So you can learn to build some good protection around yourself.  The research based fact is that a third person cannot break up a healthy marriage.  The reality is there is no such thing as a home wrecker.  

      The name calling is petty and small.  Ignoring it, not giving it any power, is the pathway to release from the suffering.

      You can stand tall in knowing who you are and who you are not.

      All the best, Mary




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      Lisaregenia wrote Dec 1, 2009
    • I would ignore it, I just can’t waste my time or energy on negative emotions.  Life is short, enjoy it!




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      Buckeyebren wrote Dec 1, 2009
    • I would consider the source. Some people just are not worth wasting time or effort on. If it happened before I had anything to do with the family, then I would not bother myself with it. That is someone else’s problem, not mine.




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      Kmarie wrote Dec 2, 2009
    • I would not dignify it with a response. You know your truth and somethings are only made worst by responding to them versus just leaving it alone. She is entitled to be hurt and you are entitle to be hurt by false accusations. Yet it will always differ. It is hard for people to find fault with themselves




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      Tuliplady wrote Dec 2, 2009
    • Shake it off, like water off a duck.  Does her opinion matter to you?




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