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Okay so I am thinking about going to an online dating site. Does anyone have any advice on which one? Please share your experience

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      Dana Arcuri wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • Here are the best suggestions that I think are important when considering joining a dating website:

      1)  Honesty is the best policy. When filling out your profile information and posting a photograph of yourself, be absolutely honest, use an updated photograph and only share information about yourself that you are comfortable with sharing.  

      2)  NEVER give anyone your address, place of employment or any personal information, no matter how wonderful or trustworthy they appear to be.  

      3)  ONLY meet men in public locations, such as a coffee shop, restaurant, local mall, museum or bookstore.

      4)  ALWAYS drive your own vehicle & NEVER have anyone pick you up at home or work for the first few dates.  (Better to weed out the “weirdo’s” then accidentally end up in a very unpleasant or dangerous situation.)

      5)  Make a list of serious priorities that you need to consider when you are meeting new men online.  (For example:
      If you have strong political or religious beliefs, it is best to choose individuals who will share similar views.)

      6)  Clearly determine what your motive & purpose is for dating on this new website.  (This question may become a big topic of discussion!)

      7)  Be honest and true to yourself:  What this means is to only date the individuals who truly match your interests, views, beliefs and hobbies.  Do not “short change” yourself by caving in and going out with guys who are extremely NOT your type.  Save yourself the time, money, frustration and aggravation by weeding out the men who are a poor match.

      8)  If you have kids, do NOT permit anyone to meet your kids, until you have been dating for at least one month or longer.  

      9)  First impressions do count!  How do you want your dates to perceive you?  The way we dress, whether very classic, very sexy, conservative, trendy or sloppy does leave a huge impression on how other’s judge us.  We may not believe that other’s judge us by what we wear or how we look, but as a professional in the beauty industry, how we dress does determine the type of men we attract.  

      10)  The most important thing about dating is to trust your inner “gut or intuition” about the men you meet.  If you sense danger, discomfort or anything negative, trust your inner instinct and QUICKLY MAKE A PROMPT EXIT.  

      Best wishes!




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      Trudy S wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • I used match.com back in the mid-90’s and it seemed pretty good....in fact I am married to a man I met through them and we have a son and a wonderful life together.

      My advice:

      1) - pay for the service - weeds out a lot of the weirdos.
      2) listen to your gut feelings...we have intuition for a reason. If something just doesn’t feel right...and yes you can tell even in an email...it probably isn’t.
      3)have fun, be honest, don’t pretend to be something you aren’t ....or you will get the same in return.

      Hope you find this helpful!




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      Kyah wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • Dana has the right idea.

      I belong to Mingle, Plenty of Fish (which advertises on this site often), Tall Friends, My Yearbook and Interracial Friends. I have met a couple of guys from each site, and believe me, they didn’t  sweep me off my feet. I figure eHarmony would be the right site to start with because it has standards and a questionnaire that none of the others have.....

      I suppose money makes the difference.....




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      Myrna Perez wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • Use your better judgement when you meet someone online.  Now that said, I know a several people who are happily married to the person they met online.




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      Yana Berlin wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I know several people that have found their matches and are very happy.

      One from match.com

      one from eharmony.com

      4 from Jdate.com




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      Esther Bloom wrote Jan 21, 2010
    • You women are so awesome!!! I love this site Yanaheartheartheart It helps making decisions, that you aren’t sure of, so much easier. I never heard of jdate but i am going to look at them tonightestaticestaticestaticestatic




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Jan 23, 2010
    • its gonna definately be an adventure for you!!!  I am on PLENTY OF FISH  have visited match.com and eharmony..

      guys can be very nice or very ignorant.

      gotta weed em out for sure!




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      Megan50 wrote Feb 8, 2010
    • oh my goodness...online dating!  I think it is a total mine field.  I have not had much luck.  I have found most of the men I met from online dating to be very dishonest.  Eharmony is a lot of work and I think the most expensive so that seems to weed out the frivolous folks.  So here is my sad story...I met a guy online and we seemed to be MFEO.  2 months of writing, 1 month of phone chatting, 1st date in a very public place, we met at the symphony.  Lots of fun dates, we were both really into live music and second hand music and book stores.  We really liked the same movies.  No sex for another month, then no extended weekends for a bit. I was doing everything right and things were amazing.  Then he didn’t show up for a day we had planned together.  I couldn’t get him on the phone.  His work # went to voice mail every time I called it on Monday.  On Tuesday he finally called and said he had been sick.  It was my birthday.  He forgot.  We had a fight.  2 days went by without talking to him.  on Friday morning my cell phone rang.  I answered.  A woman asked is this Megan?  I say yes.  She asks, “do you know Tom Jones?” NHRN!!  I say yes.  She asks, Are you his girlfriend?  I say, who is calling please...because I think he must have been in an accident or is dead or something...and she says....“his girlfriend“,  From there my life turned into a really bad Lifetime movie for the next few weeks.




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      Trudy S wrote Feb 8, 2010
    • heartbreak




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      Ellegirl wrote Mar 4, 2010
    • E-harmoney from what I understand is the best. I’ve seen allot of successful relationships form. It seems to attract a higher quality of men then the others due to the  The “fluffy” romance and find a wife image they have.  The men seem to be more serious and truly looking for a future with someone.    

      good luck!




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