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If your mate doesn’t satisfy you in the bedroom, would you guide him by showing him the things you like or don’t like or do you think that’s being too aggressive?

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It is important that you take a proactive position in your sex life, because if you don’t, who will?

As young people, most of us fumble around in the sexual arena, learning about pleasing our partners by trial and error.  However, unless you have a communicative partner, read a lot of sexual technique books, or ask for guidance from your lover, it is likely that you will carry your sexual ineptitude into your adult relationships.  

It is quite possible that your mate is a member of this group.  Communicating your needs is therefore very important.  But you have to do it in such a way that you don’t risk deflating his ego (or other anatomical accessories).  I suggest that you tell him that you’ve been having a recurrent, sexy dream in which he is the star.  Tell him that just thinking about it gets your juices flowing.  Then suggest that the real thing would probably be even better than the fantasy.  At this point, he’ll likely be willing to hear any instruction you give him, as you attempt to try and recreate your dream.  He’ll understand that naturally you will have to guide him.  After all, how could he possibly know the specific details of your nocturnal fantasies?  Under these circumstances, you can now instruct him in vivid detail - and be as verbally graphic as you can.  Your dirty talk will be sure to arouse him to the point that he’ll be “putty in your hands“...or any other body part you so choose.  Guide him patiently with moans and naughty words of encouragement.  Then, after you finish, and thank him for making your fantasy come true, tell him you want to do it all again...every chance you get.  You‘re likely to get a big smile from him - and a welcome response from another of his appendages, as well!


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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Anonymous wrote Jul 27, 2008
    • definately!  how else will they know what you want!  communication is key, even under the sheets!




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      David M. Matthews wrote Jul 27, 2008
    • It is important that you take a proactive position in your sex life, because if you don’t, who will?

      As young people, most of us fumble around in the sexual arena, learning about pleasing our partners by trial and error.  However, unless you have a communicative partner, read a lot of sexual technique books, or ask for guidance from your lover, it is likely that you will carry your sexual ineptitude into your adult relationships.  

      It is quite possible that your mate is a member of this group.  Communicating your needs is therefore very important.  But you have to do it in such a way that you don’t risk deflating his ego (or other anatomical accessories).  I suggest that you tell him that you’ve been having a recurrent, sexy dream in which he is the star.  Tell him that just thinking about it gets your juices flowing.  Then suggest that the real thing would probably be even better than the fantasy.  At this point, he’ll likely be willing to hear any instruction you give him, as you attempt to try and recreate your dream.  He’ll understand that naturally you will have to guide him.  After all, how could he possibly know the specific details of your nocturnal fantasies?  Under these circumstances, you can now instruct him in vivid detail - and be as verbally graphic as you can.  Your dirty talk will be sure to arouse him to the point that he’ll be “putty in your hands“...or any other body part you so choose.  Guide him patiently with moans and naughty words of encouragement.  Then, after you finish, and thank him for making your fantasy come true, tell him you want to do it all again...every chance you get.  You‘re likely to get a big smile from him - and a welcome response from another of his appendages, as well!




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      Lisa VM wrote Jul 29, 2008
    • Communication is what makes the world go round,,, love just sounds better..... LOL Talk to your partner then drag him/her off to nearest sex shop and buy some toys!




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      Cathy B wrote Aug 26, 2008
    • Are you kidding? Guide, guide, guide!




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      Anonymous wrote Sep 21, 2008
    • Speak up. when I was first married my husband and I had a conversation about orgasms and he looked at me and said you have to tell me what you like and don’t. what makes you tick. after that conversation our sex life is only getting better and better after 17 years since that conversation took place. So, speak up.




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      Anonymous wrote Sep 22, 2008
    • ok, heres the thing.........NEVER stop talking about sex to your spouse,friends,etc......and I must add.............do alot of talking while you are in the moment as things will never be the same!  talk to each other, encourage each other, be his or her cheerleader.  by the way, talk nasty once, and your sure to reap benefits!




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